Yeah, she’s not the biggest asshole around. But she’s an asshole.
Psychie
I think it’s more that she’s *just* an asshole. Like, a lot of the other assholes are also threats in some way or another, meanwhile thus far her bark has had no real bite to it, even when she has wanted it to. She’s just a petty bully, and frankly kind of pathetic. She can’t actually *do* anything, because she does not wield any power, and attempting to act without power would go against her ego and self-image, so she won’t stoop to that, making her utterly toothless.
Decidedly Orthogonal
To crib from various writers:
Not all villains wear capes. Give her time.
A classic villain opposes the protagonist openly and creates surmountable problems, often made easier when they are revealed. A great villain works in shadow. Their involvement is never obvious or provable. They don’t end lives; they destroy them.
HueSatLight
My point is that villain and antagonist aren’t the same thing. Raidah is not a villain. Raidah holds grudges, she has ambitions, she has an immature attitude towards networking, she’s a jerk. These are all kind of ordinary, and things the protagonists in this story do too. They are not villainous, cape or not. If this antagonist is a villain, then our protagonists are greater villains.
Agreed! My hope is that this lets us see a new side of her — not to excuse or redeem her other behavior, just to make her a bit less one dimensional.
I Know Why the Mowed Lawn Screams
Very real and true! I think bare minimum I’ll just be grateful if Raidah is given more nuance and things to do even if she stays a noxious antagonistic force the entire time, but in all ways forever and ever I’m always secretly rooting for Raidah to have an MJF style face turn.
I Know Why the Mowed Lawn Screams
Also lmfao if you know you know, but if you know you KNOW you can tell that I haven’t caught up with AEW since 2022.
Sajuuk-Khar
I am also on this train! Raidah has a lot of unexplored potential, both to continue being kind of awful OR to change and turn face! As much as her last appearance I rolled my eyes pretty hard at her being the messenger, even as she was correct, I can’t say I’m ever tired of seeing Raidah, she’s interesting even when she’s nasty!
i do have a “what happens next” style amber icon that used to be my go-to, but this current one is just a sketch i did when i borrowed someone else’s ipad for a few hours to futz around with procreate
elebenty
I approve of your futzing skills. Er, sketching on borrowed hardware skills.
Oh yeah, totes! With the exception of one photo edit I did, most of my gravitar icons are just DOA fanart I’ve made throughout the years, albeit with most of them either not being published online or slightly altered to be better suited for a profile icon.
HueSatLight
It’s a lovely picture, and the caption and her expression made something click for me. I have an idea why she seems to have something against Dorothy more than just “In Sarah and Joyce’s orbit”.
I Know Why the Mowed Lawn Screams
This is a little late, but it’s very kind of you to say. Thank you!
I think that’s the thing when you say something positive, then negative, then positive to lessen the impact of the negative statement, making it easier to be accepted.
Li
Yes and then the joke is that the comment section today is gonna be a lot of mayo
aka white people like me being in our feelings about Asma and Raidah not being super nice to Joyce and Dorothy.
I THINK today we might be mostly on Asma and Raidah’s side, either bc we agree kissing at the protest being the front page story is BS, or bc we’re (as a group) more annoyed right now with the two of them generally…
But we (as a group) haven’t historically been great about the brown women in this comic being anything other than saccharinely pleasant. Like that is just a very true statement that you can verify for yourself by checking past comment sections. Doesn’t need to involve any conscious feelings, and Raidah at least IS an antagonist (unlike Asma and Roz and Lucy and…), but it’s a noticeable pattern.
Fuzzy
I think Roz is kind of an antagonist. Not to the degree of Raidah or the actual-really-bad antagonists, but she’s shown being in the wrong or mildly humiliated several times, and she’s — until quite recently — been at odds with the only cast who really interact with her, Joyce and Dorothy.
Li
Eh… she was only really directly an antagonist for Dorothy in her bid to become RA. I think it’s otherwise a stretch. Joyce and Joe even went to her for help in their most recent interactions!
Also, I think this might literally be the only instance of Raidah being onscreen and not being actively caustic, backhanded, or otherwise terrible. This is our only instance of her being a normal human being, reacting appropriately to Daisy’s Whackfoolery.
As far as I can tell, Raidah’s introduction to Sarah back in her flashback might also count. (Pre-Dana fallout of course)
She seems genuinely friendly and her commodifying/social climbing tendencies don’t seem to be present. Hell, she befriends Sarah and gives her solid advice, even though there’s not really anything Sarah can do for her socially.
Nah Raidah has a few strips where she’s fine. People just forget them, because they want to despise her. Raidah is a reasonable person she’s just a bit mean. Frankly this entire comment is probably closer to her than say Joyce
Look i have mild face blindness and terrible memory if i don’t see you and hear your at least semi regularly i am not gonna remenber your name. Unless uou arw a teacher in that case i am NEVER going to remenber your nsme or your face.
Actual full agreement. I can remember a person by sound and face, but name? Haaaaaaa nooooo. The times I’ve had to start a convo as “Hi, I remember i know you from X place with Y people, but I am atrocious with names, we bonded over our opinion for Z thing. Can I get your name again please?” so many nickles…
I have an uncle that is bassically a running joke with me that i can’t remember his name anytime i see him. (He separated from my aunt so i would pretty rarely see him so he just did not stick in my memory)
Ditto. I have the autism problem where my brain doesnt stop looking for connections, so instead of not recognising anyone, I recognise them everywhere even where they’re not. Unless someone has a really unique feature or I see them all the time I can’t tell whether or not someone with the same skin colour and face shape is them or not.
Word recall is also an issue, so even if I know someone’s name my brain doesn’t always recall it when I need it, or will substitute something with a weird connection (like if someone’s name is Jennifer I might think it’s Rachel because of the actor/character on friends).
Clif
I will probably remember your name. I will likely recognize your face. Without constant repetition, the two will not link to each other. As far as I know, I can’t blame autism.
Clif
This is why online interactions are great. Half the problem is gone.
Nymphie
Ive managed more than twice to go “urgh what is this guy doing” and only realising once theyre a meter from me that, oh, that was my dad. Last time was at the party the day before his wedding and my cousins thought i was joking whenni questioned why this guy was running from the other house to crash the party.
Now i at least have a TIA to blame for my brain being fuzzy, ive had several relatives i havent recognised and when realising im asking the name of someone ive known my whole life i want to bury myself in a hole
i literally cannot remember names to save my literal life. if i don’t read your name off a card and make an active conscious effort to memorize it i won’t remember it at all…
I misread that as names or feces and was very briefly concerned for why anyone *would* remember somebody by their feces until I realized that first e was an a
I am a cashier who winds up remembering quite a few peoples’ names and faces. Maybe due to that, I have a hard time getting what makes Asma so difficult, unless it’s just “this is a person performing a service, let me treat them more like set dressing than anything else”.
Most people just don’t read the name tags of employees. I don’t think it’s because we see them as lesser (most of the time) but it’s just the sort of things that easily slip from your mind.
Psychie
There’s also the fact that a lot of memory is context based, so there could easily be important information about someone, like their name, that gets locked to a specific context, so even if you recognize them when encountered outside of that context, you might not remember everything that matters, like their name.
Plus, most of the time when they are interacting with Asma, their focus isn’t on Asma, it’s on the function she is providing, which is to give them their mail. It isn’t really about dehumanizing people in service roles (for most people anyway, some people do indeed suck like that unfortunately) so much as socializing just not being where your attention lies when dealing with them.
I’m a delivery driver, I know a lot of people by their home address rather than their name or face. I might know the name associated with their address, I might know the face associated with their address, but broadly speaking I am more likely to know who someone is if I am informed of their address, at least within Bloomington. This has lead to some awkward moments where I’ve had to stop myself from blurting out somebody’s home address when meeting them in a different context, and some seriously awkward tinder matches where I’ve had to find delicate ways to suggest they replace one of their profile pictures because they inadvertently doxxed themselves by taking the pic on their porch with the house numbers visible because there’s only one street they could live on with a door like that, meaning their full home address is effectively visible on their tinder and I presume most women wouldn’t want that.
When I briefly worked for a pizza place, there were a number of regular customers that we knew by their orders rather than their names or faces. I’m sure there are plenty of equivalents in other professions as well.
It’s not just customers dehumanizing service workers, it goes both ways, because it’s rarely a malicious act and comes as a result of memory being reliant on attention, and when providing a service or having a service provided, your attention is generally on the service, not the person on the other end of it.
This is all kind of weird to me. It’s been a long time since I worked any kind of customer facing retail job, but when I did the last thing I cared about was even repeat customers remembering my name. Honestly weirded me out more if they did.
Obviously, be nice, be polite, don’t be an asshole, but it’s a job, not a social engagement.
Minivet
She’s a fellow student.
Astariel
She is a student, but she doesn’t live on the same floor with our main characters and doesn’t seem to share any classes with them. Aside from her job, she’s essentially a stranger to them.
493 thoughts on “Missing them”
I Know Why the Mowed Lawn Screams
??? This one is for me and the 3 other Raidah heads out there LFG !! ???
I Know Why the Mowed Lawn Screams
Also yessss its so good to see more of the Asma snark out on full force
NGPZ
right???
here, have an upvote before i crash at my PC
Lee
Love Asma for that.
HueSatLight
Raidah’s my favorite antagonist because she’s not a villain.
Bryy
She thinks she is.
She thinks she’s the most villainy villain.
But she is really. Really. Not.
BarerMender
Yeah, she’s not the biggest asshole around. But she’s an asshole.
Psychie
I think it’s more that she’s *just* an asshole. Like, a lot of the other assholes are also threats in some way or another, meanwhile thus far her bark has had no real bite to it, even when she has wanted it to. She’s just a petty bully, and frankly kind of pathetic. She can’t actually *do* anything, because she does not wield any power, and attempting to act without power would go against her ego and self-image, so she won’t stoop to that, making her utterly toothless.
Decidedly Orthogonal
To crib from various writers:
Not all villains wear capes. Give her time.
A classic villain opposes the protagonist openly and creates surmountable problems, often made easier when they are revealed. A great villain works in shadow. Their involvement is never obvious or provable. They don’t end lives; they destroy them.
HueSatLight
My point is that villain and antagonist aren’t the same thing. Raidah is not a villain. Raidah holds grudges, she has ambitions, she has an immature attitude towards networking, she’s a jerk. These are all kind of ordinary, and things the protagonists in this story do too. They are not villainous, cape or not. If this antagonist is a villain, then our protagonists are greater villains.
Li
I also really wanna like Raidah.
Which is another way of saying I already like her but I want to see more sides of her character.
Jon
Agreed! My hope is that this lets us see a new side of her — not to excuse or redeem her other behavior, just to make her a bit less one dimensional.
I Know Why the Mowed Lawn Screams
Very real and true! I think bare minimum I’ll just be grateful if Raidah is given more nuance and things to do even if she stays a noxious antagonistic force the entire time, but in all ways forever and ever I’m always secretly rooting for Raidah to have an MJF style face turn.
I Know Why the Mowed Lawn Screams
Also lmfao if you know you know, but if you know you KNOW you can tell that I haven’t caught up with AEW since 2022.
Sajuuk-Khar
I am also on this train! Raidah has a lot of unexplored potential, both to continue being kind of awful OR to change and turn face! As much as her last appearance I rolled my eyes pretty hard at her being the messenger, even as she was correct, I can’t say I’m ever tired of seeing Raidah, she’s interesting even when she’s nasty!
moon
woah what webcomic’s(?) art style is that amber(?) rendered in? or whatever it is
you have taste
KtBear
Glad you didn’t state what kind.
moon
hey now Good was implied 🙂
I Know Why the Mowed Lawn Screams
i do have a “what happens next” style amber icon that used to be my go-to, but this current one is just a sketch i did when i borrowed someone else’s ipad for a few hours to futz around with procreate
elebenty
I approve of your futzing skills. Er, sketching on borrowed hardware skills.
miri
there are more than one of us ??‼️
I Know Why the Mowed Lawn Screams
Always glad to see another Raidah enjoyer out in the wild.We might not be many but we’re here!
HueSatLight
Was that your fan-art of Raidah a few weeks ago? “I like to think I am more mature than most”
I Know Why the Mowed Lawn Screams
Oh yeah, totes! With the exception of one photo edit I did, most of my gravitar icons are just DOA fanart I’ve made throughout the years, albeit with most of them either not being published online or slightly altered to be better suited for a profile icon.
HueSatLight
It’s a lovely picture, and the caption and her expression made something click for me. I have an idea why she seems to have something against Dorothy more than just “In Sarah and Joyce’s orbit”.
I Know Why the Mowed Lawn Screams
This is a little late, but it’s very kind of you to say. Thank you!
Doctor_Who
Turnabout is fair play.
Lumino
Honestly, Asma has been consistently right every time I’ve seen her.
C.T Phipps
Dorothy DOES have strong cop energy.
Tan
She’s right and she should say it.
NGPZ
yes, this is the correct response.
will probably take a much needed break from the comments on this one
compliment sandwiches are one thing,
but honestly im not in the mood for sifting through mayo, boi 9-9
peace ✌?
PeaceVanish.gif
Mr D phone posting
Wait, no, what’s a compliment sandwich?
cbwroses
I think that’s the thing when you say something positive, then negative, then positive to lessen the impact of the negative statement, making it easier to be accepted.
Li
Yes and then the joke is that the comment section today is gonna be a lot of mayo
aka white people like me being in our feelings about Asma and Raidah not being super nice to Joyce and Dorothy.
I THINK today we might be mostly on Asma and Raidah’s side, either bc we agree kissing at the protest being the front page story is BS, or bc we’re (as a group) more annoyed right now with the two of them generally…
But we (as a group) haven’t historically been great about the brown women in this comic being anything other than saccharinely pleasant. Like that is just a very true statement that you can verify for yourself by checking past comment sections. Doesn’t need to involve any conscious feelings, and Raidah at least IS an antagonist (unlike Asma and Roz and Lucy and…), but it’s a noticeable pattern.
Fuzzy
I think Roz is kind of an antagonist. Not to the degree of Raidah or the actual-really-bad antagonists, but she’s shown being in the wrong or mildly humiliated several times, and she’s — until quite recently — been at odds with the only cast who really interact with her, Joyce and Dorothy.
Li
Eh… she was only really directly an antagonist for Dorothy in her bid to become RA. I think it’s otherwise a stretch. Joyce and Joe even went to her for help in their most recent interactions!
Megan
and Raidah’s eyes became three sizes smaller that day
Clif
Optimal chaos ensues.
Bittersweet
Omg I loved Hark! A Vagrant. I miss it so much.
Also, this strip made me laugh lol
Bittersweet
Also, I think this might literally be the only instance of Raidah being onscreen and not being actively caustic, backhanded, or otherwise terrible. This is our only instance of her being a normal human being, reacting appropriately to Daisy’s Whackfoolery.
Dawn
Her reaction was also mine when I first saw that newspaper headline.
Jon
As far as I can tell, Raidah’s introduction to Sarah back in her flashback might also count. (Pre-Dana fallout of course)
She seems genuinely friendly and her commodifying/social climbing tendencies don’t seem to be present. Hell, she befriends Sarah and gives her solid advice, even though there’s not really anything Sarah can do for her socially.
geno
Nah Raidah has a few strips where she’s fine. People just forget them, because they want to despise her. Raidah is a reasonable person she’s just a bit mean. Frankly this entire comment is probably closer to her than say Joyce
Nevermaker
“I know I have the body of a weak and feeble woman, but I have the heart and stomach of a king. AND THE WINGSPAN OF AN ALBATROSS!!!”
Clif
Backs away slowly
3oranges
“I don’t know why the gods protect you.”
Ray Radlein
well that explains why she remained a virgin, I suppose
zepangolynn
I love Kate Beaton’s work so much.
kdmw
Kate Beaton’s more recent graphic novels are really good too, though they have an extremely different vibe from Hark! A Vagrant
Andy
Great stuff. Ducks : two years in the oil sands.
https://app.thestorygraph.com/books/f7e75739-cc06-4b03-a794-b6f8dc52852f.
Sirksome
Don’t trust people who don’t remember your name.
Nadamás
Look i have mild face blindness and terrible memory if i don’t see you and hear your at least semi regularly i am not gonna remenber your name. Unless uou arw a teacher in that case i am NEVER going to remenber your nsme or your face.
GholaHalleck
Actual full agreement. I can remember a person by sound and face, but name? Haaaaaaa nooooo. The times I’ve had to start a convo as “Hi, I remember i know you from X place with Y people, but I am atrocious with names, we bonded over our opinion for Z thing. Can I get your name again please?” so many nickles…
Nadamás
I have an uncle that is bassically a running joke with me that i can’t remember his name anytime i see him. (He separated from my aunt so i would pretty rarely see him so he just did not stick in my memory)
Bogeywoman
Ditto. I have the autism problem where my brain doesnt stop looking for connections, so instead of not recognising anyone, I recognise them everywhere even where they’re not. Unless someone has a really unique feature or I see them all the time I can’t tell whether or not someone with the same skin colour and face shape is them or not.
Word recall is also an issue, so even if I know someone’s name my brain doesn’t always recall it when I need it, or will substitute something with a weird connection (like if someone’s name is Jennifer I might think it’s Rachel because of the actor/character on friends).
Clif
I will probably remember your name. I will likely recognize your face. Without constant repetition, the two will not link to each other. As far as I know, I can’t blame autism.
Clif
This is why online interactions are great. Half the problem is gone.
Nymphie
Ive managed more than twice to go “urgh what is this guy doing” and only realising once theyre a meter from me that, oh, that was my dad. Last time was at the party the day before his wedding and my cousins thought i was joking whenni questioned why this guy was running from the other house to crash the party.
Now i at least have a TIA to blame for my brain being fuzzy, ive had several relatives i havent recognised and when realising im asking the name of someone ive known my whole life i want to bury myself in a hole
ValdVin
Same here. I would like to apply for an exception to the otherwise cromulent rule.
Retrikaethan
i literally cannot remember names to save my literal life. if i don’t read your name off a card and make an active conscious effort to memorize it i won’t remember it at all…
Dawn
Me, person who can’t remember anyone’s names or faces
Psychie
I misread that as names or feces and was very briefly concerned for why anyone *would* remember somebody by their feces until I realized that first e was an a
DailyBrad
I am a cashier who winds up remembering quite a few peoples’ names and faces. Maybe due to that, I have a hard time getting what makes Asma so difficult, unless it’s just “this is a person performing a service, let me treat them more like set dressing than anything else”.
Nadamás
Most people just don’t read the name tags of employees. I don’t think it’s because we see them as lesser (most of the time) but it’s just the sort of things that easily slip from your mind.
Psychie
There’s also the fact that a lot of memory is context based, so there could easily be important information about someone, like their name, that gets locked to a specific context, so even if you recognize them when encountered outside of that context, you might not remember everything that matters, like their name.
Plus, most of the time when they are interacting with Asma, their focus isn’t on Asma, it’s on the function she is providing, which is to give them their mail. It isn’t really about dehumanizing people in service roles (for most people anyway, some people do indeed suck like that unfortunately) so much as socializing just not being where your attention lies when dealing with them.
I’m a delivery driver, I know a lot of people by their home address rather than their name or face. I might know the name associated with their address, I might know the face associated with their address, but broadly speaking I am more likely to know who someone is if I am informed of their address, at least within Bloomington. This has lead to some awkward moments where I’ve had to stop myself from blurting out somebody’s home address when meeting them in a different context, and some seriously awkward tinder matches where I’ve had to find delicate ways to suggest they replace one of their profile pictures because they inadvertently doxxed themselves by taking the pic on their porch with the house numbers visible because there’s only one street they could live on with a door like that, meaning their full home address is effectively visible on their tinder and I presume most women wouldn’t want that.
When I briefly worked for a pizza place, there were a number of regular customers that we knew by their orders rather than their names or faces. I’m sure there are plenty of equivalents in other professions as well.
It’s not just customers dehumanizing service workers, it goes both ways, because it’s rarely a malicious act and comes as a result of memory being reliant on attention, and when providing a service or having a service provided, your attention is generally on the service, not the person on the other end of it.
Tan
Asma does not appear to have a nametag, or at least it has not been obviously depicted in any of her appearances to date, not even in the strip where Asma challenges Walky to identify her name: https://www.dumbingofage.com/2016/comic/book-6/03-when-god-closes-the-door/name-2/
thejeff
This is all kind of weird to me. It’s been a long time since I worked any kind of customer facing retail job, but when I did the last thing I cared about was even repeat customers remembering my name. Honestly weirded me out more if they did.
Obviously, be nice, be polite, don’t be an asshole, but it’s a job, not a social engagement.
Minivet
She’s a fellow student.
Astariel
She is a student, but she doesn’t live on the same floor with our main characters and doesn’t seem to share any classes with them. Aside from her job, she’s essentially a stranger to them.
Kyulen
I know this is a bit, but I’m not good at remembering people’s names. Usually it takes me meeting them at least a few times before I can remember.
Megan
in all fairness, Joyce and Dorothy did, in fact, remember Asma’s name in a recent strip where they were feeling immense white guilt.