Oh here it is, I was really surprised that at almost 300 comments in, no one had said, “And that’s how she was turned to the dark side”, but it’s just that you said it in a less cliche way.
Asher definitely is even though I don’t trust him. Raidah though, we know she doesn’t care about Jennifer and is only in it for her rich parent connection. She pretty much said it to Carl. I don’t know about Carl. Dude is an enigma.
I think Carl’s like the J.J Abrams sort of enigma though, where there isn’t really anything inside the box and it’s not like the initial mystery is that good anyways
DrunkenNordmann
Oh come on, I don’t think Willis’ writing deserves to be compared to that guy. 😛
Thag Simmons
Eh, it’s not like Carl is meant to be interesting.
Needfuldoer
So far he’s just set dressing for the Sarah vs Raidah story.
He was originally Dana’s boyfriend. Is that still the case, even after her father pulled her from IU after Sarah told him how badly she was actually doing?
Sirksome
That would be kind of interesting if he still was in a relationship with Dana, really holding it down long distance for his girl so…no he’s probably not still with her. IU man of mystery Carl can’t be too interesting, it breaks the enigma.
What I find interesting is the way Asher talks about Jennifer with Radiah and Carl like he was the reason they hang out with Jennifer even though Radiah is the one who approached her. Could Radiah have befriended Jennifer at Ashers request?
Thag Simmons
Given how Raidah interacts with Jennifer it’s possible she regrets this. Asher seems like the only one in their group that genuinely likes her
Yes. Lacking genuine interest in each other, her new ‘friends’ are far more objective. No messy attachments.
Her new friends all hate each other or overtly use each other. Who wants to bet against me that Raidah made this offer with screwing Sara (a given) AND Jennifer’s family connections in mind?
I think the fact that Raidah called her Jennifer and not Billie speaks volumes as I don’t think that’s how she originally introduced herself waaay back at their first meeting…
thejeff
Yeah, that is interesting. Raidah’s been doing research. She wouldn’t have known Jennifer’s name otherwise.
It’s also amusing that for all our deep philosophical ideas for why she changed to using Jennifer, it seems like it’s Raidah prompted.
I’d go a step further and say it was also about taking a friend from Joyce, last time we saw Raidah before the time skip Joyce was the one she was mad at for her breakup and during timeskip we see Joyce is the one who really misses Billie/Jennifer.
Alternate Universe where Jennifer got out of the elevator and ran into the McAwesome’s crew. Everything is great and they get ice cream together after class. Later, Jennifer takes Joyce to the doctor and then they go parasailing.
Every other storyline is the same because everyone is so weirded out that they keep their distance, also secretly envious.
I don’t…think Billie and Ruth’s relationship was physically abusive? Correct me if I’m wrong but I think for a relationship to be abusive somecreature has to be exerting power over somecreature? And Billie and Ruth seemed to be on more or less even ground. They both have some issues with control and that was present in some of their fights and all, but neither of them ever really seemed to hold power over the other in their relationship. They got violent with each other, but I think violence in relationships is only abuse if somecreature is only on the receiving end and can’t or won’t fight back? And with Billie and Ruth it went both ways, and neither of them was like scared of the other because of it or anything, which I think is an important factor here? You can say their relationship was unhealthy, sure, I don’t think I could entirely disagree with that, but I don’t think it was abusive.
It’s abusive because it falls into the “this is not really Safe, Sane, or Consensual” umbrella.
It’s reciprocal, they abuse each other in ways that feed their self harm bugs, without the “Self” harming. Ruth’s finally figured out the issue, Billie’s still unable to grasp how toxic their relationship really is.
Clif
And so she harms herself by making herself miserable so that she doesn’t harm Billie.
Toxic is as toxic does.
StClair
as we saw in the last couple of strips, there is (or was) a whole lot of “not if I do it to you/myself first!” in this relationship.
(that’s how they keep score of who’s “winning.”)
It seems a bit semantic — does “abuse” always require one clear perpetrator and one clear victim, or can abuse be mutual?
Either way, their relationship was certainly toxic.
Miri
Abuse can be mutual. I think Billie thinks of it as their communication style and has never really processed the fact that she still acts like they did when they were in an alcohol-fueled death-pact (break in to her room to spoon and everything will be forgotten; if she says she seriously wants to break up the correct response that will make everything right is to punch her in the nose) and Ruth has made enough progress that she’s horrified that she was OK with that dynamic being good enough for somebody she loves (not sure if she’s reached the point where she recognises she deserves more too, mind)…
And in present times, Jennifer is still furious and Ruth still feels guilty for hurting somebody she loves.
Besides what everyone said, there’s defintiely a power imbalance here. Ruth is Jennifer’s RA. That’s the entire reason they kept their relationship secret in the first place.
Remember when we (rightly) gave Jason shit over having sex with Sal? Yeah, same thing, except worse.
thejeff
“Was” Jennifer’s RA. That’s why Jennifer got moved over to Forest.
I’d argue that Jason was still worse, at least in those terms. That sex was directly tied to the power. Sal only went for it expecting better grades. At least by the time their relationship started, the RA power doesn’t really seem to have factored in to either of their reasons for sex – just for hiding it.
JBento
Perhaps, but Sal was the initiator out of nowhere and Jason never even hinted at the grades and immediately excused himself from grading Sal.
And I want to make myself absolutely clear: Jason was wrong. It was part of his literal job to shut Sal down moment zero.
Joy
It wasn’t out of nowhere, it was after Jason already creepily hit on her, and after Penny implied that Jason was only tutoring her because she was hot, and after Jason implied that he was only tutoring her because she was hot.
I don’t recall him ever hinting at the grades thing, though. “It was implied,” I think, is what Sal had to say about it?
I don’t know if I fully agree with you or just agree with the points you were making, but I’m glad to have read your contribution to the discussion. For me, I think the abuse would be defined by both a repeating pattern of harmful behavior as well as a one-sided power dynamic.
My understanding was that the psychological warfare was very one-sided, and that Ruth had one-sided power over Jennifer as an R.A. It may have been abusive… towards Jennifer.
That their boundaries are so poor Ruth felt the need to barricade her room after breaking up with Jennifer for the Nth time doesn’t speak well of the relationship. Ruth has issues she needs to work through before she’s even ready for a serious relationship, with anyone. It’s probably for the best they broke up.
On one hand, friends who know you and want to be there for you but don’t know how to recognize or help with your toxic relationship, on the other, friends who don’t care about or actively dislike you but are wealthy and well connected. It’s hard to say really.
Okay maybe not really. Ten years from now when Raidah is a mob lawyer and the Clark wing’s shared experiences has forged it into an unbreakable unit of mutual love and trust and respect that’s probably like leading the US in a worldwide humanist revolution it would sound sarcastic, but, Billie needs another fresh start right now and she thinks she doesn’t have any other options.
Lucy and that gang seems completely wholesome and fun but Billie thinks they’re beneath her. . .
We only really know that Raidah and her posse don’t live on the same floor as the main cast, but there are more floors below and above that, which we don’t know anything about.
Jennifer has rich parents, Raidah has been known to take any chance to try networking, she’s probably been waiting for a chance to talk to Jennifer for a while now
Yeah, social climbing. Jennifer is attractive and has rich parents who likely also have connections. This was too good an opportunity to pass up, with or without any Sarah connection.
242 thoughts on “Deserve”
Ana Chronistic
but you won’t GET better, bc Raidah lololololol =p
Yet_One_More_Idiot
> “Tonight, you deserve BETTER”
But DO you though, Billie / Jennifer? Do you REALLY deserve better? >_>
Joy
She does?
Joy
Jennifer deserves better. ?
Doctor_Who
Billie’s really upset that she wasn’t given the rank of Jedi Master, and here’s Raidah to rename her Darth Jennifer.
StClair
It’s outrageous, it’s unfair!
Mo
somehow, Raidah returned
Sajuuk-Khar
The Bongo Side is a pathway to many abilities some would consider to be…unpleasant
Rectilinear Propagation
Oh here it is, I was really surprised that at almost 300 comments in, no one had said, “And that’s how she was turned to the dark side”, but it’s just that you said it in a less cliche way.
C.T. Phipps
I mean, seriously, all of the others are ignoring the violent physically abusive relationship flags of Ruth and Billie.
I think Raidah and the others may actually BE better friends.
Sirksome
Asher definitely is even though I don’t trust him. Raidah though, we know she doesn’t care about Jennifer and is only in it for her rich parent connection. She pretty much said it to Carl. I don’t know about Carl. Dude is an enigma.
Thag Simmons
I think Carl’s like the J.J Abrams sort of enigma though, where there isn’t really anything inside the box and it’s not like the initial mystery is that good anyways
DrunkenNordmann
Oh come on, I don’t think Willis’ writing deserves to be compared to that guy. 😛
Thag Simmons
Eh, it’s not like Carl is meant to be interesting.
Needfuldoer
So far he’s just set dressing for the Sarah vs Raidah story.
He was originally Dana’s boyfriend. Is that still the case, even after her father pulled her from IU after Sarah told him how badly she was actually doing?
Sirksome
That would be kind of interesting if he still was in a relationship with Dana, really holding it down long distance for his girl so…no he’s probably not still with her. IU man of mystery Carl can’t be too interesting, it breaks the enigma.
Joy
Also, Dana and Carl already broke up.
Tan
“Soon she ditched Carl, and so then she was in our dorm room every single night.” – https://www.dumbingofage.com/2012/comic/book-2/05-saturdays-all-right-for-slighting/choice/
Furie
Found the perfect way to describe myself on Tinder. Thanks.
GholaHalleck
She’s in it to tweak Sarah’s nose AND the rich parents. Jennifer is a tool for her, nothing more.
Matthew Davis
I think she also loves the rich rich feeling of “taking” one of Sarah’s friends.
Archieve
What I find interesting is the way Asher talks about Jennifer with Radiah and Carl like he was the reason they hang out with Jennifer even though Radiah is the one who approached her. Could Radiah have befriended Jennifer at Ashers request?
Thag Simmons
Given how Raidah interacts with Jennifer it’s possible she regrets this. Asher seems like the only one in their group that genuinely likes her
Zach
Yes. Lacking genuine interest in each other, her new ‘friends’ are far more objective. No messy attachments.
Her new friends all hate each other or overtly use each other. Who wants to bet against me that Raidah made this offer with screwing Sara (a given) AND Jennifer’s family connections in mind?
Vanessa
Haha yes I see that she is transparently out for leverage over Sarah here.
Psi Baka Onna
I think the fact that Raidah called her Jennifer and not Billie speaks volumes as I don’t think that’s how she originally introduced herself waaay back at their first meeting…
thejeff
Yeah, that is interesting. Raidah’s been doing research. She wouldn’t have known Jennifer’s name otherwise.
It’s also amusing that for all our deep philosophical ideas for why she changed to using Jennifer, it seems like it’s Raidah prompted.
Archieve
I’d go a step further and say it was also about taking a friend from Joyce, last time we saw Raidah before the time skip Joyce was the one she was mad at for her breakup and during timeskip we see Joyce is the one who really misses Billie/Jennifer.
Blackdrazon
Alternate Universe where Jennifer got out of the elevator and ran into the McAwesome’s crew. Everything is great and they get ice cream together after class. Later, Jennifer takes Joyce to the doctor and then they go parasailing.
Every other storyline is the same because everyone is so weirded out that they keep their distance, also secretly envious.
Needfuldoer
But Agatha has been here the whole time, and both Rose and Zaph are in her new dorm…
Twig
I don’t…think Billie and Ruth’s relationship was physically abusive? Correct me if I’m wrong but I think for a relationship to be abusive somecreature has to be exerting power over somecreature? And Billie and Ruth seemed to be on more or less even ground. They both have some issues with control and that was present in some of their fights and all, but neither of them ever really seemed to hold power over the other in their relationship. They got violent with each other, but I think violence in relationships is only abuse if somecreature is only on the receiving end and can’t or won’t fight back? And with Billie and Ruth it went both ways, and neither of them was like scared of the other because of it or anything, which I think is an important factor here? You can say their relationship was unhealthy, sure, I don’t think I could entirely disagree with that, but I don’t think it was abusive.
GholaHalleck
It’s abusive because it falls into the “this is not really Safe, Sane, or Consensual” umbrella.
It’s reciprocal, they abuse each other in ways that feed their self harm bugs, without the “Self” harming. Ruth’s finally figured out the issue, Billie’s still unable to grasp how toxic their relationship really is.
Clif
And so she harms herself by making herself miserable so that she doesn’t harm Billie.
Toxic is as toxic does.
StClair
as we saw in the last couple of strips, there is (or was) a whole lot of “not if I do it to you/myself first!” in this relationship.
(that’s how they keep score of who’s “winning.”)
Leorale
It seems a bit semantic — does “abuse” always require one clear perpetrator and one clear victim, or can abuse be mutual?
Either way, their relationship was certainly toxic.
Miri
Abuse can be mutual. I think Billie thinks of it as their communication style and has never really processed the fact that she still acts like they did when they were in an alcohol-fueled death-pact (break in to her room to spoon and everything will be forgotten; if she says she seriously wants to break up the correct response that will make everything right is to punch her in the nose) and Ruth has made enough progress that she’s horrified that she was OK with that dynamic being good enough for somebody she loves (not sure if she’s reached the point where she recognises she deserves more too, mind)…
And in present times, Jennifer is still furious and Ruth still feels guilty for hurting somebody she loves.
JBento
Besides what everyone said, there’s defintiely a power imbalance here. Ruth is Jennifer’s RA. That’s the entire reason they kept their relationship secret in the first place.
Remember when we (rightly) gave Jason shit over having sex with Sal? Yeah, same thing, except worse.
thejeff
“Was” Jennifer’s RA. That’s why Jennifer got moved over to Forest.
I’d argue that Jason was still worse, at least in those terms. That sex was directly tied to the power. Sal only went for it expecting better grades. At least by the time their relationship started, the RA power doesn’t really seem to have factored in to either of their reasons for sex – just for hiding it.
JBento
Perhaps, but Sal was the initiator out of nowhere and Jason never even hinted at the grades and immediately excused himself from grading Sal.
And I want to make myself absolutely clear: Jason was wrong. It was part of his literal job to shut Sal down moment zero.
Joy
It wasn’t out of nowhere, it was after Jason already creepily hit on her, and after Penny implied that Jason was only tutoring her because she was hot, and after Jason implied that he was only tutoring her because she was hot.
I don’t recall him ever hinting at the grades thing, though. “It was implied,” I think, is what Sal had to say about it?
Tan
Sal said pretty clearly at the time that it was for grades: https://www.dumbingofage.com/2013/comic/book-3/01-if-the-shoes-split/whatsallthis/ and he did not correct her at the time.
Joy
I don’t know if I fully agree with you or just agree with the points you were making, but I’m glad to have read your contribution to the discussion. For me, I think the abuse would be defined by both a repeating pattern of harmful behavior as well as a one-sided power dynamic.
My understanding was that the psychological warfare was very one-sided, and that Ruth had one-sided power over Jennifer as an R.A. It may have been abusive… towards Jennifer.
That their boundaries are so poor Ruth felt the need to barricade her room after breaking up with Jennifer for the Nth time doesn’t speak well of the relationship. Ruth has issues she needs to work through before she’s even ready for a serious relationship, with anyone. It’s probably for the best they broke up.
DailyBrad
Hard disagree on that, to say the least, but I will say that yeah, due to youth and other factors, there’s no shortage of enabling going on at times.
Tan
I think you are forgetting Walky.
https://www.dumbingofage.com/2016/comic/book-6/04-it-all-returns/labcoats/
Amelie Wikström
On one hand, friends who know you and want to be there for you but don’t know how to recognize or help with your toxic relationship, on the other, friends who don’t care about or actively dislike you but are wealthy and well connected. It’s hard to say really.
Okay maybe not really. Ten years from now when Raidah is a mob lawyer and the Clark wing’s shared experiences has forged it into an unbreakable unit of mutual love and trust and respect that’s probably like leading the US in a worldwide humanist revolution it would sound sarcastic, but, Billie needs another fresh start right now and she thinks she doesn’t have any other options.
Lucy and that gang seems completely wholesome and fun but Billie thinks they’re beneath her. . .
Sirksome
Man I thought we were out of the blue nightmare world. Bait n switch!
Clif
Halloween is the gift that keeps on giving.
Nono
Hmm.
What’s Raidah doing at Clark wing, anyway? She wasn’t dating Jacob anymore, and as far as we know none of her posse live there…
RassilonTDavros
She’s looking for any of Sarah’s friends she can find, so that she can steal them from her as a power move.
Vanessa
Yup! I see that too.
Nono
Which is funny because she doesn’t really believe that Sarah has friends in the first place.
anon
Well, there’s people sarah tolerates. but i wouldn’t be surprised if she attempted to “recruit” Roz as well
Needfuldoer
Sometimes a little doublethink is necessary.
Psi Baka Onna
Or maybe she wants dirt on Joyce? She was the reason her relationship with Jacob ended afterall…
MacareuxMoine
We only really know that Raidah and her posse don’t live on the same floor as the main cast, but there are more floors below and above that, which we don’t know anything about.
darkoneko
. . . . So the whole story about Billiefer’s new group is that Raidah wanted some new pawns to gank on Sarah ? <_<
darkoneko
Also it was already pretty glaringly obvious how condescending she was to everyone at the party but “bothering with those nerds”, really eh.
Johan
“Later Nerds!” Billifer shouts while dressed as a Jedi.
UrsulaDavina
Raidah appears to be playing a low stakes game of 4d chess.
alongcameaspider
Nah I don’t think this is related to Sarah
Jennifer has rich parents, Raidah has been known to take any chance to try networking, she’s probably been waiting for a chance to talk to Jennifer for a while now
DailyBrad
Yeah, social climbing. Jennifer is attractive and has rich parents who likely also have connections. This was too good an opportunity to pass up, with or without any Sarah connection.
thejeff
She specifically asks if she’s one of Sarah’s friends. And how does Raidah know about Jennifer’s rich parents (or even that her name is Jennifer)?
Axel
and/or trying to network because Billie’s got money and/or trying to get in on the tragedy for clout or something
Bryy
Yeah. Yup. Yuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuup. This is all a long con, it seems.
Axel
I can’t do the gritted teeth emoji but, that
Axel
also how did Raidah know her name was Jennifer
darkoneko
That she knew her real name rather than what she use commonly informally means she looked it up in a school file ?
Axel
idk, I’d just be weirded out if someone I didn’t know was like ‘hey, you’re [legal name], right?’ when neither I nor my friends ever used that name.
Jamie
I mean, you should be weirded out, since it probably means they’re stalking you a bit.
GeekyWarrior
They did meet a while ago. https://www.dumbingofage.com/2012/comic/book-2/05-saturdays-all-right-for-slighting/freshmen/
Maybe she knew her real name from the paper?
Sirksome
That’s a little creepy. Like what, she was studying up on students with potential influence? I mean that seems like a lot.
thejeff
At least as likely to have been studying up on Sarah’s friends (or Joyce’s)?
That Jennifer has potential influence is just a bonus.