Got any personal recommendations for aiding my libido’s recovery?
Rose by Any Other Name
Um… well…
Find porn that speaks to you positively. An actor/actress you admire, a good story to tell, interesting characters, elegant prose, beautiful artwork – something that sets it above the ordinary.
Alternatively, create some of your own. Write some erotica, draw some hentai – whatever stimulates your mind will often stimulate other parts as well.
Much like Biblical Eve, I actually “lost my innocence” thanks to another talking snake. ?
Very poetic, don’t you think?
Any other recommendations? Perhaps pelvic exercises of some kind? A diet maybe?
What about caffeine and other drugs? I am exercising more too, will that help?
Regret
Try to eat more varied food (both for the nutritional health benefits and the psychological benefits of more varied experiences).
Sleep enough.
Find a way to feel safe.
Exercise.
Just… generally improve your wellbeing.
Masumi
Maybe stop worrying about it so much? Constant (stress-laden) monitoring of any emotion can distract you from the emotion itself, making it weaker. Except fear. Fear flourishes.
So maybe your libido is taking a break – so what? You might as well enjoy not having to deal with it. Trust that it’ll be back when the time is right.
I really enjoyed the BEAUTIFUL art in it. Porn Lord Willis REALLY outdid himself! ?
While I did enjoy it in many ways and it made me REALLY happy, I actually didn’t enjoy it sexually.
Because of that, I was actually really worried that I was truly broken because of my depression and anxiety, that I wouldn’t be able to pleasure myself ever again. I also felt hella guilty about not being as happy as I should have been for Porn Lord Willis’s wonderful gift to us all.
But after some days of healthy eating and exercise, and quitting caffeine, up to today I was able to pleasure myself to things that usually aroused me for a long time.
However, Willis’s work didn’t quite conjure the same effect in me even then.
That’s when I realized something really important about myself. Reflecting my many fetishes that have come and gone, I realized that I was never really attracted to humans and their shape, or even to the act of sex or arousal alone.
I discovered that I’m an asexual, just like Dina!!! ?
Speaking of Dina, while I’m not sexually attracted to her (or anyone really), I really love her in just about every other way. The brainiac girl’s like Rock and Roll to me!!! Up there with Sailor Moon and Son Goku, she’s my favorite socially challenged hero!!!
This whole story arc, where she used the Power of Science, her AWESOME BRAIN POWER, to break Becky’s Chains of the Sunday School, with the epic climax in the Slipshine? I HAVE LIVED!!!
In general, sometimes I have a little trouble reading social cues like that. Neurodivergence!
It’s just that something that was so important to me, that allowed me to escape this world, to relieve and relax myself, to bring me so much joy, I have been without in SO LONG. It’s like I lost a limb, an important part of myself! ?
And now it’s coming back, slowly but surely, I’m recovering ?
I know through the Power of Science that ALL of you continue to play a HUGE role in my recovery, always being here, supporting me directly and indirectly, talking to me, giving me opportunities stimulate my mind, not to mention how good it feels to be helping all of you!!!
As we all make it through these tumultuous times together…
For all of you Good Demons, you lovable demonic screwballs in this community, and all your help, THANK YOU ALL SO MUCH!!! ???
Honestly, I did not click on the comment section to find out someone successfully had a wank?
This is vaulting over the boundaries of folk who similarly don’t want to know; you ideally need to find a Discord or something where everyone is on board with hearing about this kinda personal info.
I’m not offended, I’m not upset, but this is not your Facebook.
Badgermole
Seconding this. I’m not offended either but I am uncomfortable. I don’t read the comments often so it’s deeply awkward when I do hop down here and the first thing I see is this wall of parasocial oversharing.
It’s not like this isn’t the place for it. We did just have a story arc about sexual gratification in the last week or so. I get that people may be uncomfortable about it but… let’s be frank, a healthy discussion of sex and gratification is probably healthier than 90% of the discussion that’s going to happen in here over the week.
Fuzzy
A media piece showcasing sex is not carte blanche to talk about anything and everything related to sex. This isn’t the place for it.
Talking frankly about sexual experiences is only a healthy discussion when all parties can consent. Without warning, people can’t consent.
Rose by Any Other Name
By that logic, no one could post anything because no one can consent to a discussion in the comments without having someone post unprompted. That’s how the comments section works.
Also, the topic of arousal and asexuality is EXACTLY that the recent Dina arc in the comic was about, and that is, as it turns out, exactly what the OP was talking about. So… yeah.
Reaver
I mean wanting to discuss the fictional sex lives of not real characters on a comic I wanted to discuss it on is a bit different than talking about someone’s IRL wank and Libidio exercises.
Oh well, at least there’s a little break here from the absolute shitstorms of debates about ableism and spanking. I guess that’s a step in the right direction, for what it’s worth.
Kazuma Taichi
From what I can tell, the problem is probably less the content of the comment, and more the timing. Wellerman managed to squeeze in before Ana commented, which results in this being the very top comment in the chain, and a lot of people that head to the comics will check right underneath first, either because that makes sense or because they’re just wanting to read Ana’s first before they skim
That and it does read very similar to a vtuber talking to their community which yea, also triggers the parasocial warning flags
Rose by Any Other Name
@Buttery Commissar and Badgermole
I mean, I was pretty uncomfortable with the 1000+ comment discussion of spankings, and clearly so were a lot of other people, but the comic opened the door to them and people felt like arguing.
When I hit a comment thread that makes me uncomfortable, as many of those did, I either skim past to the next comment thread, or I leave the Dumbing of Age comments section alone for a day.
Andy
It’s kinda hard to know that the comic has opened up this discussion when the last comic about sexual attraction and arousal was several days ago, and it’s harder to skip this discussion when the very top comment is “hey I’ve been having trouble with libido and I went and did a sexual thing and it felt good!”
I wouldn’t walk up to a group of strangers and start talking about my masturbatory habits. I think we can all agree that’s out of line. So why is it okay to just throw that out here? Receiving positive consent for sexual matters is very heavily emphasized in modern society, and I think getting people’s consent to talk about your (generic you) sex life before doing so is pretty important.
Rose by Any Other Name
They said “Well today, I gave it a spin.” (it referring to the word libido in the previous sentence)
That’s a copy/paste quote.
They provided no inappropriate details. That was, in fact, about as discrete and tasteful as it is possible to be.
Andy
So they masturbated. Or had sex. Or looked at porn. And it felt, and I quote, “SO GOOD.” I don’t need to know about any of that. I didn’t ask to know about any of that. Even as vague as they were, it’s more specific than is appropriate for an open for that is not dedicated to talking about our sex lives without them at least providing a content warning.
Is it appropriate for me to walk up to people on the street and tell them “I’ve been having issues withy libido but last night I gave it a spin and it felt SO GOOD”? Because if it’s sexual, it’s not directly related to today’s comic, and it’s not appropriate to talk about to strangers in the street, I don’t consider it appropriate to talk about here without at least a content warning.
Rose by Any Other Name
Re Content Warnings – sure, content warnings are a good thing. No issue there.
Re Everything Else – Disagree.
Gangler
Personally I’m fine leaving it up to the author’s discretion to moderate what does and doesn’t belong in the comment section. I figure we’re in his house, we play by his rules here.
But do you really not see the significance of those comments taking place underneath a page where the characters discuss the practice of spanking? That sort of context just isn’t at all a relevant factor for you?
Because I feel like at that point we’ve run into some pretty wildly conflicting paradigms on the precise nature of a comment section. Perhaps we’re not on the same page about what everybody is commenting on here? Or perhaps not even on the same page about what a comment is in the first place?
Rose by Any Other Name
@Gangler
I didn’t say anything about the significance. I said they made me uncomfortable. Because they did. However, as you say, they were relevant.
So I ignored them.
I read other comments, or I went and watched stuff on Youtube instead of posting here.
What I didn’t do is post comments complaining that people having a conversation that didn’t involve me was something that violated my consent.
? Oooo! I’m REALLY REALLY sorry if I caused any of you any stress!!!!
All I really wanted was to express how thankful I am for being surrounded by all of you, for helping me get back something important to myself, and maybe introduce some better vibes in the room then the really nauseating conflicts that have been going on here lately.
You all have the right to express yourselves on the matter, I will not deny that. But one thing’s for sure, to turn what was intended as a grand expression of gratitude for the community as a whole into yet another point of division is… pretty unfortunate. ?
Andy
I wouldn’t say you caused me stress, per se, but I don’t find it appropriate to talk about sex in specific personal terms without giving people a chance to opt out. Sometimes that chance comes in the form of the discussion being on an appropriate forum; for instance, no one could go into a subreddit devoted to sex and complain that they had no warning and didn’t give consent. Sometimes it comes in the form of putting a content warning at the start of a comment or post. I don’t know if this comment section is a wholly appropriate place in any case, but if Willis is cool with this sort of discussion, I suspect a content warning would suffice.
Rose by Any Other Name
See my post above. I’d really love to hear how “Well today, I gave it a spin” could be considered, to use your words, ‘specific personal terms’.
Rabbit
You can express your thanks without giving us the personal information that you decided to engage in whatever sexual behavior your ‘libido’ being reinvigorated entailed.
Buttery Commissar
Don’t worry on it too much, but please, consider: I also offered that suggestion because a controllable space (like a Discord or social account) is a FAR safer place to share these things, too.
Having your personal news saved on someone else’s website that you cannot edit, cannot remove, and gets viewed by tens of thousands of people per day, while tied to your username and contact info, is sweeping right past “stranger danger” into new realms of potential misadventure.
Roborat
While I will admit that your revelation was a bit surprising, I will say that the fact that you were able to find some personal happiness and credited this webcomic and the peanut gallery for helping you with your issue gives me a warm feeling. And I was impressed that you felt comfortable enough and trusting enough to reveal something that personal with a bunch of internet strangers.
@The Wellerman
I would like to apologize to you about all this. Some of the above comments made me very angry (obviously). However, I should have kept in mind your commitment to good vibes and not submitted to bad ones. For that, I am truly sorry.
I think I’m going to take a break from posting comments here for a day or two to reset and refresh.
Although I agree they have been some ways in error, forgive these people, Rose.
Just like you, they’re only human. Deep down, we’re all just living things — crudely assembled piles of protein and sugar, crawling about this giant rock we call a planet.
We’re all doing our best to survive, to function, to maintain health and sanity, in an unjust, indifferent universe that doesn’t care about anyone or anything, including itself. There’s only so much that the product of 4.5 billion years worth of happy accidents can do right. ?
P.S. I’ve seen tomorrow’s strip, and you’ll DEFINITELY want to stick around! ? ?
I’m just so fucking THANKFUL to be surrounded by a community of Good Demons like you and many others that have helped me feel better in these difficult times, and I am SO GRATEFUL!!! ?
I’m torn between congratulating you on this amazing comment and trying to fight you to defend the honor of a genre (like any normal, healthy person on the internet would do).
Sarah wasn’t in the room when Joyce said that. This might just as well be an expression of anger, or a bit to avoid the conversation altogether from Sarah’s point of view.
Also, for women, this is not some kind of special rare situation. This returns every month for several days. You have to learn to function during period. Life doesn’t take breaks for 1/4 of the adult life. Last example from my life, my grandmother just got diagnosed with covid19, she’s not vaccinated and my period will start soon. I’ll have to handle that while being in pain, I’ll have to handle my mother going nuts for being helpless (my grandmother is basically refusing any therapy and relies on placebo and tea to cure herself) and all that on top of my usual workday. I have to function, and I have to function well. That is not something you can do if you don’t practice it.
not everyone who gets periods CAN function even if they try and practice or whatever. some have debilitating symptoms due to underlying conditions/separate health issues which exercerbate period woes (PTSD definitely counts and might apply to Joyce)
Alanari
Most folks can. For those who can’t it’s usually known to the close social circle. Not being able to da basically anything every month usually gets noticed.
Also six hours ago she could switch from “laying on the bed face down” to “full cheer mode” pretty fast when liz showed up.
My fiance would rip me a new one for having an attitude like that. If she’s having a really bad period, I help more, simple as that. Not everyone can afford to do that with work but at the very least family should be able to understand and accept that, as well as friends.
Honestly, it sounds like your Grandmother should have gotten vaccinated, cause she decided to take an unnecessary medical risk. Why do YOU have to go out of your way to help HER over something she could control while dealing with something you can’t?
Alanari
How the hell is my boyfriend supposed to help me with a woman he literally met once for one minute? She won’t listen to him. She has zero reason to.
Yes, she should. She didn’t. Her main medical advisor is her other daughter, who believes in basically every conspiracy theory known to humankind, which is why they’re both not vaccinated (albeit they both should be). Why I should go out of my way to help her now? Is that a rhetoric question? She’s my grandmother. There’s a very real chance this kills her. And I won’t sit idle and watch. If this ends badly, I want to be able to tell myself I tried.
Arillius
About your particular situation, I’m not honestly certain. I cut all ties from my racist anti-vaccine republican family. I just don’t think you should be dismissing the fact that women SHOULD be given extra consideration for things outside their control, just like anyone else born to anything ever. The reality we live in is that they aren’t, but at the very least it SHOULD be better with your family and friends, and you going around minimizing that is not helpful for others.
Good for you that you can function on your period. I can too. But not everybody can. Endo and PCOS are both very common and make for a different level of hell version of a period that my experiences just can’t compare to. The average age of diagnoses for both is usually after college, often significantly so.
The driver was some wise old Uncle Iroh type who gave her sage advice and then drove off never to be seen again. Somehow the charge will never actually appear on Carla’s account.
Carla’s tech billionaire parents are paying, and apparently they own the rideshare app to begin with. Charge away, Sagelike Wisdom Driver. Charge away.
I don’t know doodly-squat about anime characters, but the holdover of my old-school religion makes me say that the rideshare drive was actually Sarah’s guardian angel, taking a little more hands-on approach to its assigned task. And you’re right; the charge for the ride will never appear on anyone’s earthly account.
As the nuns used to tell us whenever they couldn’t fully explain how or why something had happened, “God works in mysterious ways, and it is not for us to know.” Most of the time it’s hogwash, but there are enough personal examples in my own lifetime that makes me believe it’s not ALWAYS bullshit.
I don’t think it was an epiphany. I think Sarah’s known all this for a while and is having trouble acting on it. She did the thing that prioritized her own feelings by speeding away from Liz once back at Ball State, and then came back right after, realizing she fucked up.
As I mentioned further down, sometimes character development is less that you stop making mistakes, and more that the gap between making and fixing mistakes shrinks.
323 thoughts on “Epiphany”
The Wellerman
Hey everyone!
I know you might be tempted to go into battle mode right now, but I want to tell you something really important!
You know how my libido’s been broken for a while now?
Well today, I gave it a spin. For the first time in SO LONG, my head was clear and I could actually enjoy it.
It felt SO GOOD! For the first time in SO LONG!!! ?
My life is Hell.
The WORLD is Hell.
The comments section is currently Hell.
But spite it all….
I am just SO THANKFUL to be surrounded by all you Good Demons, all you lovable demonic screwballs, in this WONDERFUL community!!!!!!!
YOU ALL MEAN SO MUCH TO ME!!!
?????????????
*plays “Tristram Village” by Matt Uelman on Hacked Muzak*
True Survivor
Shhh… if Satan figures out you’re not suffering we will all be fired. However, I am glad you are feeling better.
Doctor_Who
“Tis better to be on unemployment in hell than to attend another stupid birthday party in the break room in heaven.”
-Paycheck Lost
True Survivor
Or at least better-ish. Sorry things have been rough for you lately.
PS.
Did you see the new BBC article “Tanis: Fossil of dinosaur killed in asteroid strike found, scientists claim”??? Pretty cool, huh?
Rose by Any Other Name
Glad to hear it!
The Wellerman
Thanks! ?
Got any personal recommendations for aiding my libido’s recovery?
Rose by Any Other Name
Um… well…
Find porn that speaks to you positively. An actor/actress you admire, a good story to tell, interesting characters, elegant prose, beautiful artwork – something that sets it above the ordinary.
Alternatively, create some of your own. Write some erotica, draw some hentai – whatever stimulates your mind will often stimulate other parts as well.
The Wellerman
Well, I am learning to program with Python. ?
Much like Biblical Eve, I actually “lost my innocence” thanks to another talking snake. ?
Very poetic, don’t you think?
Any other recommendations? Perhaps pelvic exercises of some kind? A diet maybe?
What about caffeine and other drugs? I am exercising more too, will that help?
Regret
Try to eat more varied food (both for the nutritional health benefits and the psychological benefits of more varied experiences).
Sleep enough.
Find a way to feel safe.
Exercise.
Just… generally improve your wellbeing.
Masumi
Maybe stop worrying about it so much? Constant (stress-laden) monitoring of any emotion can distract you from the emotion itself, making it weaker. Except fear. Fear flourishes.
So maybe your libido is taking a break – so what? You might as well enjoy not having to deal with it. Trust that it’ll be back when the time is right.
Opus the Poet
Have you tried the Porn of Our very own Pornlord over on Slipshine? Dina in the buff is to die for.
The Wellerman
Funny story…
I actually did try it.
I really enjoyed the BEAUTIFUL art in it. Porn Lord Willis REALLY outdid himself! ?
While I did enjoy it in many ways and it made me REALLY happy, I actually didn’t enjoy it sexually.
Because of that, I was actually really worried that I was truly broken because of my depression and anxiety, that I wouldn’t be able to pleasure myself ever again. I also felt hella guilty about not being as happy as I should have been for Porn Lord Willis’s wonderful gift to us all.
But after some days of healthy eating and exercise, and quitting caffeine, up to today I was able to pleasure myself to things that usually aroused me for a long time.
However, Willis’s work didn’t quite conjure the same effect in me even then.
That’s when I realized something really important about myself. Reflecting my many fetishes that have come and gone, I realized that I was never really attracted to humans and their shape, or even to the act of sex or arousal alone.
I discovered that I’m an asexual, just like Dina!!! ?
Speaking of Dina, while I’m not sexually attracted to her (or anyone really), I really love her in just about every other way. The brainiac girl’s like Rock and Roll to me!!! Up there with Sailor Moon and Son Goku, she’s my favorite socially challenged hero!!!
This whole story arc, where she used the Power of Science, her AWESOME BRAIN POWER, to break Becky’s Chains of the Sunday School, with the epic climax in the Slipshine? I HAVE LIVED!!!
??? ??? ???
*plays “Chou Super Dragon Soul” by Takayoshi Tanimoto on Hacked Muzak*
The Wellerman
>>> Followed by<a href = "https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=tF4faMbs5oQ "Good Morning World!" Burnout Syndrome
#IFLScience
The Wellerman
—> Followed by<a href = "https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=tF4faMbs5oQ "Good Morning World!" Burnout Syndrome
#IFLScience
The Wellerman
One more time!
—>Followed by “Good Morning World!” Burnout Syndrome
#IFLScience
Getting sleepy, see you all in the morning! ?
Rabbit
I mean. I’m happy for you I guess, but I still don’t quite get why your sexual drive/sexual interests crop up in the comments the way they do.
I don’t mean to be rude but it just feels not. Like the appropriate space for it?
The Wellerman
Oops! Sorry if it’s a little out of place! ?
In general, sometimes I have a little trouble reading social cues like that. Neurodivergence!
It’s just that something that was so important to me, that allowed me to escape this world, to relieve and relax myself, to bring me so much joy, I have been without in SO LONG. It’s like I lost a limb, an important part of myself! ?
And now it’s coming back, slowly but surely, I’m recovering ?
I know through the Power of Science that ALL of you continue to play a HUGE role in my recovery, always being here, supporting me directly and indirectly, talking to me, giving me opportunities stimulate my mind, not to mention how good it feels to be helping all of you!!!
As we all make it through these tumultuous times together…
For all of you Good Demons, you lovable demonic screwballs in this community, and all your help, THANK YOU ALL SO MUCH!!! ???
*plays “Through The Fire And Flames” by DragonForce on Hacked Muzak*
Buttery Commissar
Honestly, I did not click on the comment section to find out someone successfully had a wank?
This is vaulting over the boundaries of folk who similarly don’t want to know; you ideally need to find a Discord or something where everyone is on board with hearing about this kinda personal info.
I’m not offended, I’m not upset, but this is not your Facebook.
Badgermole
Seconding this. I’m not offended either but I am uncomfortable. I don’t read the comments often so it’s deeply awkward when I do hop down here and the first thing I see is this wall of parasocial oversharing.
Arawn
It’s not like this isn’t the place for it. We did just have a story arc about sexual gratification in the last week or so. I get that people may be uncomfortable about it but… let’s be frank, a healthy discussion of sex and gratification is probably healthier than 90% of the discussion that’s going to happen in here over the week.
Fuzzy
A media piece showcasing sex is not carte blanche to talk about anything and everything related to sex. This isn’t the place for it.
Talking frankly about sexual experiences is only a healthy discussion when all parties can consent. Without warning, people can’t consent.
Rose by Any Other Name
By that logic, no one could post anything because no one can consent to a discussion in the comments without having someone post unprompted. That’s how the comments section works.
Also, the topic of arousal and asexuality is EXACTLY that the recent Dina arc in the comic was about, and that is, as it turns out, exactly what the OP was talking about. So… yeah.
Reaver
I mean wanting to discuss the fictional sex lives of not real characters on a comic I wanted to discuss it on is a bit different than talking about someone’s IRL wank and Libidio exercises.
The Wellerman
Oh well, at least there’s a little break here from the absolute shitstorms of debates about ableism and spanking. I guess that’s a step in the right direction, for what it’s worth.
Kazuma Taichi
From what I can tell, the problem is probably less the content of the comment, and more the timing. Wellerman managed to squeeze in before Ana commented, which results in this being the very top comment in the chain, and a lot of people that head to the comics will check right underneath first, either because that makes sense or because they’re just wanting to read Ana’s first before they skim
That and it does read very similar to a vtuber talking to their community which yea, also triggers the parasocial warning flags
Rose by Any Other Name
@Buttery Commissar and Badgermole
I mean, I was pretty uncomfortable with the 1000+ comment discussion of spankings, and clearly so were a lot of other people, but the comic opened the door to them and people felt like arguing.
When I hit a comment thread that makes me uncomfortable, as many of those did, I either skim past to the next comment thread, or I leave the Dumbing of Age comments section alone for a day.
Andy
It’s kinda hard to know that the comic has opened up this discussion when the last comic about sexual attraction and arousal was several days ago, and it’s harder to skip this discussion when the very top comment is “hey I’ve been having trouble with libido and I went and did a sexual thing and it felt good!”
I wouldn’t walk up to a group of strangers and start talking about my masturbatory habits. I think we can all agree that’s out of line. So why is it okay to just throw that out here? Receiving positive consent for sexual matters is very heavily emphasized in modern society, and I think getting people’s consent to talk about your (generic you) sex life before doing so is pretty important.
Rose by Any Other Name
They said “Well today, I gave it a spin.” (it referring to the word libido in the previous sentence)
That’s a copy/paste quote.
They provided no inappropriate details. That was, in fact, about as discrete and tasteful as it is possible to be.
Andy
So they masturbated. Or had sex. Or looked at porn. And it felt, and I quote, “SO GOOD.” I don’t need to know about any of that. I didn’t ask to know about any of that. Even as vague as they were, it’s more specific than is appropriate for an open for that is not dedicated to talking about our sex lives without them at least providing a content warning.
Is it appropriate for me to walk up to people on the street and tell them “I’ve been having issues withy libido but last night I gave it a spin and it felt SO GOOD”? Because if it’s sexual, it’s not directly related to today’s comic, and it’s not appropriate to talk about to strangers in the street, I don’t consider it appropriate to talk about here without at least a content warning.
Rose by Any Other Name
Re Content Warnings – sure, content warnings are a good thing. No issue there.
Re Everything Else – Disagree.
Gangler
Personally I’m fine leaving it up to the author’s discretion to moderate what does and doesn’t belong in the comment section. I figure we’re in his house, we play by his rules here.
But do you really not see the significance of those comments taking place underneath a page where the characters discuss the practice of spanking? That sort of context just isn’t at all a relevant factor for you?
Because I feel like at that point we’ve run into some pretty wildly conflicting paradigms on the precise nature of a comment section. Perhaps we’re not on the same page about what everybody is commenting on here? Or perhaps not even on the same page about what a comment is in the first place?
Rose by Any Other Name
@Gangler
I didn’t say anything about the significance. I said they made me uncomfortable. Because they did. However, as you say, they were relevant.
So I ignored them.
I read other comments, or I went and watched stuff on Youtube instead of posting here.
What I didn’t do is post comments complaining that people having a conversation that didn’t involve me was something that violated my consent.
The Wellerman
? Oooo! I’m REALLY REALLY sorry if I caused any of you any stress!!!!
All I really wanted was to express how thankful I am for being surrounded by all of you, for helping me get back something important to myself, and maybe introduce some better vibes in the room then the really nauseating conflicts that have been going on here lately.
You all have the right to express yourselves on the matter, I will not deny that. But one thing’s for sure, to turn what was intended as a grand expression of gratitude for the community as a whole into yet another point of division is… pretty unfortunate. ?
Andy
I wouldn’t say you caused me stress, per se, but I don’t find it appropriate to talk about sex in specific personal terms without giving people a chance to opt out. Sometimes that chance comes in the form of the discussion being on an appropriate forum; for instance, no one could go into a subreddit devoted to sex and complain that they had no warning and didn’t give consent. Sometimes it comes in the form of putting a content warning at the start of a comment or post. I don’t know if this comment section is a wholly appropriate place in any case, but if Willis is cool with this sort of discussion, I suspect a content warning would suffice.
Rose by Any Other Name
See my post above. I’d really love to hear how “Well today, I gave it a spin” could be considered, to use your words, ‘specific personal terms’.
Rabbit
You can express your thanks without giving us the personal information that you decided to engage in whatever sexual behavior your ‘libido’ being reinvigorated entailed.
Buttery Commissar
Don’t worry on it too much, but please, consider: I also offered that suggestion because a controllable space (like a Discord or social account) is a FAR safer place to share these things, too.
Having your personal news saved on someone else’s website that you cannot edit, cannot remove, and gets viewed by tens of thousands of people per day, while tied to your username and contact info, is sweeping right past “stranger danger” into new realms of potential misadventure.
Roborat
While I will admit that your revelation was a bit surprising, I will say that the fact that you were able to find some personal happiness and credited this webcomic and the peanut gallery for helping you with your issue gives me a warm feeling. And I was impressed that you felt comfortable enough and trusting enough to reveal something that personal with a bunch of internet strangers.
Rose by Any Other Name
@The Wellerman
I would like to apologize to you about all this. Some of the above comments made me very angry (obviously). However, I should have kept in mind your commitment to good vibes and not submitted to bad ones. For that, I am truly sorry.
I think I’m going to take a break from posting comments here for a day or two to reset and refresh.
The Wellerman
It’s alright, really.
Although I agree they have been some ways in error, forgive these people, Rose.
Just like you, they’re only human. Deep down, we’re all just living things — crudely assembled piles of protein and sugar, crawling about this giant rock we call a planet.
We’re all doing our best to survive, to function, to maintain health and sanity, in an unjust, indifferent universe that doesn’t care about anyone or anything, including itself. There’s only so much that the product of 4.5 billion years worth of happy accidents can do right. ?
P.S. I’ve seen tomorrow’s strip, and you’ll DEFINITELY want to stick around! ? ?
The Wellerman
I’m just so fucking THANKFUL to be surrounded by a community of Good Demons like you and many others that have helped me feel better in these difficult times, and I am SO GRATEFUL!!! ?
Ana Chronistic
tl;dr: are you cape comics, ’cause you got issues
also cape comics are so last century
also this analogy is falling apart
like cape comics
Diner Kinetic
I’m torn between congratulating you on this amazing comment and trying to fight you to defend the honor of a genre (like any normal, healthy person on the internet would do).
Clif
I think that if a comic wants to wear a cape they should be allowed to do so.
Shadow Dreamer
There’s normal, healthy people on the internet?
Sirksome
They all tried their best. There’s always tomorrow to work on the whole being a funtioning human thing.
Sirksome
Each one of them is a little pissed off so it kind of broke out pretty even!
Thag Simmons
I would dispute this assessment.
Clif
Noted.
alongcameaspider
Sarah maybe this isn’t the best conversation to have when the other person is in physical pain and clearly trying to get back to sleep
C.T. Phipps
Yeah, it’s not her best moment to have her big epiphany about needing to care about more than just Joyce when Joyce is suffering horribly.
alongcameaspider
And unlike Dina she knew Joyce was in pain before coming in to this conversation, she was very smug about it at the start of the chapter
Alanari
Sarah wasn’t in the room when Joyce said that. This might just as well be an expression of anger, or a bit to avoid the conversation altogether from Sarah’s point of view.
Also, for women, this is not some kind of special rare situation. This returns every month for several days. You have to learn to function during period. Life doesn’t take breaks for 1/4 of the adult life. Last example from my life, my grandmother just got diagnosed with covid19, she’s not vaccinated and my period will start soon. I’ll have to handle that while being in pain, I’ll have to handle my mother going nuts for being helpless (my grandmother is basically refusing any therapy and relies on placebo and tea to cure herself) and all that on top of my usual workday. I have to function, and I have to function well. That is not something you can do if you don’t practice it.
FaerwenOfValenwood
not everyone who gets periods CAN function even if they try and practice or whatever. some have debilitating symptoms due to underlying conditions/separate health issues which exercerbate period woes (PTSD definitely counts and might apply to Joyce)
Alanari
Most folks can. For those who can’t it’s usually known to the close social circle. Not being able to da basically anything every month usually gets noticed.
Also six hours ago she could switch from “laying on the bed face down” to “full cheer mode” pretty fast when liz showed up.
Arillius
My fiance would rip me a new one for having an attitude like that. If she’s having a really bad period, I help more, simple as that. Not everyone can afford to do that with work but at the very least family should be able to understand and accept that, as well as friends.
Honestly, it sounds like your Grandmother should have gotten vaccinated, cause she decided to take an unnecessary medical risk. Why do YOU have to go out of your way to help HER over something she could control while dealing with something you can’t?
Alanari
How the hell is my boyfriend supposed to help me with a woman he literally met once for one minute? She won’t listen to him. She has zero reason to.
Yes, she should. She didn’t. Her main medical advisor is her other daughter, who believes in basically every conspiracy theory known to humankind, which is why they’re both not vaccinated (albeit they both should be). Why I should go out of my way to help her now? Is that a rhetoric question? She’s my grandmother. There’s a very real chance this kills her. And I won’t sit idle and watch. If this ends badly, I want to be able to tell myself I tried.
Arillius
About your particular situation, I’m not honestly certain. I cut all ties from my racist anti-vaccine republican family. I just don’t think you should be dismissing the fact that women SHOULD be given extra consideration for things outside their control, just like anyone else born to anything ever. The reality we live in is that they aren’t, but at the very least it SHOULD be better with your family and friends, and you going around minimizing that is not helpful for others.
alongcameaspider
She was in the room when she first said it, at the start of this chapter, as I pointed out she was very smug about it as some kind of karma thing
Josie
Good for you that you can function on your period. I can too. But not everybody can. Endo and PCOS are both very common and make for a different level of hell version of a period that my experiences just can’t compare to. The average age of diagnoses for both is usually after college, often significantly so.
geno
It’s kinda shitty demanding everyone else be perfect when you let yourself make mistakes.
RassilonTDavros
Seriously what the hell kind of epiphany did Sarah have in that car
Doctor_Who
The driver was some wise old Uncle Iroh type who gave her sage advice and then drove off never to be seen again. Somehow the charge will never actually appear on Carla’s account.
Regalli
Carla’s tech billionaire parents are paying, and apparently they own the rideshare app to begin with. Charge away, Sagelike Wisdom Driver. Charge away.
Bicycle Bill
I don’t know doodly-squat about anime characters, but the holdover of my old-school religion makes me say that the rideshare drive was actually Sarah’s guardian angel, taking a little more hands-on approach to its assigned task. And you’re right; the charge for the ride will never appear on anyone’s earthly account.
As the nuns used to tell us whenever they couldn’t fully explain how or why something had happened, “God works in mysterious ways, and it is not for us to know.” Most of the time it’s hogwash, but there are enough personal examples in my own lifetime that makes me believe it’s not ALWAYS bullshit.
Roborat
There is no stress in Ba Sen Se?
Wack'd
I don’t think it was an epiphany. I think Sarah’s known all this for a while and is having trouble acting on it. She did the thing that prioritized her own feelings by speeding away from Liz once back at Ball State, and then came back right after, realizing she fucked up.
As I mentioned further down, sometimes character development is less that you stop making mistakes, and more that the gap between making and fixing mistakes shrinks.
Reltzik
She didn’t say it was in the car, she said it was walking back into the room.
BBCC
Yeah, being a big sister is hard, Sarah. This’ll be a tough conversation but hopefully, when Joyce feels better, a productive one.
Darkoneko
Sarah likes Dina more than I expected
Thag Simmons
Dina is eminently likeable.
Sirksome
Some could say too likeable! No one person should hold that much power.
newlland(Henryvolt)