Hear, hear! Language is bloody lived, and evolves, and the grammar police need to F-off with their shit.
PB
Fine, but I’ll only give up the fight on “irregardless” when you pry it from my cold, dead hands.
walterw
fight on, but as i understand it we’ve been trying to stamp out “irregardless” for like a hundred years, it’s a linguistic cockroach that won’t quite die
Even if you look at “Strunk & White”, which is regarded as being too rigid and strict with it’s rules on word usage, it says “Years
ago, students were warned not to end a sentence with a preposition; time, of course, has softened that rigid decree. Not only is the preposition acceptable at the end, sometimes it is more effective in that spot than anywhere else.”
That “rule” was just some stuck up jerk that wanted English to be more like Latin anyway. Never truly existed in English.
Harmony
“i before e except after c”
Is false more often than it is true.
As the only fully evolved first world language, English doesn’t have rules. It has guidelines. And any attempt to make guidelines for it will leave said guidlines broken, defeated,… and ded.
walterw
“fully evolved first world language”? interesting, what do you mean?
Taellosse
Like all the best elements of the “first world”, English claims to be fundamentally superior to all its peers thanks to all the clever ideas it has shamelessly stolen from others.
walterw
a great quote i read from some linguist: “English doesn’t borrow from other languages. It follows them down dark allies,
knocks them over, and goes through their pockets for loose grammar.”
I don’t think he will. If he went back to her, he’d always be wondering if he was holding her back, because she established that dynamic early on. Plus, Lucy has never made him feel unstable in their relationship, even if he isn’t yet ready to say he loves her back because it’s too soon. Dorothy changed up their dynamic multiple times on him.
It wouldn’t be fine because he doesn’t want this. He’s got a girlfriend, he’s putting in effort to make it work, and he’s very plainly uninterested in leaving her to get back together with Dorothy. Maybe that will change later, but right now? Dorothy needs to stop.
jpnr
dunno, man
all we’ve seen seems to indicate he enjoys her company as a friend. Basically he liked how they spent time together before Dorothy pushed them together
but now he is going to double down on wanting to love Lucy and it’s going to backfire
Yeah. Walky’s phrasing here gives me cause for concern.
While the rejection of Dorothy is clear, his reasoning isn’t ‘I like Lucy’ but rather “you said I was a good boyfriend and I’m lucy’s boyfriend” as if this is a logic puzzle.
Like, I don’t feel like he’s taking responsibility for his decision. He’s somehow putting it on Dorothy as though she dubbed him ‘good boyfriend’ and now he must live up to that responsibility or something. It’s weird.
Leorale
I more interpreted this as “I’m doing a thing you won’t like, but hey, I have integrity. You like that I have integrity, it’s a good thing to have. What are you even doing, asking me to break my integrity?”
(No regrets!)
Dana
You’ll notice that Dorothy never actually asked Walky to leave Lucy in as many words. I think if she’d thought she had a shot she would have been more direct. She believed in Walky too much I think.
Mark
+1
Fealuinix
That’s how I interpreted it. He’s trying to make her see his point of view.
Jamie
Walky: Communications Major.
AntJ
Even if Walky isn’t sure he loves Lucy, he’s sure he doesn’t want to hurt her. She’s given him no reason to break up and he does enjoy her company.
Pylgrim
He’s in his late teens. “Because I must be a good boyfriend” is already way more thoughtful and considerate than most kids can do at that age. What would you have preferred? A torrid love declaration? That sort of purely emotional response is the one that can waver from one day to the next and which will be impotent in the face of the temptation to cheat.
Plonker
Say what? I once was a teenager with a girlfriend, and back then, like now, nothing you could say or do could convince me to cheat or otherwise knowingly break the heart of a romantic partner.
Not so much “must be a good boyfriend” as “mustn’t be a piece of human garbage”, maybe, but evaluates to pretty much the same thing. Also very easy to motivate – if I would not want to be treated like that, then it’s pretty obvious I shouldn’t treat someone else like that.
These are all things you ought to have mostly figured out by the time you leave tweenage and enter your teenage, though I am aware that there are some people who reach both adulthood and senility without doing so.
Felian
that sounds amazing. I wish everyone would be that mature as a young adult! however, unfortunately, that isn’t obvious to most people.
And most of all: we tend to act to our best knowledge and ability we have *at that point*. Looking back at my teens, AND at my 20s, i do have a lot of cringe moments. I know that back then, i did think i was doing the right thing to be a good partner.
But good intentions don’t always lead to good relationship dynamics.
Pylgrim
*shrug* Good on you? I hope that you got a medal, or at least got to look down on most other, hormone-driven, teenage-minded kids and feel really good about yourself.
Before you retort that maybe it’s just that I myself was a “human garbage” and that’s why I think other kids are, allow me to explain that my perspective comes from being a secondary teacher and interacting with teenagers on a daily basis. What you call “being human garbage” I call “being a stupid but non-malicious kid who doesn’t have a fucking idea of how to navigate the feelings they are suddenly experiencing and whose mind is addled both by hormones and poor role models in mass media, or perhaps at home”.
Tan
I feel like it’s more like “My answer should be obvious to you. You observed what kind of boyfriend I am, and it is not the kind who breaks up with my girlfriend I’m happy with because a ‘better’ offer comes along. You already know this about me. You had your answer before you even approached me, let alone the 5 times in this conversation already.”
Plain Marie
This. ^ ^
Needfuldoer
This++
Decidedly Orthogonal
Or he’s effectively just saying, “you /know/ why this won’t happen,” instead of trying to think of a reason it can.
aelfwine
You are treating as if being faithful isn’t an important thing and as if the most important thing is how much the other person gets you hot and bothered. Why in the world do you think that “I like Lucy” is a more important thing here than “I am faithful to Lucy”?
Fuzzy
Cuz he can break up with Lucy if he doesn’t like her?
jhennaside
I took it more like he felt Dorothy should have known what he’d do – not as him trying to measure up and/or placing the onus of what that means on Dorothy.
Like – You already recognized my good behavior, why are you expecting less of me?
(I want to clarify I’m not saying I’m right- just offering how I took it in the interest of talking about it.)
we don’t know how long it’ll last but it’s nice that it wasn’t an excuse or so or he doesn’t subconsciously look for a reason/excuse to end things with lucy even if he’s concerned about going further with lucy
though not sure if he’ll completely tell lucy about this convo with dorothy tho
Dana
Lucy would probably be better off being spared knowing.
Mark
She’ll find out when they have their talk about the L-word. “Maybe you should go back to Dorothy!” “Dorothy told me she wants me back. I told her no.” “[small voice] what???” And then real conversation begins.
I think it’s more a confidence thing than a wisdom thing. He can say ANYTHING here, no matter how profound, and his goofball status will remain intact.
“So… I lied. I cheated. I bribed men to cover the crimes of other men. I am an accessory to murder. But the most damning thing of all… I think I can live with it. And if I had to do it all over again, I would. Garak was right about one thing, a guilty conscience is a small price to pay for the safety of the Alpha Quadrant. So I will learn to live with it. Because I can live with it. I can live with it…
Computer, erase that entire personal log.”
Reltzik
Two weeks later, on Subspace Wikileaks…
C.T. Phipps
Dorothy never wanted to be Sisko. She wanted to be Janeway.
And you never go full Janeway.
Needfuldoer
Why not? You get all the nebula coffee you want.
StClair
IMO, she wanted to be Picard. Particularly the parts where you get to make great speeches, and the universe always gives you a third option where everyone wins so you never have to compromise your principles.
Suzi
I think more people would go full Janeway if they were placed in Janeways situation than most Janeway-haters would like to admit.
Janeway did what needed to be done. Most Captains never could handle it.
I don’t like the whole “they had a point” justification. Maybe Dorothy would’ve gotten here on her own, maybe she would’ve figured something else out. We’ll never know now cause Raidah had a takedown ready.
Just an Armadillo
The truth doesn’t change just because the person saying it is an asshole. Fact is Dorothy’s personality is not a good fit for politics, and that’s not going to go away now that she knows it.
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Ana Chronistic
luckily if you don’t like who Walky is boyfriend of, wait five minutes
Ana Chronistic
I WILL END THE PHRASE WITH A PREPOSITION IF I WANT TO BC NOBODY SPEAKS THE OTHER WAY
Dana
The sort of pedantry up with which Winston Churchill would not put.
Delavan
Hear, hear! Language is bloody lived, and evolves, and the grammar police need to F-off with their shit.
PB
Fine, but I’ll only give up the fight on “irregardless” when you pry it from my cold, dead hands.
walterw
fight on, but as i understand it we’ve been trying to stamp out “irregardless” for like a hundred years, it’s a linguistic cockroach that won’t quite die
ahecht
Even if you look at “Strunk & White”, which is regarded as being too rigid and strict with it’s rules on word usage, it says “Years
ago, students were warned not to end a sentence with a preposition; time, of course, has softened that rigid decree. Not only is the preposition acceptable at the end, sometimes it is more effective in that spot than anywhere else.”
a/snow/mous/e
Elements of Style is the title, just to be clear.
Emperor Norton II
That “rule” was just some stuck up jerk that wanted English to be more like Latin anyway. Never truly existed in English.
Harmony
“i before e except after c”
Is false more often than it is true.
As the only fully evolved first world language, English doesn’t have rules. It has guidelines. And any attempt to make guidelines for it will leave said guidlines broken, defeated,… and ded.
walterw
“fully evolved first world language”? interesting, what do you mean?
Taellosse
Like all the best elements of the “first world”, English claims to be fundamentally superior to all its peers thanks to all the clever ideas it has shamelessly stolen from others.
walterw
a great quote i read from some linguist: “English doesn’t borrow from other languages. It follows them down dark allies,
knocks them over, and goes through their pockets for loose grammar.”
Clif
Walky did the right thing, the fool. He’s really going to regret this.
Jamie
This is one of those situations where you’ll regret any choice you make. So you should do the right thing, because it comes with the least regrets.
Jeff K!
As I understand it, acting with integrity is supposed to leave one without regrets!
Comic.phile
I don’t think he will. If he went back to her, he’d always be wondering if he was holding her back, because she established that dynamic early on. Plus, Lucy has never made him feel unstable in their relationship, even if he isn’t yet ready to say he loves her back because it’s too soon. Dorothy changed up their dynamic multiple times on him.
Decidedly Orthogonal
Or Walky (or Dorothy, or Lucy) could broach ENM or a polycule. If he knew what those were.
They could be
aThe Triumverate.Reltzik
Lucy is way too vanilla for that.
Liliet
Is she though? Is she really?
Reltzik
But wouldn’t it be “to” instead of “of”? I mean I guess “of” works but it sounds wrong.
Ana Chronistic
I tried to rewrite that a bunch but ehhhh effort
Vukodlak
Wham you go Walky!
Chronos
A lot of the time, I find that Walky kind of annoys me. Here, though, these last few strips, he’s a goddamned paragon of an awesome human being.
Enkrod
I find Walky only annoys me when it’s about himself, I feel like he’s always been great with other people.
Chronos
Hm.
I should try and focus on that, see if that’s what bugs me about him.
Just an Armadillo
Good shit Walky. Never doubted you.
C.T. Phipps
I mean, breaking up with Lucy would be fine.
Just tell her.
Just an Armadillo
It wouldn’t be fine because he doesn’t want this. He’s got a girlfriend, he’s putting in effort to make it work, and he’s very plainly uninterested in leaving her to get back together with Dorothy. Maybe that will change later, but right now? Dorothy needs to stop.
jpnr
dunno, man
all we’ve seen seems to indicate he enjoys her company as a friend. Basically he liked how they spent time together before Dorothy pushed them together
but now he is going to double down on wanting to love Lucy and it’s going to backfire
as Sal said: this relationship was pre-screwed
Rose by Any Other Name
Yeah. Walky’s phrasing here gives me cause for concern.
While the rejection of Dorothy is clear, his reasoning isn’t ‘I like Lucy’ but rather “you said I was a good boyfriend and I’m lucy’s boyfriend” as if this is a logic puzzle.
Like, I don’t feel like he’s taking responsibility for his decision. He’s somehow putting it on Dorothy as though she dubbed him ‘good boyfriend’ and now he must live up to that responsibility or something. It’s weird.
Leorale
I more interpreted this as “I’m doing a thing you won’t like, but hey, I have integrity. You like that I have integrity, it’s a good thing to have. What are you even doing, asking me to break my integrity?”
(No regrets!)
Dana
You’ll notice that Dorothy never actually asked Walky to leave Lucy in as many words. I think if she’d thought she had a shot she would have been more direct. She believed in Walky too much I think.
Mark
+1
Fealuinix
That’s how I interpreted it. He’s trying to make her see his point of view.
Jamie
Walky: Communications Major.
AntJ
Even if Walky isn’t sure he loves Lucy, he’s sure he doesn’t want to hurt her. She’s given him no reason to break up and he does enjoy her company.
Pylgrim
He’s in his late teens. “Because I must be a good boyfriend” is already way more thoughtful and considerate than most kids can do at that age. What would you have preferred? A torrid love declaration? That sort of purely emotional response is the one that can waver from one day to the next and which will be impotent in the face of the temptation to cheat.
Plonker
Say what? I once was a teenager with a girlfriend, and back then, like now, nothing you could say or do could convince me to cheat or otherwise knowingly break the heart of a romantic partner.
Not so much “must be a good boyfriend” as “mustn’t be a piece of human garbage”, maybe, but evaluates to pretty much the same thing. Also very easy to motivate – if I would not want to be treated like that, then it’s pretty obvious I shouldn’t treat someone else like that.
These are all things you ought to have mostly figured out by the time you leave tweenage and enter your teenage, though I am aware that there are some people who reach both adulthood and senility without doing so.
Felian
that sounds amazing. I wish everyone would be that mature as a young adult! however, unfortunately, that isn’t obvious to most people.
And most of all: we tend to act to our best knowledge and ability we have *at that point*. Looking back at my teens, AND at my 20s, i do have a lot of cringe moments. I know that back then, i did think i was doing the right thing to be a good partner.
But good intentions don’t always lead to good relationship dynamics.
Pylgrim
*shrug* Good on you? I hope that you got a medal, or at least got to look down on most other, hormone-driven, teenage-minded kids and feel really good about yourself.
Before you retort that maybe it’s just that I myself was a “human garbage” and that’s why I think other kids are, allow me to explain that my perspective comes from being a secondary teacher and interacting with teenagers on a daily basis. What you call “being human garbage” I call “being a stupid but non-malicious kid who doesn’t have a fucking idea of how to navigate the feelings they are suddenly experiencing and whose mind is addled both by hormones and poor role models in mass media, or perhaps at home”.
Tan
I feel like it’s more like “My answer should be obvious to you. You observed what kind of boyfriend I am, and it is not the kind who breaks up with my girlfriend I’m happy with because a ‘better’ offer comes along. You already know this about me. You had your answer before you even approached me, let alone the 5 times in this conversation already.”
Plain Marie
This. ^ ^
Needfuldoer
This++
Decidedly Orthogonal
Or he’s effectively just saying, “you /know/ why this won’t happen,” instead of trying to think of a reason it can.
aelfwine
You are treating as if being faithful isn’t an important thing and as if the most important thing is how much the other person gets you hot and bothered. Why in the world do you think that “I like Lucy” is a more important thing here than “I am faithful to Lucy”?
Fuzzy
Cuz he can break up with Lucy if he doesn’t like her?
jhennaside
I took it more like he felt Dorothy should have known what he’d do – not as him trying to measure up and/or placing the onus of what that means on Dorothy.
Like – You already recognized my good behavior, why are you expecting less of me?
(I want to clarify I’m not saying I’m right- just offering how I took it in the interest of talking about it.)
anon
we don’t know how long it’ll last but it’s nice that it wasn’t an excuse or so or he doesn’t subconsciously look for a reason/excuse to end things with lucy even if he’s concerned about going further with lucy
though not sure if he’ll completely tell lucy about this convo with dorothy tho
Dana
Lucy would probably be better off being spared knowing.
Mark
She’ll find out when they have their talk about the L-word. “Maybe you should go back to Dorothy!” “Dorothy told me she wants me back. I told her no.” “[small voice] what???” And then real conversation begins.
Doctor_Who
I have decided that standing on that snow pile gives Walky a +2 to Wisdom.
UrsulaDavina
Snowpile of Inspired wisdom +2, also he’s been standing in it long enough to atune to it
TrueVCU
I mean, Gravel Pile of Inspired Wisdom now. Maybe it only works AFTER the snow is gone?
Dorje Sylas
When the ephemeral glittery snow has melt, only the dirty rocky truth remains.
davidbreslin101
Maybe Walky has /become/ the snow on the mound, taking
its cold, bright wisdom for his own?
not someone else
Damn, he already got a +2 inherent Cha bonus lately, he must be grinding those levels.
Needfuldoer
But how many adventures does the buff last for after he leaves the area?
Psychie
I assume it works like the ceremony spell, so 7 days after the last time he spent at least an hour standing on it.
Reltzik
I think it’s more a confidence thing than a wisdom thing. He can say ANYTHING here, no matter how profound, and his goofball status will remain intact.
Sirksome
But you admit what Raidah said was bullshit right? Like we can reset the day erasing that and Dorothy can come out okay.
C.T. Phipps
Dorothy: I mean, yes, I CAN be a war criminal if I want. I’d be really good at it.
Dana
She would be excellent if she wanted to, but she can’t want to.
Needfuldoer
“So… I lied. I cheated. I bribed men to cover the crimes of other men. I am an accessory to murder. But the most damning thing of all… I think I can live with it. And if I had to do it all over again, I would. Garak was right about one thing, a guilty conscience is a small price to pay for the safety of the Alpha Quadrant. So I will learn to live with it. Because I can live with it. I can live with it…
Computer, erase that entire personal log.”
Reltzik
Two weeks later, on Subspace Wikileaks…
C.T. Phipps
Dorothy never wanted to be Sisko. She wanted to be Janeway.
And you never go full Janeway.
Needfuldoer
Why not? You get all the nebula coffee you want.
StClair
IMO, she wanted to be Picard. Particularly the parts where you get to make great speeches, and the universe always gives you a third option where everyone wins so you never have to compromise your principles.
Suzi
I think more people would go full Janeway if they were placed in Janeways situation than most Janeway-haters would like to admit.
Janeway did what needed to be done. Most Captains never could handle it.
Thag Simmons
Here’s the problem, it’s really not. Raidah had a point, and if it wasn’t her it would have been something else, this was building for a while
Sirksome
I don’t like the whole “they had a point” justification. Maybe Dorothy would’ve gotten here on her own, maybe she would’ve figured something else out. We’ll never know now cause Raidah had a takedown ready.
Just an Armadillo
The truth doesn’t change just because the person saying it is an asshole. Fact is Dorothy’s personality is not a good fit for politics, and that’s not going to go away now that she knows it.