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979 thoughts on “Restore”
Ana Chronistic
fixed that for you
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open toe, insert mouth…?? o_O
saki
All of the imaginary upvotes for you!
Ellen
http://www.dumbingofage.com/2015/comic/book-6/01-to-those-whod-ground-me/facetoface/#comment-865764
For anyone still wondering when Becky had time to dial 911… predicted it two strips ago. Her dialogue confronting her dad about kidnapping, gun-waving was all entirely deliberate so the operator has heard ALL of it.
Anyway, where was I? Oh yes…
*sits on edge of seat awaiting tomorrow’s strip*
Dreadhawk177
All the upvotes to you! All hail the great predictor of the storyline!
Tofusmith
How much does it matter, though, when a cell phone can’t exactly be location-traced by emergency operators?
Ellen
Oh but it can be! GPS signal can be traced (and probably has been). I see no reason why Dina’s phone wouldn’t have GPS turned on.
Porthos9438
In a situation like this the police contact the cellular carrier and have them activate the GPS for them and start tracking. (Used to do tech support for Verizon, and this was covered.) So yeah, once the police operator hears kidnapped and gunpoint, especially considering that there was a massive response, Toedad will soon get the whole police boot.
Ellen
And even in the absence of GPS signal, they can triangulate the cell signal from cell tower locations. Don’t know how long that takes. Usually the limitation is that cell tower isn’t super precise, but not really an issue when they’re driving down what is probably a main highway. Not many places they could be, not much place else to go. They’ll send cops to trail the vehicle and also to head them off.
Wafflebob
So having worked for land line and cell phone companies, here’s what i’m aware of. Old cell phones are not 911 compatible. 3g phones can triangulate because they connect to the 3 closest towers in range. 4g phones only connect to 1 tower and can’t be triangulated but their gps can be remotely and discreetly activated in the even of an emergency.
Ellen
Cool, useful information! I think Dina would have a relatively new cell phone. 3G or 4G for sure. We know her parents aren’t hurting for cash – they contributed $200 to a date-with-girlfriend fund, right?
matt
A quick google search of what you just said cleared (and contradicted you) a few things up because my one close friend who worked in a call center got calls from cell phones all the time. First, old cell phones were compatible with dialing 911. They just didnt submit geographical data. Second, 911 dispatchers can use the carrier towers to attempt to triangulate your position. Even if your phone only connects to one, it still can get pinged by others giving them an approximate location if given time.
Sorry for any grammer/spelling issues, working on a cell phone ironically enough.
Kryss LaBryn
Yeah, I was just gonna say that my cell phone is an old-fashioned flip phone that can only make calls and send texts and take pics, it’s not remotely “smart” (but the battery will last for like a week, and a phone in my pocket that will last for a week in an emergency WAY beats say my husband’s smart phone that can translate French and stuff but whose battery won’t last me to the grocery store if he leaves the GPS on), but it absolutely can make 911 calls; I can think of two times in the last couple years I’ve called 911 on it (to report fires in the middle of the night). Works just fine. I have no idea how many towers it connects to, though.
I do know you can’t call 911 from Skype, though. Never have tried it, but Skype says it won’t work and I believe they block the calls because of idiots making prank calls to other parts of the country. Harder to trace a Skype call; may be impossible to a phone line, don’t know.
JetstreamGW
All phones are required to be compatible with 911. They couldn’t legally operate the service or sell the pones if they couldn’t access the emergency system.
WolfLann
Unless where you live don’t have a emergency system.
We can’t use 911 here either from cell phones or land lines.
Needfuldoer
If anyone reported the armed kidnapping after they left the fountain, it shouldn’t take long to put 2 and 2 together.
Trousle Undrhil
Based on the conversation in today’s strip and the fact that cell phone numbers can be traced back to a person, I think Dina’s father is about to get a visit from the police. Since no one has identified Toedad as more than “I AM YOUR FATHER”.
Heck, with that line, Darth Vader will be getting a visit from the police too….
DinaWho
They’re going to be tracing the location of the phone here, not the owner. I think Dina’s father will be just fine.
saki
Cops can trace cell phones! ^^ Even if it weren’t possible, it’s still helpful for them to know what the situation is. 911’s sure to have received dozens of calls the gunshots, and they should have been able to get the car’s description, so they can find it even without the call trace.
Durandal_1707
And anyway, now that the jig’s up about the 911 call anyway, she can just shout the name of the street they’re on anyway without giving anything up.
Bladeglory
It doesn’t help much with the situation at hand, but it will absolutely damn him later. If the previous incidents weren’t enough to get him put away, this means he will never get Becky back now. Somebody could argue that he was just using scare tactics back at the fountain, but after slapping Becky, saying he owns her, and general murder threats, any lawyer will have a really hard time convincing anybody he’s fit to be loose, let alone within 150 feet of Becky.
Annie
Yeah, I have to admit that I’m really hoping when all this is settled, that Becky gets a restraining order against her dad and cuts contact with him permanently.
Is it also sad that I’m glad that there are characters that cut contact with toxic, abusive parents?
So often if someone finds out that you’ve voluntarily cut contact with a parent, they think *you* are the bad guy in that scenario and many times don’t feel shy about telling you so. I think this may happen more when you cut off a mother than a father, but it’s still good to see characters in various media that have done it.
Not all parents are unconditionally loving. Not all parents try the best they can. Some are completely toxic and will go to extreme lengths to bring their child(ren) down as low as they can go.
The more media shows characters that have cut off their parents, and the very, very good reasons behind it, maybe the more real people will understand that almost no one cuts contact with their parents for funsies. Most do it to save themselves from further long-term physical and/or emotional abuse.
Maybe if cutting off a toxic parent becomes more commonplace in various forms of media, fewer people will feel the need to belittle or look down on people that do it and more victims will fell confident enough and have enough support that they can break away.
Koms
I feel you, dude. From personal experience and from coming from a culture that puts parents on an often undeserved pedestal, I can tell you that there are parents who have no business being parents.
Mom
Thank you.
Ntrovert60
Very, very well said. I am also sad that this is so true, but I am glad you shared this. Thank you for sharing on such an emotionally important yet little-discussed topic.
Unfortunately, there are times when the answer is to cut ties, or at the very least, to make a BIG space in a relationship that may have become toxic. Sometimes it gets better, and you can repair the relationship later. But sometimes not, and as sad as it is, that is sometimes for the best.
Savail
Hear, hear!
I’m fortunate enough to finally be at a point where it seems some of my relatives on the estranged parent’s side are realizing what a colossally horrible person he is and that I didn’t cut ties from those relatives because I wanted to, but because I had to to make that clean break. (I still feel undeservedly guilty for cutting him from my life sometimes, but I know it was the right call…everything is so much better mental health-wise since I did so)
It seems like we have this mentality as a society (well…at least here in the States in our media) that if it’s not physical abuse, it doesn’t count. Even if we say that emotional abuse and verbal abuse are not okay, we don’t seem to really FEEL it as a people. If we did, I think a lot of us ACONs would be a lot happier and feel a lot less undeservedly guilty.
Always remember, your friends and family wouldn’t stand for you to have a significant other treating you badly. Being family doesn’t give someone the excuse to treat you poorly either. Blood is just that–blood.
Ruby Droplets
“Blood is thicker than Water” <- Misquote
"The Blood of the Covenant is thicker than the Water of the Womb" <- The thing that is true.
ozzi
Science proves that viscosity of blood is the same, no matter the source. Your religious nonsense is the reason Ross is in this situation.
RandomRedMage
I cut ties with my mother. She was a toxic person in my life. I love her dearly. But I cant spend time with her.
Bantha
“Maybe if cutting off a toxic parent becomes more commonplace in various forms of media, fewer people will feel the need to belittle or look down on people that do it and more victims will fell confident enough and have enough support that they can break away.”
Well not to spoiler for anyone so I won’t mention the name…but you may be getting your wish. A popular show did just this on a recent episode 🙂 Not entirely the same situation…but close enough.
Feral
Well said, and even parents who do seem to be trying their best can sometimes be dangerous to their children’s wellbeing.
Porthos9438
A restraining order wouldn’t be necessary for about 20 years. Considering the rash of school shootings in recent years, his comments on the phone will get him zero leniency or mercy.
Porthos9438
Regardless of the fate of Becky (Hope its a good one), Toedad’s life as he knows it is over. Weather he surrenders, or commits suicide by cop, he’s done. And after those last comments I SERIOUSLY don’t want him to have his moment of redemption…at least not soon.
Annie
Thanks for the support everyone. And I really am sorry that anyone else has to deal with a parent so toxic that they’re forced to cut contact.
I actually haven’t 100% cut contact, but only because it would mean cutting ties with my grandparents whom I love dearly and have been more loving parent-like figures to me than my mother has been.
I *have* put a lot of distance between us. Literally and figuratively. I can’t move back to my hometown, my favorite city in the country, because she would never leave me or my family alone if I did.
I only see her 2 days a year, never allow my son to be alone with her, and my husband tries to never leave *me* alone with her.
In my case, she’s mentally ill (narcissistic personality disorder and bi-polar disorder), but absolutely feels that she is not, so getting her to get treatment for it, be it meds or therapy, isn’t ever going to happen.
Some of my family members are finally starting to see why I moved in with my dad when I was a teen. At the time they thought I was a selfish, cruel little brat for doing it, but the older she gets, the harder it’s getting for her to hide her true nature around others. People are finally starting to realize that she’s not the poor, innocent little victim that she always claims to be.
The guilt is awful. I know I’m doing the right thing for myself and my own family. I actually wish I could figure out a way to totally cut her off without hurting my grandparents since almost every conversation with her leaves me feeling like I’m going to have a panic attack.
Even so, I still feel guilty and like a shitty human being. And acquaintances and near-strangers feeling the need to tell me that I’ll regret it when she’s gone or that you should *always* respect your parents because no matter what they love you and are trying their best doesn’t help. It makes me feel guilty despite knowing that once she’s gone my only regret will be that I didn’t get out of her house and away from her at a younger age, and knowing that she never tried her best and that she doesn’t actually love me. The woman doesn’t even like me.
I’m actually looking forward to the day when people that are abused by their parents, even verbally and/or emotionally, are told “if you feel you need to get away or cut contact, do it. And I will be here to help you through it” rather than given a guilt trip or scolded for being a horrible person.
Mom
I don’t know if you’ll see this Annie but *hug*. I’m going through the same thing with my own mom.
Don’t let the username fool you, I just chose it for the barrels of laughs I get when people start running with it. “Hi mom!”
Savail
Like Mom said, I don’t know if you’ll see this either, but I know what you mean. My estranged parent has brain cancer. When I said “so?”, so many people treated me like the scum of the earth because “OMG UR DAD HAVE CANCER U WILL MISS HIM.” No. No I won’t. Terminal illnesses don’t equate to a clean slate; don’t let anyone convince you otherwise unless it’s what YOU want.
For fuck’s sake, a large part of why I didn’t want to have a wedding was because I was afraid of him showing up. College graduation? I wasn’t even going to send invites until my mum made me…because I was afraid of him showing up. Don’t let family and friends bully you into things that you don’t feel are right for you or your family. Just because they might mean well doesn’t make them right. You’re the one who has to live with the results, not them.
Strangeshapes
Agreed. And frankly unless he can physically take her like he’s doing now, she’s 18 and he has no legal authority over her. That 911 call and the fountain shot would be enough for a restraining order, I would think.
Commodore Jeep-Eep
Given how he behaves, a restraining order would likely achieve jack-squat. He needs to be locked up.
Arquinsiel
Actually if you dig into things you’ll find that phones are great tracking devices. There was a case here a few months back where a man was convicted of murder basically by phone location data. It’s basically a constant broadcasting tracking beacon with conveniently accessible recording.
Historyman68
Serial?
Arquinsiel
Nope, just the one murder. Proving phone ownership and the location data showed that the two people went to the location where the body was found together, but only one left. The Graham Dwyer case in Ireland if you’re morbidly curious. Trigger warning: dude is a Gorean.
ozzi
A Pig person?
leadsynth
I think Historyman68 was referring to the podcast Serial, which last year did in-depth coverage on a murder case that used cell phone records/maps as evidence. I dunno if you could say that Adnan was convicted “by phone location data,” though, because the phone location data didn’t fully support the testimony of the prosecution’s star witness, Jay… Man, that case was a tangled web.
TheLurkerAbove
Yes they can, it’s part of the requirements put in place:
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Enhanced_9-1-1#Wireless_enhanced_911
bonzombiekitty
I used to work in this particular industry, and yeah cell phones are supposed to be able to be located when they call 911. There’s a couple different ways of doing that – either via the phone itself reporting its location or using the cell phone towers to figure out the location (using a variety of different means). I used to work for a company that did the latter means of location. It’d essentially work well with any phone as long as the phone was on, but required some really expensive equipment in the cell towers.
TrueVCU
Wait, has she been on with 911 for 47 min or 47 seconds?
Ellen
47 seconds.
Athedia
I just went back and looked at in the bottom left of the second panel on Oct 27 there is “tap, tap, tap” that must have been her dialing.
Ellen
Yes, precisely. That’s what clued me in! Someone initially pointed out the taps and wondered if Becky was texting, but I figured three taps would be odd for a keyboarded message (not to mention an impractically slow tactic on Becky’s part). Conversely, as I suspected, three taps aligned VERY well to dialling a 3-digit number. 🙂
Howard Bannister
…because Becky wasn’t going to call to save herself from her dad, from being taken away at gunpoint. It didn’t occur to her.
She called because somebody else was in danger from her dad.
…
merbrat
Very good point!
(Love your “identity”. Must rewatch that. Madalyn Khan’s voice is telling me to)
TheLurkerAbove
Shit, I missed that detail. Well done, Willis.
Jason
Oh man, thank you so much for posting that link. Somehow- SOMEHOW- I missed that page. (It’s not the first time, doubt it’s the last.) It does throw more light onto the situation…
Shade
Not to mention the tap, tap, tap sound effect coming from her lap before she started the conversation.
Pat
She clearly called 911 47 seconds ago.
Liam
Yeah 2nd panel, you can see the “tap tap tap”
Bagge
AWESOME!!!!! Yup, you are NOT Becky’s father any longer. You are just ToeJerk now.
xKiv
ToeCancer.
Porthos9438
I don’t know if anyone else has said this already, but I will laugh my ass off if Toedad’s real name turns out to be Stubb. (And yes, that is a real men’s name. I have an uncle Stubb.
leadsynth
His name is definitely Ross — but his middle name could totally be Stubb. Ross Stubb MacIntyre.
Liam
2 strips ago, second panel “tap tap tap”.
Ellen
Had you followed the link I posted, you would see that the “tap tap tap” indeed led to the first predictions that Becky calling 911.
Ellen
*was calling
otusasio451
…Just…FUCK you, Ross. Right in the eyes.
TheBloodsuckerProxy
Right?
Speedball
RIGHT. Jesus. He’s gone straight into “you are my property” territory. God DAMN it.
I’m now fully convinced he’s hurt Dina terribly and shrugged it off as her being less than human, hence, “I didn’t hurt anyone.” ASSHOLE.
DarkoNeko
I’m pretty sure he knocked her out cold.
detective boomwolf
Sound like grounds for unbriddled hatred towards him to me. Heck, he could’ve glarred at a puppy on his way there and I’dve been cheesed off with him.
TheNinthShader
So… fuck his eyes….with your penis?
ozzi
with a fox penis, 120 barbs.
TheGrammarLegionary
I think he’s only now crossing that line in his mind. I don’t think he’s hurt Dina yet, and he just left her mildly injured in the woods. In his head, Becky putting hands on him was a wake-up call to just how far his daughter has fallen. Now, in response to that escalation, he’s escalating himself.
At least, this is what I keep telling myself, desperately hoping I’m right.
Annie
What gets me is there are so many strict fundamentalists that really DO think a woman is the property of her father until the moment she’s married and then she’s the property of her husband. And they think that situation is ideal!
I heard one guy say he didn’t understand why women needed to vote, because if the woman is a good wife she will vote the way her husband tells her to anyway.
I overheard it while I was in a doctor’s waiting room and I had to go out in to the hall to keep myself from decking the guy.
I’ve also read blogs that basically say that the reason why any sexual contact (this often means kissing and *anything* more intimate than that) before marriage is immoral because up to the moment you’re married it still remains possible that God really intends the girl to marry someone else. That means that if the boy touches her in a way that’s even remotely sexual, he could be damaging the property of another man. And just the way you wouldn’t scratch up some other man’s car, you shouldn’t defile another man’s future wife.
The attitudes in those cults can be really, really sick!
Dragon_Nataku
Isn’t asking the father for his daughter’s hand in marriage pretty much along those same lines though?
I’ve always found that idea to be insulting cause I am not my father’s property ^=__=^ made even worse by my dad explicitly stating he’d want a guy to ask him, and we’re not even religious. gg mysogyny
Gareth
Well, nowadays, rather than permission, they often ask for their “Blessing” to marry. In my opinion, this is better. After all, if the dad says no, that doesn’t mean you won’t get married, just means you don’t have some assholes blessing.
SDGlyph
Yes, I did that during my newish-Christian, not-yet-questioning phase. More for my then-fiancée’s sake, as she’d been brought up to expect it, but I was explicit as I did it that I was asking for his blessing only – not his permission – and that the decision was hers. He could have withheld that if he didn’t approve of me (which he did, I should point out), but we both agreed that he couldn’t tell her who to marry or not marry. (Not that it worked out in the end, but heigh ho.)
DSL
Always nice to automatically regard the father of the person you want to be your life-mate as “some asshole.” (sarcasm, for those of you who need to have that explained)
Pat
If he thinks he owns his daughter and her fiance needs his permission, than he has identified himself as “some asshole” without any help.
John
In this context, it’s not just the father of the person you want to be your life-mate. It’s said father refusing to give his approval to his daughter marrying the person she wants to be her life-mate. In that situation, it’s a pretty good bet that someone involved is an asshole, and if you’re taking as given that you’re not, it’s probably him.