She’s a balancing influence the same way Dina is to Becky.
I do hope we actually learn a bit more about her, I’d like to explore a bit more of her identity beyond just Carla’s absent-minded girlfriend, the same way Dina gets some interactions with Joyce and Joe.
I suspect that this wasn’t meant to be a morally ambiguous storyline with Bulmeria’s genocide being an obvious RL stand-in and pure evil. A lot of people brought up the OTHER arms supplying event going on, though, that hasn’t been referenced in the comic, though. I.e the Eastern European crisis where the LACK of US support is a moral deficiency. I don’t think that’s going to come up, though. I think the Ruttech storyline will solely be about Carla confronting her parents are involved in something pure evil not gray.
Could be a case where Ruttech doesn’t make weapons directly but they make a specific useful thing that has multiple applications, including weapons, and they just don’t really care what people do with the thing once they’ve sold it.
And I just re-read your comment and realized I misunderstood it. Sorry.
Olofa
” ‘Once rockets go up
who cares where they come down? That’s not my department‘
says Wernher von Braun.”
Tom Lehrer
drs
At some point I’d say it stops being their problem. Like if missiles were built using civilian Nvidia GPUs, that’s not really an Nvidia issue…
KM
Actually… You should know the USG can and does sanction possible sales of dual use computer tech to nations it considers hostile. NVIDIA is forbidden from selling certain GPUs to china for example
I think saying the lack of US arms is a moral deficiency is kinda missing the point. The US has had multiple opportunities to facilitate the end of the conflict but has instead chosen to prolong it with arms support. While withdrawal of that support and outright surrender is not a good result, I think we, as citizens and sometimes activists, must maintain a dedication to peace and life, which means fighting for and end to military profiteering, not just when the people on the other end of those weapons are non-belligerents. The protection racketeering and hyper militarization from the US must stop if atrocities like these are ever going to end.
There has been no opportunity to end the Ukraine conflict on any terms what would be remotely acceptable. Anything offered by Russia has been designed both to keep conquered territory and prevent Ukraine from being able to defend itself should Russia choose to attack again. OTOH, greater support early on, might have enabled Ukraine to push Russia out of it’s territories and strike an actual deal. “Might have” – there are a lot of complexities in all of that.
There’s no sense in which “protection racketeering and hyper militarization from the US” caused the invasion of Ukraine. Other countries like Russia have agency too.
I actually love the way Palpatine’s return recontextualizes the earlier movies.
He was obviously intending to steal Luke’s body in Jedi, and even more obviously trying to push Anakin to the same point in Sith, so he could steal the most force-capable body ever.
Two of the sequels are very good. Unfortunately though, somehow Palpatine had returned
Thag Simmons
Rise of Skywalker extremely sucks, but it’s too pathetic to truly hate.
The real venom should be reserved for Force Awakens, which in hindsight basically burned the future of the franchise for a short-term nostalgia hit and left it’s sequels to try to cook with the ashes.
jubs
See, this is a take I can’t personally understand. Force Awakens is what it is, but Last Jedi was already unwatchably bad. I have tried a few times and it is just impossible to get through the movie. And everyone I’ve ever heard say anything about the movies has said that Rise is even worse.
But of course everyone can like what they want, I’m sure I love many movies that others would hate.
Corey C.
To be perfectly honest, “Last Jedi,” while having MANY flaws, remains my favorite of the sequels, mainly because they tried something new. Rey’s parents being nobodies were supposed to show that you didn’t need to have “Chosen One” blood to be a great Jedi. When Luke fought Kylo Ren he moved completely defensively, the perfect example of how a Jedi was supposed to fight. Kylo killing Snoke and taking his place, despite being a repeat of “Return of the Jedi,” did show that Kylo was SUPPOSED to be irredeemable and I MUCH would have preferred him to be the final boss of the trilogy instead of Palpatine, especially since his final battle as a villain was the ONLY part of “Rise of Skywalker” I LIKED. But what I loved about “Last Jedi,” more than anything else in the trilogy, was Ghost Yoda burning the Jedi Library and telling Luke that the ancient Jedi weren’t saints and they made mistakes, same as Luke, and he needs to stop romanticizing the past and try something different; to teach Rey about his failures and see if she can find work-arounds so that the next generation wouldn’t be bound to repeat them. I found that message to be directed at the audience, who were getting tired of “Star Wars” repeating the same plot but at the same time thought the original trilogy was sacred and didn’t want ANYTHING re-contextualized, but unfortunately the fans rejected the message and we had Rey being part of a literal Royal Bloodline and Kylo being Anakin 2.0. Rise of Skywalker threw out EVERYTHING Last Jedi attempted to dish out and replaced it all with “safe” nostalgia and it just didn’t work.
Freemage
I agree with your take on Last Jedi’s themes and intent. Unfortunately, I am also forced to admit that there were several aspects of the film’s crafting that were just plain bad. Pacing was a problem in particular (the casino/race arc should’ve been one, maybe two scenes in their entirety–constantly cutting back to it and trying to build it up was just a mistake). Rose’s “Love, love, love” dialogue was also in need of a serious re-write; again, the message is sound, but if you can’t make the dialogue itself compelling, the message is going to be lost for most folks.
Basically, my issue with Last Jedi is that whenever I see it, I think about the movie it should have been (which, again, would still have all the same themes).
I thought I was the only one that also think Last Jedi is the best one
Li
Nah, it’s a reasonably popular opinion. Folks who think that just aren’t anywhere near as loud as the people for whom it ruined their childhoods.
I also feel bad for the people who didn’t like Last Jedi for perfectly normal reasons, because they’ve gotta deal with the embarrassment of sharing an opinion with some of the Worst People on the Internet.
Decidedly Orthogonal
There’s problems everywhere, but what is unforgivable to me, is after Han’s death, when the Falcon returns from the battle in TFA, Chewie and Leia — Han’s closest companions — just… walk past each other like they don’t even know they exist, never mind the grief they both carry.
Say what you want about the prequels, at least they were about something (how democracies become facist dictatorships)
The only thing the sequels were about was recouping the costs of Disney buying Star Wars (except The Last Jedi but of course that’s the one everyone hates)
Rise of Skywalker is a Sequel and also absolute total trash. Ep VII is serviceable if uninspired, VIII is a dumpster fire of not following established lore and physics and IX is trying to retcon VIII while not doing it well and also bringing every bad idea from the EU in. The Last Jedi is a bad movie and a terrible Star Wars movie, The Rise of Skywalker is a huge mess that should have never been released.
The Last Jedi is the best Star Wars movie and I genuinely don’t understand how anyone can be a Star Wars fan and not like it because it is the most Star Wars one
Thag Simmons
Last Jedi is very clearly the good one of the sequels, but only like a third of it is actually firing on all cylinders and it’s sandwiched between 7 and 9, which both suck.
It goes in with Revenge of the Sith in the messy but compelling camp.
jflb96
I’d love to read the novel that The Last Jedi is a jank adapatation of, if we’re assuming that that carries over
Thag Simmons
I don’t like Last Jedi all that much, it’s like a high 6/10, but it did convince me that under better circumstances Rian Johnson could have made a damn good Star Wars and I would very much like to visit the alternate universe where he got to direct Episode 7. Ideally the entire trilogy, but even just the first one being done by someone with a vision who could lay a better foundation than just doing the originals again
ESM
Force Awakens basically invalidates the ending of the original trilogy by having the empire come right back and also Luke Skywalker doesn’t care about that for reasons Rian Johnson has to figure out.
There’s about 10-15 minutes of Last Jedi that’s phenomenal but the climax of the Poe/Holdo storyline is Leia shooting Poe for his insubordination that got the whole rebellion killed and then her and immediately Holdo start fangirling about how cool Poe is and that’s maybe indicative of some issues with that storyline…
Rise of Skywalker is just Force Awakens again except more obviously.
Last Jedi is so bad it’s physically impossible for me to get through it, without being tied down. I have tried several times. It’s horrid. The Room is unironically a better movie than Last Jedi, and most of the oeuvre Neil Breen is more watchable.
jflb96
Fascinated to explore why you think that. What’s so wrong with it that it’s worse than Neil Breen and The Room?
yak
it’s less fun to joke about with your friends. It’s not even so bad it’s good.
That said, it is far from the worst movie I’ve sat through.
Veronica
My favourite thing about The Last Jedi is how every trailer had the shot of Luke saying “This isn’t going to go the way you think” and then all the fans got mad it didn’t go the way they thought
Last Jedi is the franchise equivalent of staggering six paces forward after being cut in half by a samurai sword by the previous movie before exploding into a gory mess in the sequel. I don’t think I like it very much but it’s about as good as it could reasonably be expected to be.
Fuck, Carla’s never been more relatable to me. Not even with regards to her gender identity (whole different can of worms), but having these pillars of support you wouldn’t be around to complain about if they hadn’t been there for you when no one else was.
Then they do and believe things that run counter to what you’ve grown to believe is right and just.
What point does gratitude and love become subservience and weakness of character?
This is so interesting because we’ve heard Carla say her parents are great, and that she loves them, but for her to be so scared to express her thoughts to them… maybe they aren’t so perfect. I can speak my mind with my father and express myself knowing that he’ll sincerely love me no matter what. I’ve actually had very lovely and enlightening conversations with him about my gender expression and sexuality (and learned in turn that if my dad were born in a more current generation, he’d probably consider himself bi). Not everyone has that, not every parent is safe to do that with. Let alone something as delicate as the way they make money.
Could be several things:
– could be that Carla’s afraid they’ll get mad
– could be that Carla’s afraid they won’t get mad, but she won’t like their answers.
Sometimes it’s less about “I’m secretly afraid of the person I love” and more about “I’m secretly afraid to lose faith in/respect for the person I love”
Also, sometimes you’re afraid of how someone will react for rational reasons and sometimes you’re afraid of how someone will react because of clinical anxiety. Growing up with your parents as “the only friends you had” is a good recipie for less than rational fears about losing their aproval for disagreeing with them.
Tequila Mockingbird
This. It’s important to remember that a lot of times anxiety tells you that people will leave you for very minor offenses even though that makes zero sense given what you know of them rationally.
I cannot count the number of times I’ve been afraid to come forward about something (that in hindsight was actually pretty dang minor) to my mom, my family, a friend, and when I finally “cave” and tell them, their response is always “wait, you thought I’d be mad about that?”
My mom, my friends, my family, all are wonderful people who have my back through thick and thin. Anxiety does not care. It will still make you paranoid that some tiny disagreement or transgression will be the “last straw” and ruin everything.
Carla’s parents may similarly be wonderful, but I don’t doubt that experiencing that rejection from her peers that she mentioned resulted in a measure of hyper-awareness and fear of losing the little support she *did* get.
When people hurt or betray you, it can sometimes result in you being paranoid even of those who stuck by you. You start to wonder how transient *any* love and support really is. The more precious and vital such love and support she did receive made her that much more frightened about its fragility.
It is absolutely possible that her parents have not made it okay to question them about certain things, but it is also equally possible that it has more to do with Carla’s trauma dealing with literally everyone else she’s ever trusted where she has repeatedly discovered that there exists a line that has on one side love & support and on the other side disgust and condemnation. Even if her parents have never given any indication that they have such a line…. Neither do other people, until you cross it.
I think it’s more that she’s built them up in her mind to be perfect, and she’s afraid to confront the possibility that they are, in fact, merely human beings.
Carla’s parents have been great to her so far, but there’s always a chance they won’t react well to her bringing up concerns about how they’ve gotten their money, and the things her parents’ company does to make money.
I could absolutely talk to my mother about difficult subjects. I just didn’t, because they were dificult subjects. I remember one occasion when she suggested we should shut a conversation down, not because she was upset I disagreed with her, but because doing so was making me upset.
Okay, I’m looking at that first couple of sentences, and it’s kind of nonsense? Clearly I couldn’t talk to her about difficult subjects, but the point is that wasn’t because of anything she was bringing to it.
Doopyboop
I can completely understand that. For me and my mother, sometimes the subjects were things that were difficult for me to talk about, and my mother made them even more difficult to talk about by getting angry. I’m glad that your mother was more understanding about your emotions and looked out for you.
Which also isn’t to say my mom never could. She was a good mother. But when her anger was triggered, all bets were off on having a calm conversation. Now that she’s gone that’s something that I have to contend with, is making peace with all the things I wished I could say that now I never can.
231 thoughts on “Supplier”
NGPZ
???
*plays Hanezeve Caradhina by Takeshi Saito on hacked muzak*
EpochFlame
charlie is a good partner for carla. well said
Heatth
I am loving to see this side of Charlie
RassilonTDavros
She’s bringing out the parts of Carla that we almost never get to see, and that she works so hard to hide.
Effie
I’m loving this dramatic horror-movie lighting, too.
Nono
She’s a balancing influence the same way Dina is to Becky.
I do hope we actually learn a bit more about her, I’d like to explore a bit more of her identity beyond just Carla’s absent-minded girlfriend, the same way Dina gets some interactions with Joyce and Joe.
Pocky
Charlie continuing to prove they are the better sibling lol
C.T Phipps
I suspect that this wasn’t meant to be a morally ambiguous storyline with Bulmeria’s genocide being an obvious RL stand-in and pure evil. A lot of people brought up the OTHER arms supplying event going on, though, that hasn’t been referenced in the comic, though. I.e the Eastern European crisis where the LACK of US support is a moral deficiency. I don’t think that’s going to come up, though. I think the Ruttech storyline will solely be about Carla confronting her parents are involved in something pure evil not gray.
drs
Especially complicated if Ruttech isn’t a direct supplier, but sells to the US, which then might send to A (good) and B (bad)
Or if refusing to sell to B means the US revokes permission to sell to A, arms exports being a rather _controlled_ market.
Mollyscribbles
Could be a case where Ruttech doesn’t make weapons directly but they make a specific useful thing that has multiple applications, including weapons, and they just don’t really care what people do with the thing once they’ve sold it.
showler
Specifically, computer systems FOR missiles.
https://www.dumbingofage.com/2025/comic/book-15/04-the-only-exception/kerning/
showler
And I just re-read your comment and realized I misunderstood it. Sorry.
Olofa
” ‘Once rockets go up
who cares where they come down?
That’s not my department‘
says Wernher von Braun.”
Tom Lehrer
drs
At some point I’d say it stops being their problem. Like if missiles were built using civilian Nvidia GPUs, that’s not really an Nvidia issue…
KM
Actually… You should know the USG can and does sanction possible sales of dual use computer tech to nations it considers hostile. NVIDIA is forbidden from selling certain GPUs to china for example
Decidedly Orthogonal
They can make ’em, but they can’t have ’em.
Ymbrael
I think saying the lack of US arms is a moral deficiency is kinda missing the point. The US has had multiple opportunities to facilitate the end of the conflict but has instead chosen to prolong it with arms support. While withdrawal of that support and outright surrender is not a good result, I think we, as citizens and sometimes activists, must maintain a dedication to peace and life, which means fighting for and end to military profiteering, not just when the people on the other end of those weapons are non-belligerents. The protection racketeering and hyper militarization from the US must stop if atrocities like these are ever going to end.
thejeff
There has been no opportunity to end the Ukraine conflict on any terms what would be remotely acceptable. Anything offered by Russia has been designed both to keep conquered territory and prevent Ukraine from being able to defend itself should Russia choose to attack again. OTOH, greater support early on, might have enabled Ukraine to push Russia out of it’s territories and strike an actual deal. “Might have” – there are a lot of complexities in all of that.
There’s no sense in which “protection racketeering and hyper militarization from the US” caused the invasion of Ukraine. Other countries like Russia have agency too.
shadowcell
we can forgive aiding and abetting genocide and ethnic cleansing but unironically enjoying the star wars prequels is a step too far
NGPZ
The whole world except the United States:
“How is it that those words can even go together like that in a sentence???”
Opus the Poet
Charley speaks with wisdom far beyond her years, again
True Survivor
Hey the prequels have issues but I like them. The sequels are an absolute mess, though.
Nymph
Oh, I loved the sequels!
Searcher
I actually love the way Palpatine’s return recontextualizes the earlier movies.
He was obviously intending to steal Luke’s body in Jedi, and even more obviously trying to push Anakin to the same point in Sith, so he could steal the most force-capable body ever.
Mollyscribbles
I loved episode 7! Too bad they never continued that timeframe, though.
AMagicalDuck
Two of the sequels are very good. Unfortunately though, somehow Palpatine had returned
Thag Simmons
Rise of Skywalker extremely sucks, but it’s too pathetic to truly hate.
The real venom should be reserved for Force Awakens, which in hindsight basically burned the future of the franchise for a short-term nostalgia hit and left it’s sequels to try to cook with the ashes.
jubs
See, this is a take I can’t personally understand. Force Awakens is what it is, but Last Jedi was already unwatchably bad. I have tried a few times and it is just impossible to get through the movie. And everyone I’ve ever heard say anything about the movies has said that Rise is even worse.
But of course everyone can like what they want, I’m sure I love many movies that others would hate.
Corey C.
To be perfectly honest, “Last Jedi,” while having MANY flaws, remains my favorite of the sequels, mainly because they tried something new. Rey’s parents being nobodies were supposed to show that you didn’t need to have “Chosen One” blood to be a great Jedi. When Luke fought Kylo Ren he moved completely defensively, the perfect example of how a Jedi was supposed to fight. Kylo killing Snoke and taking his place, despite being a repeat of “Return of the Jedi,” did show that Kylo was SUPPOSED to be irredeemable and I MUCH would have preferred him to be the final boss of the trilogy instead of Palpatine, especially since his final battle as a villain was the ONLY part of “Rise of Skywalker” I LIKED. But what I loved about “Last Jedi,” more than anything else in the trilogy, was Ghost Yoda burning the Jedi Library and telling Luke that the ancient Jedi weren’t saints and they made mistakes, same as Luke, and he needs to stop romanticizing the past and try something different; to teach Rey about his failures and see if she can find work-arounds so that the next generation wouldn’t be bound to repeat them. I found that message to be directed at the audience, who were getting tired of “Star Wars” repeating the same plot but at the same time thought the original trilogy was sacred and didn’t want ANYTHING re-contextualized, but unfortunately the fans rejected the message and we had Rey being part of a literal Royal Bloodline and Kylo being Anakin 2.0. Rise of Skywalker threw out EVERYTHING Last Jedi attempted to dish out and replaced it all with “safe” nostalgia and it just didn’t work.
Freemage
I agree with your take on Last Jedi’s themes and intent. Unfortunately, I am also forced to admit that there were several aspects of the film’s crafting that were just plain bad. Pacing was a problem in particular (the casino/race arc should’ve been one, maybe two scenes in their entirety–constantly cutting back to it and trying to build it up was just a mistake). Rose’s “Love, love, love” dialogue was also in need of a serious re-write; again, the message is sound, but if you can’t make the dialogue itself compelling, the message is going to be lost for most folks.
Basically, my issue with Last Jedi is that whenever I see it, I think about the movie it should have been (which, again, would still have all the same themes).
Amós Batista
I thought I was the only one that also think Last Jedi is the best one
Li
Nah, it’s a reasonably popular opinion. Folks who think that just aren’t anywhere near as loud as the people for whom it ruined their childhoods.
I also feel bad for the people who didn’t like Last Jedi for perfectly normal reasons, because they’ve gotta deal with the embarrassment of sharing an opinion with some of the Worst People on the Internet.
Decidedly Orthogonal
There’s problems everywhere, but what is unforgivable to me, is after Han’s death, when the Falcon returns from the battle in TFA, Chewie and Leia — Han’s closest companions — just… walk past each other like they don’t even know they exist, never mind the grief they both carry.
Veronica
Say what you want about the prequels, at least they were about something (how democracies become facist dictatorships)
The only thing the sequels were about was recouping the costs of Disney buying Star Wars (except The Last Jedi but of course that’s the one everyone hates)
Username Taken
I see you, Britta. 😀
CallynD
Rise of Skywalker is a Sequel and also absolute total trash. Ep VII is serviceable if uninspired, VIII is a dumpster fire of not following established lore and physics and IX is trying to retcon VIII while not doing it well and also bringing every bad idea from the EU in. The Last Jedi is a bad movie and a terrible Star Wars movie, The Rise of Skywalker is a huge mess that should have never been released.
AMagicalDuck
The Last Jedi is the best Star Wars movie and I genuinely don’t understand how anyone can be a Star Wars fan and not like it because it is the most Star Wars one
Thag Simmons
Last Jedi is very clearly the good one of the sequels, but only like a third of it is actually firing on all cylinders and it’s sandwiched between 7 and 9, which both suck.
It goes in with Revenge of the Sith in the messy but compelling camp.
jflb96
I’d love to read the novel that The Last Jedi is a jank adapatation of, if we’re assuming that that carries over
Thag Simmons
I don’t like Last Jedi all that much, it’s like a high 6/10, but it did convince me that under better circumstances Rian Johnson could have made a damn good Star Wars and I would very much like to visit the alternate universe where he got to direct Episode 7. Ideally the entire trilogy, but even just the first one being done by someone with a vision who could lay a better foundation than just doing the originals again
ESM
Force Awakens basically invalidates the ending of the original trilogy by having the empire come right back and also Luke Skywalker doesn’t care about that for reasons Rian Johnson has to figure out.
There’s about 10-15 minutes of Last Jedi that’s phenomenal but the climax of the Poe/Holdo storyline is Leia shooting Poe for his insubordination that got the whole rebellion killed and then her and immediately Holdo start fangirling about how cool Poe is and that’s maybe indicative of some issues with that storyline…
Rise of Skywalker is just Force Awakens again except more obviously.
Amós Batista
Because they are all boomers.
jubs
Last Jedi is so bad it’s physically impossible for me to get through it, without being tied down. I have tried several times. It’s horrid. The Room is unironically a better movie than Last Jedi, and most of the oeuvre Neil Breen is more watchable.
jflb96
Fascinated to explore why you think that. What’s so wrong with it that it’s worse than Neil Breen and The Room?
yak
it’s less fun to joke about with your friends. It’s not even so bad it’s good.
That said, it is far from the worst movie I’ve sat through.
Veronica
My favourite thing about The Last Jedi is how every trailer had the shot of Luke saying “This isn’t going to go the way you think” and then all the fans got mad it didn’t go the way they thought
Thag Simmons
Last Jedi is the franchise equivalent of staggering six paces forward after being cut in half by a samurai sword by the previous movie before exploding into a gory mess in the sequel. I don’t think I like it very much but it’s about as good as it could reasonably be expected to be.
Rise of Skyw
Needfuldoer
Which one was the one with the whales, again?
Erik
Free Willy’s Wonderland
Daibhid C
The Hitch-Hiker’s Guide to the Galaxy. But there was only one whale.
Nymph
There was a Star Trek movie about a whale, is that what you’re thinking of?
Needfuldoer
That’s the joke.
Nymph
Ahhh, fair enough carry on.
AndieStardust
You forgive what now?
Thag Simmons
Sad to think that there’s people who really do believe that.
Alongcameaspider
This is a very hard conversation but it’s one Carla needed to have
That said I will be very annoyed if the whole protest storyline is revolved with a call to her parents (note that I do not think Willis would do that)
Abdomino
Fuck, Carla’s never been more relatable to me. Not even with regards to her gender identity (whole different can of worms), but having these pillars of support you wouldn’t be around to complain about if they hadn’t been there for you when no one else was.
Then they do and believe things that run counter to what you’ve grown to believe is right and just.
What point does gratitude and love become subservience and weakness of character?
Nadamás
Charlie is a lot more insightful that people give her credit for.
True Survivor
She seems like a very wise soul.
Needfuldoer
She interacts with the world at a 5000 ping, but that doesn’t mean she’s dim.
Doopyboop
This is so interesting because we’ve heard Carla say her parents are great, and that she loves them, but for her to be so scared to express her thoughts to them… maybe they aren’t so perfect. I can speak my mind with my father and express myself knowing that he’ll sincerely love me no matter what. I’ve actually had very lovely and enlightening conversations with him about my gender expression and sexuality (and learned in turn that if my dad were born in a more current generation, he’d probably consider himself bi). Not everyone has that, not every parent is safe to do that with. Let alone something as delicate as the way they make money.
Also Charlie looks so pretty here.
Jon
Could be several things:
– could be that Carla’s afraid they’ll get mad
– could be that Carla’s afraid they won’t get mad, but she won’t like their answers.
Sometimes it’s less about “I’m secretly afraid of the person I love” and more about “I’m secretly afraid to lose faith in/respect for the person I love”
Proxiehunter
Also, sometimes you’re afraid of how someone will react for rational reasons and sometimes you’re afraid of how someone will react because of clinical anxiety. Growing up with your parents as “the only friends you had” is a good recipie for less than rational fears about losing their aproval for disagreeing with them.
Tequila Mockingbird
This. It’s important to remember that a lot of times anxiety tells you that people will leave you for very minor offenses even though that makes zero sense given what you know of them rationally.
I cannot count the number of times I’ve been afraid to come forward about something (that in hindsight was actually pretty dang minor) to my mom, my family, a friend, and when I finally “cave” and tell them, their response is always “wait, you thought I’d be mad about that?”
My mom, my friends, my family, all are wonderful people who have my back through thick and thin. Anxiety does not care. It will still make you paranoid that some tiny disagreement or transgression will be the “last straw” and ruin everything.
Carla’s parents may similarly be wonderful, but I don’t doubt that experiencing that rejection from her peers that she mentioned resulted in a measure of hyper-awareness and fear of losing the little support she *did* get.
When people hurt or betray you, it can sometimes result in you being paranoid even of those who stuck by you. You start to wonder how transient *any* love and support really is. The more precious and vital such love and support she did receive made her that much more frightened about its fragility.
Nono
In some ways it’s like coming out; there’s always the chance that the other person isn’t what you hope them to be.
Tan
It is absolutely possible that her parents have not made it okay to question them about certain things, but it is also equally possible that it has more to do with Carla’s trauma dealing with literally everyone else she’s ever trusted where she has repeatedly discovered that there exists a line that has on one side love & support and on the other side disgust and condemnation. Even if her parents have never given any indication that they have such a line…. Neither do other people, until you cross it.
Pinkie
*shrug* one of the weirdest things I’ve discovered about “adulting” is that people in general don’t like communication as much as they say they do.
StClair
I think it’s more that she’s built them up in her mind to be perfect, and she’s afraid to confront the possibility that they are, in fact, merely human beings.
Kyulen
Carla’s parents have been great to her so far, but there’s always a chance they won’t react well to her bringing up concerns about how they’ve gotten their money, and the things her parents’ company does to make money.
Daibhid C
I could absolutely talk to my mother about difficult subjects. I just didn’t, because they were dificult subjects. I remember one occasion when she suggested we should shut a conversation down, not because she was upset I disagreed with her, but because doing so was making me upset.
Daibhid C
Okay, I’m looking at that first couple of sentences, and it’s kind of nonsense? Clearly I couldn’t talk to her about difficult subjects, but the point is that wasn’t because of anything she was bringing to it.
Doopyboop
I can completely understand that. For me and my mother, sometimes the subjects were things that were difficult for me to talk about, and my mother made them even more difficult to talk about by getting angry. I’m glad that your mother was more understanding about your emotions and looked out for you.
Which also isn’t to say my mom never could. She was a good mother. But when her anger was triggered, all bets were off on having a calm conversation. Now that she’s gone that’s something that I have to contend with, is making peace with all the things I wished I could say that now I never can.
IntangibleMatter
Carla doesn’t deal well with complex emotions
Shouldn’t have picked Booster’s sister, then
Dante