Varies in my case, depending on degree and type of social interaction, available buffers, and how much warning and time to brace myself I had beforehand.
Extreme unexpected emergency social stress can also mean all bets are off. The holiday meeting of a crafting society my mom and I are members of took a… dramatic turn when a member of the executive used her speech to accuse the membership of not appreciating all the hard work she did and burst into tears. Then afterwards everyone started the christmas party like nothing happened? My social threshold IMMEDIATELY zeroed out faster than I’d actually thought possible and triggered a more complete than usual withdrawal.
Mom: “Excuse me, has anyone seen my daughter? I think she got a little overwhelmed and needed a time out.”
Me: “… A LITTLE BIT YES.”
Mom: “… Where are you?”
Me: “SOMEWHERE NORMAL DOING SOMETHING WELL ADJUSTED AND DEFINITELY NOT HIDING UNDER A TABLE IN THE HALLWAY.”
Mom: “Of course. Let me know if you want me to bring you a cupcake.”
I thought the bisexual desert was supposed to be lemon bars. Not that I’m particularly into lemon bars. But the only bi stereotypes I really conform to are not sitting in chairs properly and cuffing all my clothes.
Wait, not sitting in chairs properly? Tell me more…
Tawdry Quirks
Examples include sitting perched like a bird, having one leg propped under you and one leg up, feet tucked under in contexts too formal for sitting so casual, chair at weird angle in relation to desk, etc. It’s the latest bi meme: https://www.pinknews.co.uk/2018/11/27/bisexual-sitting-chairs-meme/
Also, I totally forgot about finger guns. I do those sometimes as well.
Zee
That’s been a gay meme in general (people were making that joke about the cast of queer eye sitting in an interview) and one iake sure I adhere to
Vigil
Whenever my LGBT friends sit anywhere in the above mentioned way I dramatically gasp and yell “BEHOLD, THE GAY AGENDA!”
I have weirdly picked up literally every gay secondary behavior such as poor seating behaviors, posturing, and awkward hand signs and now I have set off multiple gaydars so I guess the jokes on me for being the only straight guy in the group.
Kat
Hm…of all the things I suspected that would be linked to, this is not one of them. >.> That would explain the amount of lesbian attention I get.
From personal experience as an introvert myself, it’s a muscle like any other. Socialize, look out for queues, be prepared to stumble, find supportive people, and you’ll turn out alright.
Yup. Getting thrown headfirst into the corporate world did wonders for my social anxiety. (The Internet sure helped a lot too. Thanks, phpbb.) I was almost as bad as Amber up through college, and to be honest I still hate being the center of attention, but a lot of work and practice built up confidence.
Awww, it’s sweet they both have such a high opinion of Danny. I just wish Amber had a higher opinion of herself.
And yeah, Sal feels guilty Amber (Actually AG but Sal doesn’t know the difference) and Danny broke up. She might feel bad about Amber and Walky too but there’s probably more residual weirdness about Amber and Walky dating. I know they said they forgive each other and want to move on, but there’s still time for the brain to match that desire (Sal had to remind herself of that earlier when she was talking to Joyce).
I will agree that Danny deserved better than he was getting at the end, but I think Amber is giving herself too little credit, as per usual. If they did get back together, I would want her to keep a close eye on how she treats him, the kind of shit Mike was calling her out on, etc.
full disclosure, I’m from an emotionally and physically abusive childhood, so maybe I am being overly sensitive on some of those past interactions, but just… it really, really rubs me the wrong way when couples tear each other down with name-calling and shouting. Like, raised voices happen, but when you’re getting rancorous, I don’t think, “This is where it’s come to”, I think about what can happen next when it keeps escalating, and that’s a really terrifying place to go to, even if it doesn’t come to blows.
In either case, I do hope Amber and Danny can talk things out, wherever that leads them. It could be a very healing experience for both of them, but particularly for Amber. It’s good to be accountable, but you also need to realize that mistakes aren’t Game Over. You try again.
Amber herself called herself out on it long before Mike did and it was part of where her self-loathing in the relationship came from. Danny brushed it off, but both AG and Amber knew it was wrong and not okay to do. Amber’s inherent reaction though is to destroy herself for making an error which is obviously not helpful – she isn’t evil for getting annoyed that Danny kept doing something she asked him not to even if she handled it poorly. Even good people sometimes do the wrong thing.
You’re not oversensitive for finding it uncomfortable when couples raise voices, start shouting and tearing at each other with name-calling though. It shows poor communication and communication can make or break relationships. Name-calling doesn’t solve anything and just hurts each other as well and shouldn’t be part of a discussion.
Best way I think I can decsribe Danny in a very truthful manner would be that he’s a Hapless well nicely straight laced goodegg with endearing Charm to him. I think any girl would be happy to have him just as long as they don’t mind a bit of bad luck every now and again since he’s always finding some way of getting himself in a mess…. then again he’s been doing better lately.
One of his qualities is a big faith in others, which sometimes bites him in the ass, and very little faith in himself. (Though, he’s getting better on that.)
Even though Ambers last two relationships went belly up because of Sal related things I think Sal’s being a bit to hard on herself. Out everything that’s happened between these two I would say whatever happened in Amber’s love life was definitely not Sals fault. I mean as much as I desperately want Amber to be with someone good for her I think it’s going to be hard to allow someone to love her if she can’t even love herself.
I don’t think Sal is being too hard on herself. She knows Amber had issues with her and it caused the relationship to strain. She didn’t do anything on purpose and she knows it.
It’s the sticking the phone in the tight-but-stretchy back pocket that baffles me. When people complain about their smartphones being broken (physically, not electronically), what surprises me is that it doesn’t happen more often.
glad to have willis not make sal blush while saying danny’s a cupcake. real easy to have characters express fondness of each other and making it seem “shippy” or whatever, so its good to just go this dude’s sweet i like hanging out with him and i hope he finds happiness and that being it.
My point from yesterday still stands, this rapport is weird and i don’t feel like its earned.
You can break a lot of ice while you’re kicking each other’s ass, sometimes. 😛
Joke-ish answer out of the way, I think it’s a lot of good will because both of them have a weight off of their shoulders, along with knowing they could have been in deep shit but skated, no pun intended.
Plus, you have Sal being happy Marcie’s giving her the time of day again, a lot of residual guilt the two had, and I think both of them just really wanting to make it work. They’ll probably snap at each other again eventually, but for now, they’ve got stuff going in their favor.
Yeah, they’re going on ‘I want to do this’ momentum and happiness right now. I suspect it’ll eventually be slightly more complicated – especially once AG notices she’s suddenly down one ‘sidekick’.
And yeah, they’re taking shots at each other. Nicer ones than they might have if they hadn’t agreed to try to move on, but still poking.
155 thoughts on “Warning”
Ana Chronistic
CLEARLY he’s Angel Food Cake
with strawberries
and
a doofy hatwhipped creamAna Chronistic
also, DANG two hours?? I break after like five minutes
lilyliv --> ian livs
SAME, though. :/
Agemegos
Twenty minutes for me.
Nelly Dreadful
Varies in my case, depending on degree and type of social interaction, available buffers, and how much warning and time to brace myself I had beforehand.
Extreme unexpected emergency social stress can also mean all bets are off. The holiday meeting of a crafting society my mom and I are members of took a… dramatic turn when a member of the executive used her speech to accuse the membership of not appreciating all the hard work she did and burst into tears. Then afterwards everyone started the christmas party like nothing happened? My social threshold IMMEDIATELY zeroed out faster than I’d actually thought possible and triggered a more complete than usual withdrawal.
Mom: “Excuse me, has anyone seen my daughter? I think she got a little overwhelmed and needed a time out.”
Me: “… A LITTLE BIT YES.”
Mom: “… Where are you?”
Me: “SOMEWHERE NORMAL DOING SOMETHING WELL ADJUSTED AND DEFINITELY NOT HIDING UNDER A TABLE IN THE HALLWAY.”
Mom: “Of course. Let me know if you want me to bring you a cupcake.”
Me: “… YES PLEASE.”
PSadlon
This.
Mollyscribbles
Keep in mind, she must’ve worked to train that up so she’d be able to be outdoors and interacting with people for superhero reasons.
Marsh Maryrose
In keeping with the “good egg” theme, wouldn’t he be more of a custard or a meringue?
No, wait — he’s definitely a flan. Well, maybe a quiche. But I’m going with flan.
Tawdry Quirks
I thought the bisexual desert was supposed to be lemon bars. Not that I’m particularly into lemon bars. But the only bi stereotypes I really conform to are not sitting in chairs properly and cuffing all my clothes.
Kat
Wait, not sitting in chairs properly? Tell me more…
Tawdry Quirks
Examples include sitting perched like a bird, having one leg propped under you and one leg up, feet tucked under in contexts too formal for sitting so casual, chair at weird angle in relation to desk, etc. It’s the latest bi meme: https://www.pinknews.co.uk/2018/11/27/bisexual-sitting-chairs-meme/
Also, I totally forgot about finger guns. I do those sometimes as well.
Zee
That’s been a gay meme in general (people were making that joke about the cast of queer eye sitting in an interview) and one iake sure I adhere to
Vigil
Whenever my LGBT friends sit anywhere in the above mentioned way I dramatically gasp and yell “BEHOLD, THE GAY AGENDA!”
I have weirdly picked up literally every gay secondary behavior such as poor seating behaviors, posturing, and awkward hand signs and now I have set off multiple gaydars so I guess the jokes on me for being the only straight guy in the group.
Kat
Hm…of all the things I suspected that would be linked to, this is not one of them. >.> That would explain the amount of lesbian attention I get.
Deanatay
I BAKE a tasty lemon bar. What does that make me?
Andrusi
I thought the bisexual desert was a big sandy place that’s attracted to both forests and oceans.
MatthewTheLucky
Yes, but that’s nothing special. They’re not called heteromes for a reason.
Doctor_Who
Anyway, here’s Wonderbread.
Zach
He looks delicious
Doctor_Who
The ukulele strings would get caught in your teeth, and the hat is just empty calories.
ktbear
OMG it even has eyes and a mouth…thats just creepy!
butts
oh right, the crippling social anxiety
mister gray
OMG she is so me.
ValdVin
Two hours of socially friendly is about my limit too.
ValdVin
Okay, if I’m with my wife or my family. Alone, much less.
Doctor_Who
Same here. No party should take longer than that.
Plasma Mongoose
People are great… in small doses.
Needfuldoer
It’s taken a lot of practice, but now I can be “on” for the workday as long as I take regular breaks and retreat to my solitary nerd cave after hours.
Stephen Bierce
*plays ELO’s “Telephone Line” on the P.A. speakers*
BassBone
It me.
Are kids still saying that?
woobie
Less, and they’ve grown some, and it’s partially ironic.
Sam
I still say this.
TheFlamingonator
I think they say “mood.” or “big mood” but i cant keep up anymore
and im still part of the “kids” to some aspect
Andrusi
Sometimes they say “same hat.”
Shen Hibiki
And I bet they don’t even -own- that helmet!
Falcon
From personal experience as an introvert myself, it’s a muscle like any other. Socialize, look out for queues, be prepared to stumble, find supportive people, and you’ll turn out alright.
DailyBrad
Yeah, that makes sense. For me, it feels like a battery I have to recharge.
Agemegos
Queues or cues?
Bloody English!
Delicious Taffy
A queue is a line of people. Cue is meat and barbecue sauce.
wwwhhattt
I’m pretty sure you’re playing snooker wrong if you’re using sauce like that…
Needfuldoer
Yup. Getting thrown headfirst into the corporate world did wonders for my social anxiety. (The Internet sure helped a lot too. Thanks, phpbb.) I was almost as bad as Amber up through college, and to be honest I still hate being the center of attention, but a lot of work and practice built up confidence.
DarkoNeko
Fair enough
BarerMender
No, Amber, don’t resign yourself to always being broken. Self-fulfilling etc.
Plasma Mongoose
But getting fixed is for pets.
hueloovoo
I got fixed and I’m much calmer.
BBCC
Awww, it’s sweet they both have such a high opinion of Danny. I just wish Amber had a higher opinion of herself.
And yeah, Sal feels guilty Amber (Actually AG but Sal doesn’t know the difference) and Danny broke up. She might feel bad about Amber and Walky too but there’s probably more residual weirdness about Amber and Walky dating. I know they said they forgive each other and want to move on, but there’s still time for the brain to match that desire (Sal had to remind herself of that earlier when she was talking to Joyce).
DailyBrad
I will agree that Danny deserved better than he was getting at the end, but I think Amber is giving herself too little credit, as per usual. If they did get back together, I would want her to keep a close eye on how she treats him, the kind of shit Mike was calling her out on, etc.
full disclosure, I’m from an emotionally and physically abusive childhood, so maybe I am being overly sensitive on some of those past interactions, but just… it really, really rubs me the wrong way when couples tear each other down with name-calling and shouting. Like, raised voices happen, but when you’re getting rancorous, I don’t think, “This is where it’s come to”, I think about what can happen next when it keeps escalating, and that’s a really terrifying place to go to, even if it doesn’t come to blows.
In either case, I do hope Amber and Danny can talk things out, wherever that leads them. It could be a very healing experience for both of them, but particularly for Amber. It’s good to be accountable, but you also need to realize that mistakes aren’t Game Over. You try again.
Sam
Amber herself called herself out on it long before Mike did and it was part of where her self-loathing in the relationship came from. Danny brushed it off, but both AG and Amber knew it was wrong and not okay to do. Amber’s inherent reaction though is to destroy herself for making an error which is obviously not helpful – she isn’t evil for getting annoyed that Danny kept doing something she asked him not to even if she handled it poorly. Even good people sometimes do the wrong thing.
You’re not oversensitive for finding it uncomfortable when couples raise voices, start shouting and tearing at each other with name-calling though. It shows poor communication and communication can make or break relationships. Name-calling doesn’t solve anything and just hurts each other as well and shouldn’t be part of a discussion.
meep
That’s probably a new record for her. Good Job Amber!
Kensou
That’s Amber, shining example to all of us introverts.
newllend(henryvolt)
Best way I think I can decsribe Danny in a very truthful manner would be that he’s a Hapless well nicely straight laced goodegg with endearing Charm to him. I think any girl would be happy to have him just as long as they don’t mind a bit of bad luck every now and again since he’s always finding some way of getting himself in a mess…. then again he’s been doing better lately.
DailyBrad
One of his qualities is a big faith in others, which sometimes bites him in the ass, and very little faith in himself. (Though, he’s getting better on that.)
Piotr W
Warning: Emotional Shutdown Imminent! Warning! Warning!
*sound of pneumatics powering down*
Marsh Maryrose
“Danger, Sal Walkerton! Danger! Danger!”
Needfuldoer
*Red alert klaxon*
*Alert tone* Warning. Social anxiety containment energy field depleted. Emotional shutdown imminent.
*Red alert klaxon continues*
newllend(henryvolt)
Even though Ambers last two relationships went belly up because of Sal related things I think Sal’s being a bit to hard on herself. Out everything that’s happened between these two I would say whatever happened in Amber’s love life was definitely not Sals fault. I mean as much as I desperately want Amber to be with someone good for her I think it’s going to be hard to allow someone to love her if she can’t even love herself.
Foxhack
I don’t think Sal is being too hard on herself. She knows Amber had issues with her and it caused the relationship to strain. She didn’t do anything on purpose and she knows it.
Dana
She didn’t even have the phone with her, did she? It just kind of appeared there.
TheFlamingonator
I have a theory that she learned how to make it appear out of thin air for just these situations.
Zee
Contrary to popular belief, some women’s pants do in fact have pockets
TheFlamingonator
yea but theyre about as rare as white T-shirts that aren’t see-through
DSL
It’s the sticking the phone in the tight-but-stretchy back pocket that baffles me. When people complain about their smartphones being broken (physically, not electronically), what surprises me is that it doesn’t happen more often.
ValdVin
Especially if you’re doing 2 hours of roller derby practice.
Sporky
alt text: i like how willis likes 1 (One) Anime
LeslieBean4Shizzle
Evangelion, the anime that keeps on giving.
Roger
glad to have willis not make sal blush while saying danny’s a cupcake. real easy to have characters express fondness of each other and making it seem “shippy” or whatever, so its good to just go this dude’s sweet i like hanging out with him and i hope he finds happiness and that being it.
My point from yesterday still stands, this rapport is weird and i don’t feel like its earned.
DailyBrad
You can break a lot of ice while you’re kicking each other’s ass, sometimes. 😛
Joke-ish answer out of the way, I think it’s a lot of good will because both of them have a weight off of their shoulders, along with knowing they could have been in deep shit but skated, no pun intended.
Plus, you have Sal being happy Marcie’s giving her the time of day again, a lot of residual guilt the two had, and I think both of them just really wanting to make it work. They’ll probably snap at each other again eventually, but for now, they’ve got stuff going in their favor.
BBCC
Yeah, they’re going on ‘I want to do this’ momentum and happiness right now. I suspect it’ll eventually be slightly more complicated – especially once AG notices she’s suddenly down one ‘sidekick’.
And yeah, they’re taking shots at each other. Nicer ones than they might have if they hadn’t agreed to try to move on, but still poking.
Emily
Yeah, I’m completely checked out of this arc at this point.
Marsh Maryrose
I’m with Amber. I have at most two hours of social interaction in group settings before I start shutting down. (Two hours is maybe generous.)