I was wondering what the derivation of that is, and whether it’s related to “point” (or the various shades of meaning of “dexter”) so I looked it up, and apparently it’s originally the name of a scientist character on Felix the Cat. I think if I ever knew that, I assumed he was called Poindexter because he was a poindexter, but no, it’s the other way round.
Casi
It’s actually older than that. Felix The Cat used the name for that character and it stuck. Kind of like how Nimrod has come to mean “idiot” rather than “great hunter” because of bugs bunny calling Elmer Fudd “Nimrod”
My concern’s that a) she could be more observant than you’d expect and b) she’s in the dark regarding social cues too much to know she’s snitching. She mentions it to Dina not comprehending that it’s sensitive, Dina tells Becky. Becky puts 2 and 2 together. Drama bomb waiting to go off.
Rose by Any other Name
… OH.
Yeah, particularly given that Joyce said “my best friend” which is a title that Becky still sometimes claims.
Many and varied misunderstandings might well ensue.
This makes me want the two meteors to collide and Joyce/Billie to aggressively make out while both insisting it’s “normal heterosexual friend behavior”
I’m kind of still trying to get a read on what Alice is normally like.
Most of her previous appearances are like painful reunions and car crashes, which can tell you a lot about someone but aren’t going to give you a sense of the baseline.
She did call Walky “Wally” that one time, so either she didn’t think much of him in high school or Jennifer was that insistent on keeping her friendship with him separate from her cheerleader life.
Given the usual pacing of this comic I’m surprised it’s been that long. I’m not some republic serial villain, the laundry room scene with Dorothy was 35 minutes ago.
Going by storylines, I think it was ten days ago, but close enough. (With, I guess, the note that being ten days ago means it was before she started dating Joe, as opposed to having just started dating him… otherwise, close enough.)
I wish my neurodivergence flavor was the kind that would now go make a thorough list of all important plot events and character developments in th time between laundry and now, but alas, I would probably get distracted and bored doing that by end of day two of that week.
Mark my words… Charlie is definitely picking up on everything being said right now. I say this as a fellow ADHD haver who has sensitivities to sounds and has eavesdropped on many a convo by accident I’m so sorry everybody around me I cannot control my ears I can hear across the building but if you’re talking to me face to face your words are garbled
Pretty much! I’ve heard it called sensory processing disorder, and it happens with other neurodivergences. When I was a kid I called it ‘dyslexia of the ear’ because unless I am concentrating VERY HARD, there’s many times where someone is speaking face to face to me and the words are unfortunately just processed either with a delay, or very hashed up. I love captions on the tv for this reason.
Doopyboop
It also makes it very stressful when more than one person tries to talk to me at once, or when people try to talk to me while I’m doing a task. In loud environments I’ll usually get overwhelmed because there’s just too much sound that I cannot focus on or filter out correctly.
I really feel this, at this point i practically LIVE in a pair of noise-canceling headphones T^T
Doopyboop
I feel that, there are definitely some days where I gotta pop in my ear buds and block the world out for a bit!
Laura
Oh, yeah, I hear ya! I’ve basically gotta get everything captioned. If there’s a TV or a radio playing in the background, I literally cannot hear the things being said in the room. Makes it impossible when my S.O. tries to ask me questions about things going on, in a TV show or movie. (Snugglebuddy cannot follow a plot or distinguish between characters to save hir life…) I literally cannot hear what my hunny is saying, if he’s said it while I’m watching TV and reading the captions.
Actually, I was reading recently that ACEs can contribute to the development of sensory processing challenges. Fascinating study. I’m trying to find the citation but can’t seem to locate it now.
Laura
Even phone calls and meetings were captioned.
When I was younger, I was serving as an interpreter for a multilingual family with little in the way of common language. (Mom spoke Peul and some French, Dad spoke Wolof and some French, kiddos both spoke babble.) The baby and kiddo were having language developmental delays, so the county sent developmental specialists to their home to for play therapy intervention with the little ones. I was there to interpret in French between the therapists and the Mama.
To teach the kids English, as the parents could not do so, the mom had Sesame Street and other children’s educational programming on the TV, constantly. I was listening for the 3 languages at play (French, English, and any intelligible words that might be made out of the kiddos’ babble) and trying to interpret, while the TV was playing in English in the background. Just about impossible! I had to tell them I had to have the TV off; I couldn’t hear with it on. It wasn’t even loud. Just the fact that it was there.
…Sorry… bit of a tangent… tales of auditory processing…
Doopyboop
I appreciate the tangent! makes me feel better about my own! I have captions on many things as well. It actually started because my mother was hard of hearing, and I found that I really enjoyed growing up with captions on the tv. Now I used it on streaming as well! That also made for funny situations similar to your’s because my mom would usually depend on me to help her hear things. Sometimes I was very helpful! Other times… not so much. I did also appreciate that my mom did try to accommodate; when I was around the age of having chores to do. She would list them off to me the night before, like “tomorrow after school I need you to do x, y, and z”. Fast forward to the next day, I completely blank on what those things are. Instead of getting mad, my mom began to write them down on a note on the fridge for me to check off and it was a LOT easier for me.
I wouldn’t be surprised; honestly a big part of accepting that I’m neurodivergent is also accepting that there’s a chance I am neurodivergent due to certain ACEs that occurred when I was a kid. It makes for a muddy cocktail, similar to Joyce’s struggles, but in the end I be who I be!
I can’t say for sure what Laura was referring to but I googled ACEs and the results I saw where ‘adverse childhood experiences’ and I think that’s what Laura was referring to. But, I don’t mind being corrected in case I’m wrong!
Laura
Thanks, Doopyboop. Sorry, my comment below was meant to be a reply to yours here. Thar’s the phrase I meant.
Couple other typos:
*extreme, not “eztreme”
*is, not “us”
Laura
Yes, that was the acronym I meant. Thanks for the story, too, Doopyboop!
I’ve been reading up a lot abut developmental trauma, these past 8-9 months (just came off the tail end of an 8-month flare-up) and I came across a fascinating diagram showing areas of the brain that could potentially grow in different ways as adaptations to eztreme early sensory exposure. Unfortunately, for the life of me, now I can no longer find the study it was illustrating…
Not to imply that there us any particular “cause” behind learning differences and neurodevelopmental conditions, of course! Just it would be fascinating if the brain developed certain self-protective “calluses” to reduce or increase sensitivity in response to stressors in the sensory environment.
…Sorry, sorry, I know this is a hot-button topic! No offense whatsoever intended to anyone by raising such a sensitive subject…
I wouldn’t sweat too much about the “cause” thing. Sometimes stuff happens and something contributed to it happening in some way, we can all admit that. Adding extra layers and analogies to our description won’t change the result, and everything you ever experience contributes to something else in your life in at least a tiny way, so all we really need to do is avoid pointing to one singular thing and saying “This always causes that in all cases.” Any finer detail is just the gravy of politeness on the meatloaf of situational tact.
Laura
I love that metaphor. Thanks, Taffy!
Marianne
This is one reason I prefer pirated television. Subtitles work best for me when they’re delayed by about 0.7 seconds (so that if I’m struggling with processing towards the end of a line I still have time to read it), which with VLC is easily done with one button, whereas Netflix, Disney+ etc doesn’t support that feature at all. You pay more for less accessibility.
187 thoughts on “You’ve met”
The 25th
They also have a similar taste in bony point dexters
anon
well, alice is skinnier than jen but idk if she’s particularly ‘bony’ tho i suppose it’s hard to tell with those clothes/art style
Lee
They probably meant Ruthless.
Jacob Crawford
Maybe this is a stretch, but I interpreted “point dexters” as an intentional finger/fingering joke. Again, might be a stretch.
Laura
I got that one, too. Index fingers.
Laura
Or right index, I got my etymologies confused.
Tessea
Just so you know, It’s ‘poindexter’. I havent heard that one in a long time…. God, I’m old.
Daibhid C
I was wondering what the derivation of that is, and whether it’s related to “point” (or the various shades of meaning of “dexter”) so I looked it up, and apparently it’s originally the name of a scientist character on Felix the Cat. I think if I ever knew that, I assumed he was called Poindexter because he was a poindexter, but no, it’s the other way round.
Casi
It’s actually older than that. Felix The Cat used the name for that character and it stuck. Kind of like how Nimrod has come to mean “idiot” rather than “great hunter” because of bugs bunny calling Elmer Fudd “Nimrod”
The 25th
Thank you because I did not know.
Deanatay
And both will VEHEMENTLY DENY any sexual interest in a young Mr. Walkerton.
NGPZ
re: alt-text,
it seems Dina Sensei has taught her well ^-^
emeraldbeacon
Is Willis going to start Mandela Effect-ing us by editing Charlie into the background of past strips?
Megan
read em and weep
xronium
i wish there was a like button +2
shadowcell
Dumbing of Age Book 15 – With a BOY
Tan
I think you mean Dumbing of Age Book 15: Totally Normal Now
Pocky
Dumbing of Age Book 15: According to other definitions.
Opus the Poet
I see you read the alt text.
One of the alt texts. Some thing that I saw on the home page but not on this page.KiaStirling
Dumbing of Age 15: She’s Normalled Up a Bit
Sirksome
The two group leaders! They must fight! There can be only one!
Renshear Blade
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=O7QaN0NpGws
Dread Pirate Robin
Wonder if Charlie being here to hear this is gonna come back to bite Joyce.
Akane
I’m sure Charlie will notice something.
Thag Simmons
I both doubt that Charlie is paying attention and doubt that she’d snitch.
Dread Pirate Robin
My concern’s that a) she could be more observant than you’d expect and b) she’s in the dark regarding social cues too much to know she’s snitching. She mentions it to Dina not comprehending that it’s sensitive, Dina tells Becky. Becky puts 2 and 2 together. Drama bomb waiting to go off.
Rose by Any other Name
… OH.
Yeah, particularly given that Joyce said “my best friend” which is a title that Becky still sometimes claims.
Many and varied misunderstandings might well ensue.
Whirlakitty
Eh…I don’t think its likely that Charlie will bite Joyce.
Shakes
Chekov’s Charlie?
Justnobodyfqwl
This makes me want the two meteors to collide and Joyce/Billie to aggressively make out while both insisting it’s “normal heterosexual friend behavior”
Megan
i mean as long as it only happens once, it is
clif
That’s what reading the comic has taught me.
Opus the Poet
And reading Pixie Trix Comics has told me it’s perfectly normal for two dudes who are friends to “bro out” once in a while. It’s all Perfectly Normal.
StClair
and if there’s one thing Jennifer prides herself on being, it’s “normal”.
Rose by Any other Name
… I mean it is perfectly normal. No quotes required.
Best friends make the best life partners.
Longshot97
Interested to see the dynamic between Alice and Billifer without dramatic, outright antagonism.
Thag Simmons
I’m kind of still trying to get a read on what Alice is normally like.
Most of her previous appearances are like painful reunions and car crashes, which can tell you a lot about someone but aren’t going to give you a sense of the baseline.
Needfuldoer
She did call Walky “Wally” that one time, so either she didn’t think much of him in high school or Jennifer was that insistent on keeping her friendship with him separate from her cheerleader life.
Purple Floof
And Charlie was there, spacing out in the background
Steamweed
And Dina is on the opposite side. Both are unobserved. Excellent intel gatherers. CIA has nothin’ on either of them.
Purple Floof
The order of information-gathering effectiveness goes Charlie, the CIA, Dina, the NSA, and Apple/Google
Wilde
A WEEK?! Masturbating didn’t keep Joyce away from sex for long!
Dread Pirate Robin
Given the usual pacing of this comic I’m surprised it’s been that long. I’m not some republic serial villain, the laundry room scene with Dorothy was 35 minutes ago.
Steamweed
I understood that reference!
NGPZ
hahahha how ironic >:D
John Campbell
Ten days, actually. It’s Saturday morning. Dorothy taught Joyce to do laundry on Wednesday of last week.
Yumi
Going by storylines, I think it was ten days ago, but close enough. (With, I guess, the note that being ten days ago means it was before she started dating Joe, as opposed to having just started dating him… otherwise, close enough.)
Sirksome
Joyce and Joe have only been dating a week?! Haven’t even made it longer than Walky x Lucy?!
Opus the Poet
To Lucy’s chagrin no, bit they did last longer than Lucy’s current toy boy. Lucy had him in like a few hours.
HueSatLight
starting to think maybe Dorothy‘s kind of full of crap sometimes.
Sirksome
She can be but the masturbation wasn’t to keep Joyce away from sex it was to keep Joyce away from Joe which also didn’t work.
Wilde
I wish my neurodivergence flavor was the kind that would now go make a thorough list of all important plot events and character developments in th time between laundry and now, but alas, I would probably get distracted and bored doing that by end of day two of that week.
Decidedly Orthogonal
What about “best friend” and Becky’s feelings? Because “sister” also hadn’t been taken (iirc) when Jocelyn popped into Joyce’s comprehension.
Of course Joyce loves Becky regardless of what label is ascribed, but Becky herself hasn’t always been as sure.
Doopyboop
Mark my words… Charlie is definitely picking up on everything being said right now. I say this as a fellow ADHD haver who has sensitivities to sounds and has eavesdropped on many a convo by accident I’m so sorry everybody around me I cannot control my ears I can hear across the building but if you’re talking to me face to face your words are garbled
True Survivor
Is that a form of sensory integration disorder?
NGPZ
speaking as someone with ADHD and autism including sensory integration, is very much a thing, yes
Doopyboop
Pretty much! I’ve heard it called sensory processing disorder, and it happens with other neurodivergences. When I was a kid I called it ‘dyslexia of the ear’ because unless I am concentrating VERY HARD, there’s many times where someone is speaking face to face to me and the words are unfortunately just processed either with a delay, or very hashed up. I love captions on the tv for this reason.
Doopyboop
It also makes it very stressful when more than one person tries to talk to me at once, or when people try to talk to me while I’m doing a task. In loud environments I’ll usually get overwhelmed because there’s just too much sound that I cannot focus on or filter out correctly.
NGPZ
I really feel this, at this point i practically LIVE in a pair of noise-canceling headphones T^T
Doopyboop
I feel that, there are definitely some days where I gotta pop in my ear buds and block the world out for a bit!
Laura
Oh, yeah, I hear ya! I’ve basically gotta get everything captioned. If there’s a TV or a radio playing in the background, I literally cannot hear the things being said in the room. Makes it impossible when my S.O. tries to ask me questions about things going on, in a TV show or movie. (Snugglebuddy cannot follow a plot or distinguish between characters to save hir life…) I literally cannot hear what my hunny is saying, if he’s said it while I’m watching TV and reading the captions.
Actually, I was reading recently that ACEs can contribute to the development of sensory processing challenges. Fascinating study. I’m trying to find the citation but can’t seem to locate it now.
Laura
Even phone calls and meetings were captioned.
When I was younger, I was serving as an interpreter for a multilingual family with little in the way of common language. (Mom spoke Peul and some French, Dad spoke Wolof and some French, kiddos both spoke babble.) The baby and kiddo were having language developmental delays, so the county sent developmental specialists to their home to for play therapy intervention with the little ones. I was there to interpret in French between the therapists and the Mama.
To teach the kids English, as the parents could not do so, the mom had Sesame Street and other children’s educational programming on the TV, constantly. I was listening for the 3 languages at play (French, English, and any intelligible words that might be made out of the kiddos’ babble) and trying to interpret, while the TV was playing in English in the background. Just about impossible! I had to tell them I had to have the TV off; I couldn’t hear with it on. It wasn’t even loud. Just the fact that it was there.
…Sorry… bit of a tangent… tales of auditory processing…
Doopyboop
I appreciate the tangent! makes me feel better about my own! I have captions on many things as well. It actually started because my mother was hard of hearing, and I found that I really enjoyed growing up with captions on the tv. Now I used it on streaming as well! That also made for funny situations similar to your’s because my mom would usually depend on me to help her hear things. Sometimes I was very helpful! Other times… not so much. I did also appreciate that my mom did try to accommodate; when I was around the age of having chores to do. She would list them off to me the night before, like “tomorrow after school I need you to do x, y, and z”. Fast forward to the next day, I completely blank on what those things are. Instead of getting mad, my mom began to write them down on a note on the fridge for me to check off and it was a LOT easier for me.
I wouldn’t be surprised; honestly a big part of accepting that I’m neurodivergent is also accepting that there’s a chance I am neurodivergent due to certain ACEs that occurred when I was a kid. It makes for a muddy cocktail, similar to Joyce’s struggles, but in the end I be who I be!
Taffy
ACEs?
Doopyboop
I can’t say for sure what Laura was referring to but I googled ACEs and the results I saw where ‘adverse childhood experiences’ and I think that’s what Laura was referring to. But, I don’t mind being corrected in case I’m wrong!
Laura
Thanks, Doopyboop. Sorry, my comment below was meant to be a reply to yours here. Thar’s the phrase I meant.
Couple other typos:
*extreme, not “eztreme”
*is, not “us”
Laura
Yes, that was the acronym I meant. Thanks for the story, too, Doopyboop!
I’ve been reading up a lot abut developmental trauma, these past 8-9 months (just came off the tail end of an 8-month flare-up) and I came across a fascinating diagram showing areas of the brain that could potentially grow in different ways as adaptations to eztreme early sensory exposure. Unfortunately, for the life of me, now I can no longer find the study it was illustrating…
Not to imply that there us any particular “cause” behind learning differences and neurodevelopmental conditions, of course! Just it would be fascinating if the brain developed certain self-protective “calluses” to reduce or increase sensitivity in response to stressors in the sensory environment.
…Sorry, sorry, I know this is a hot-button topic! No offense whatsoever intended to anyone by raising such a sensitive subject…
Taffy
I wouldn’t sweat too much about the “cause” thing. Sometimes stuff happens and something contributed to it happening in some way, we can all admit that. Adding extra layers and analogies to our description won’t change the result, and everything you ever experience contributes to something else in your life in at least a tiny way, so all we really need to do is avoid pointing to one singular thing and saying “This always causes that in all cases.” Any finer detail is just the gravy of politeness on the meatloaf of situational tact.
Laura
I love that metaphor. Thanks, Taffy!
Marianne
This is one reason I prefer pirated television. Subtitles work best for me when they’re delayed by about 0.7 seconds (so that if I’m struggling with processing towards the end of a line I still have time to read it), which with VLC is easily done with one button, whereas Netflix, Disney+ etc doesn’t support that feature at all. You pay more for less accessibility.
Kyulen