I think it’s fairly obvious Sal is just as bad at inter-personal stuff as Dina, she just channels it in the wrong direction which is why she gets into trouble.
Karen Lynn
Plus, there are always people that one just can’t get along with, for little or no reason.
Everybody has that personality type the instinctively can’t stand. That’s what I’m thinking the actual case is here.
Because that is how it is usually used: disrespectfully! So now that you know, I trust you will refrain from using it in the future…?
Lin
It’s also usually a slur. If you’re a queer woman, you might decide to reclaim it (the way I and some other queer women have reclaimed the word dyke), but even then it’s not super safe to apply to all queer women or any individual. And straight people should avoid entirely.
Karen Lynn
I guess I’m just accustomed to different types of people. Couple of my lez friends just say “Yeah, I’m lez, no big deal.”
/waits for you to stop using this word generally
/because you’ve literally just been told it’s considered a slur
Like. Seriously. Your lesbian friends do not speak for me. They don’t speak for anyone but themselves. The polite thing now is to stop using this word except around them and other lesbians who are okay with it.
Not that hard, ma’am.
Karen Lynn
Li, you yourself don’t speak for all gay women either.
It’d be like saying I should always be offended at the word “tranny”, even when it’s more often than not used to refer to a car’s transmission.
It’s like saying “because some lesbians are offended/hurt by this word, while the rest are indifferent to it, straight people should err on the side of not hurting anyone by avoiding the word.”
(Also I sure hope you are trans yourself, with that example. And I’d love to know what country that’s true of (“usually refers to a car transmission”), because it’s not the USA.)
Karen Lynn
Actually, Li, it is the US. I’ve only ever heard tranny as a slur twice in person, whereas everyone I know uses tranny to refer to a car’s transmission.
I’m MtF trans, polyamorous and pansexual.
So, should Lizzie the Lezzie stop using that name for her twitter and tumbler?
Li
It’s absolutely not “the US”. It might be your state. It might be a few states! But it is not the US as a whole.
Still, you’re right about one thing, which is that I should have responded differently. I should have pointed out that “dyke” can also mean dam. The f-word can also mean cigarette, and afaik is still used that way in England. The n-word “originally” meant an ignorant person.
None of these alternate meanings make the slurs less hurtful to the people hurt by them. It’s literally irrelevant what other associations you might have with them. What should matter to you is that you are hurting someone by using them, so you should stop.
I’m MtF trans, polyamorous and pansexual.
Super. You’ll understand my thinking your readiness to use your lesbian friends as an excuse for using one slur might translate to using another slur on a similar pretext.
Btw, if you wanted to defend your right to use “lez” on the basis of you also being LGBTQIA, you should have done that when we were talking about how using it is something straight people shouldn’t do, by the way. Also your earlier comment about “the great thing about being friends with lesbians” now doesn’t really make sense. Sure, it means more men for you, but also fewer women, so… more of a breaking-even thing than a clear advantage, yes?
So, should Lizzie the Lezzie stop using that name for her twitter and tumbler?
Look. I don’t know who that is, or really care. Shall I assume she is a lesbian? Because as has already been explained in this thread, people have the right to reclaim slurs used against them.
Stop trying to make this into an argument it isn’t. I’m not saying no one gets to use this word. I’m saying that straight people should err on the side of not using it, just as they should avoid “queer”. Just as I, a cis person, should avoid the t-word (whether or not it personally offends you, because it is generally considered a slur and offends lots of other people). Just as white people should avoid the n-word. Just as…. etc, etc, etc.
Karen Lynn
Li, I’m thinking at this point it may be best to extend an olive branch, and chalk it up to differences in opinion.
Because knowing how I am, I’m going to say something that’ll probably get me banned from the comments section.
So, agree to disagree?
Li
I don’t… see what there is to agree to disagree about, though?? This is so simple…?
I’m not asking you to agree that “lez” is a terrible bad word to use ever. I’m not saying your lesbian friends are wrong to not be offended by it or to use it for themselves. :|a
All I’m saying is that the word is a slur. Like all slurs, some of the people in the group it affects are reclaiming it (like your friends), and some are not (like me). I am also making an appeal to common decency and common sense.
Suppose you are watching TV in the living room. Your roommate Tommy comes into the living room with his hands over his ears and says, “Could you turn that down a little? This much volume is giving me a migraine.”
You know that your other roommate, Billy, would probably disagree that it’s too loud — he likes listening to the TV from his room. But you also know that Billy can always come into the living room with you if he wants to watch it, whereas Tommy is currently in actual pain from the noise level.
Doesn’t it make sense to just turn down the TV? Why are you asking Tommy to agree to disagree about whether it’s too loud?
Li
I really enjoyed that metaphor, but on reflection I think it’s getting in the way a bit of what I wanted to say, which is just: why not err on the side of not using this word, at least in public places where you (the general you!) can’t be sure whether you’re going to hurt anyone. Since not saying “lez” doesn’t hurt anyone, but saying it does, it makes the most sense for straight people to err on the side that is guaranteed to do no harm.
Karen Lynn
I can see your point. Doesn’t help that I’m the one that’s sensitive to sound… Bah! Logic! 😛 *insert stupid argument bait here*
Yeah, I guess I’m just accustomed to reclamationists when it comes to certain words. I’ll try to be mindful of out in the future.
FUUUTUUUUUURE!
Sorry, couldn’t help that bit.
Li
Heh. Well, for what it’s worth, I appreciate it. I think that’s all you can do. <3 And this is the part that counts most anyway, in the long run — not whether you offend/hurt anyone at ALL, but how you handle it when you do. You are handling it well!
FUUUTUUUUUUUUURE
Karen Lynn
Lez in and of itself, like any other word, isn’t disrespectful. Tone means everything.
me
And any non-mechanics should definitely refrain from using the words modulator or torque converter.
Rycan
I don’t follow, me (now that’s a bizarre sentence).
Rycan, “me” probably is taking a rude pot shot at the idea of reserving slurs for the group they’re used against. The idea seems ridiculous to them, so they’ve made a ridiculous comparison and are under the (wrong) impression that it’s witty and clever.
spriteless
Marcie could be a trans dude. Then Marcie being into Malaya would mean het or bi. Marcie could also be gender queer, in which case the labels that assume the subject is on one side or another of the “gender binary” and assign orientation relative to that break down. Since Malaya is a girl, though, “into girls” works regardless of Marcie’s gender.
Because we don’t know, it is a Willis comic, it is trying to balance out a diet of popular culture.
S'toon
You’re forgetting Sal and Marcie first met when they were kids. Marcie was a little girl back then.
Right, “trans dude” would typically mean someone who identifies as a dude and was assigned female at birth. But I’m pretty sure Marcie’s NOT a trans dude. If Marcie WERE a trans man, then he would probably not want everyone to use female pronouns all the time.
My question is, have we ever seen Marcie being into anyone else before? I feel like this is the first time we’ve seen it!
Gigafreak
Well, a few details of the subscriber-only pages of Joyce&Walky are written up on TVTropes. Apparently, the other universe’s Marcie dated Jason for a bit.
Aside from that, everyone in her old SEMME squad (Mandy, Grace, Sierra, plus one other who is not in the Dumbiverse) had a mutually-merry time with each other and Joe. (So that means Mandy, Grace, and Sierra are bi too.)
But in this universe? This is the first time I remember it happening.
JWLM
Yes, but that doesn’t mean that Marcie wasn’t trans, Male GAAB, and out. Gender identity has nothing to do with sexual orientation; recognition of the one is completely independent of recognition of the latter.
Even if she did know, she could just find Malaya so unpleasant that she couldn’t imagine her own best friend could possibly be interested in the other definition of hitting that. She could barely even wrap her mind around the idea Marcie could want Malaya just as a friend.
310 thoughts on “Hit that”
Jen Aside
Marcie: *signs* “No, tap.”
Sal: “Yeah, sucks they don’t serve beer here.”
Airyu
Your comments crack me up so much. Thank you. <3
Lawzlo
Does ASL have a sign for “thang” (distinct from “thing”), as in: “I’d like to hit that sweet thaaaang.”
Hoodiecrow
I believe you use the sign for “thing”, but put on a special, neon-colored, glove first.
Paradoxius
As I understand it, inflection in ASL is done with facial expression, so it’s possible that the meaning can be conveyed.
Gigafreak
So you make the sign for “thing” but while grinning with an arched eyebrow, like Joe.
gwalla
I wonder if there’s a SignWriting glyph for “extreme eyebrow waggle”.
Lumino
True story, some accents actually have different signing in ASL. Boston is a prime example.
modernpython
Marcie: I mean, fuck.
Sal: why do you always swear when you are tongue tied?
Rodrigo
Marcie: I meant “fuck her”!
Sal: Yeah! Fuck Malaya! Why are we even here?
AHR
Sal you lovable fool
JessWitt
Foolish love.
Wire Segal
Foolish though it may be, marcie looks so happy in panel 3…
Paul
Lovable fool? No, I think Sal has been a real jerk with this Marcie-Malaya thing all along.
Karen Lynn
This scene was before that, though.
It’s like chronolinears don’t understand time at all… 😛
Ed Rhodes
I think it’s fairly obvious Sal is just as bad at inter-personal stuff as Dina, she just channels it in the wrong direction which is why she gets into trouble.
Karen Lynn
Plus, there are always people that one just can’t get along with, for little or no reason.
Everybody has that personality type the instinctively can’t stand. That’s what I’m thinking the actual case is here.
Kris
Understandable mistake.
MM
Oh, totally.
sps48
Rolling your eyes makes you look less sincere, ya know 🙂
Rycan
Says the pot to the kettle
nothri
Yeah, but trying to roll other people’s eyes just makes you look crazy.
Aisling
Gomez: Look dear, he has your father’s eyes!
Morticia: Gomez! Get those away from him!
Opus the Poet
I remember that exchange with John Astin and Carolyn Jones from back in the 1960s, it’s funnier now.
das-g
Mistakable understanding.
otusasio451
Well, I can’t say I blame her for the confusion.
Frogboy
Marcie: “I’d hit it.”
Sal: “McDonald’s? Sure.”
Doctor_Who
“No, I mean I want to nail her.”
“Me too. Maybe we can jump her later on?”
“No, I’m talking about banging.”
“A gun? Seems a little drastic.”
“Me. Malaya. S. E. X.”
“You missed a few letters, that’s not how you spell suplex.”
TheTJ
OK, the Suplex line got me. XD
Jen Aside
I’m sure there are some actual HILARIOUS jokes in ASL we’re missing out on because they won’t translate to straight English… =C
Les
As opposed to gay English or bi-English?
das-g
As opposed to curled English. The language barrier in today’s strip stems from Sal’s artificially modified hairstyle.
Jen Aside
as opposed to cussin’ like a sailor STRAIT ENGLISH GEDDIT LOLOLOLOL
*runs away*
saki
I love you.
Opus the Poet
OK I can totally see that happening if Sal didn’t know Marcie was lez or bi.
Plasma Mongoose
If only she knew she was in a Willis comic, she might have figured it out a lot sooner.
Opus the Poet
Pardon me, I should have just said “into girls”. Sorry.
Karen Lynn
What’re you apologizing for?
Opus the Poet
Remembering the minor cat fight that went on a few pages back about calling Becky “lez” instead of “lesbian”.
Rycan
I don’t recall that, but why am I not surprised?
AtomsOrSystems
Because you are learned and wise in the ways of the world, my friend.
…or maybe just in the ways of internet commenting. Maybe you should leave that off your resume.
Rycan
Yeah, I’ll just stick to ‘skilled in slaughtering bacteria en masse’
Karen Lynn
Wow… People are so touchy sometimes.
timemonkey
Some people get sick of being disrespected.
Li
Thank you.
garbud
I don’t really see how shortening lesbian to lez is in anyway disrespectful.
Li
http://www.thefreedictionary.com/lez
Because that is how it is usually used: disrespectfully! So now that you know, I trust you will refrain from using it in the future…?
Lin
It’s also usually a slur. If you’re a queer woman, you might decide to reclaim it (the way I and some other queer women have reclaimed the word dyke), but even then it’s not super safe to apply to all queer women or any individual. And straight people should avoid entirely.
Karen Lynn
I guess I’m just accustomed to different types of people. Couple of my lez friends just say “Yeah, I’m lez, no big deal.”
Best part about lez friends, more guys for me. :3
Li
/waits for you to stop using this word generally
/because you’ve literally just been told it’s considered a slur
Like. Seriously. Your lesbian friends do not speak for me. They don’t speak for anyone but themselves. The polite thing now is to stop using this word except around them and other lesbians who are okay with it.
Not that hard, ma’am.
Karen Lynn
Li, you yourself don’t speak for all gay women either.
It’d be like saying I should always be offended at the word “tranny”, even when it’s more often than not used to refer to a car’s transmission.
Li
Wow, no, that’s not at all what it’s like.
It’s like saying “because some lesbians are offended/hurt by this word, while the rest are indifferent to it, straight people should err on the side of not hurting anyone by avoiding the word.”
Not. That. Hard.
Li
(Also I sure hope you are trans yourself, with that example. And I’d love to know what country that’s true of (“usually refers to a car transmission”), because it’s not the USA.)
Karen Lynn
Actually, Li, it is the US. I’ve only ever heard tranny as a slur twice in person, whereas everyone I know uses tranny to refer to a car’s transmission.
I’m MtF trans, polyamorous and pansexual.
So, should Lizzie the Lezzie stop using that name for her twitter and tumbler?
Li
It’s absolutely not “the US”. It might be your state. It might be a few states! But it is not the US as a whole.
Still, you’re right about one thing, which is that I should have responded differently. I should have pointed out that “dyke” can also mean dam. The f-word can also mean cigarette, and afaik is still used that way in England. The n-word “originally” meant an ignorant person.
None of these alternate meanings make the slurs less hurtful to the people hurt by them. It’s literally irrelevant what other associations you might have with them. What should matter to you is that you are hurting someone by using them, so you should stop.
I’m MtF trans, polyamorous and pansexual.
Super. You’ll understand my thinking your readiness to use your lesbian friends as an excuse for using one slur might translate to using another slur on a similar pretext.
Btw, if you wanted to defend your right to use “lez” on the basis of you also being LGBTQIA, you should have done that when we were talking about how using it is something straight people shouldn’t do, by the way. Also your earlier comment about “the great thing about being friends with lesbians” now doesn’t really make sense. Sure, it means more men for you, but also fewer women, so… more of a breaking-even thing than a clear advantage, yes?
So, should Lizzie the Lezzie stop using that name for her twitter and tumbler?
Look. I don’t know who that is, or really care. Shall I assume she is a lesbian? Because as has already been explained in this thread, people have the right to reclaim slurs used against them.
Stop trying to make this into an argument it isn’t. I’m not saying no one gets to use this word. I’m saying that straight people should err on the side of not using it, just as they should avoid “queer”. Just as I, a cis person, should avoid the t-word (whether or not it personally offends you, because it is generally considered a slur and offends lots of other people). Just as white people should avoid the n-word. Just as…. etc, etc, etc.
Karen Lynn
Li, I’m thinking at this point it may be best to extend an olive branch, and chalk it up to differences in opinion.
Because knowing how I am, I’m going to say something that’ll probably get me banned from the comments section.
So, agree to disagree?
Li
I don’t… see what there is to agree to disagree about, though?? This is so simple…?
I’m not asking you to agree that “lez” is a terrible bad word to use ever. I’m not saying your lesbian friends are wrong to not be offended by it or to use it for themselves. :|a
All I’m saying is that the word is a slur. Like all slurs, some of the people in the group it affects are reclaiming it (like your friends), and some are not (like me). I am also making an appeal to common decency and common sense.
Suppose you are watching TV in the living room. Your roommate Tommy comes into the living room with his hands over his ears and says, “Could you turn that down a little? This much volume is giving me a migraine.”
You know that your other roommate, Billy, would probably disagree that it’s too loud — he likes listening to the TV from his room. But you also know that Billy can always come into the living room with you if he wants to watch it, whereas Tommy is currently in actual pain from the noise level.
Doesn’t it make sense to just turn down the TV? Why are you asking Tommy to agree to disagree about whether it’s too loud?
Li
I really enjoyed that metaphor, but on reflection I think it’s getting in the way a bit of what I wanted to say, which is just: why not err on the side of not using this word, at least in public places where you (the general you!) can’t be sure whether you’re going to hurt anyone. Since not saying “lez” doesn’t hurt anyone, but saying it does, it makes the most sense for straight people to err on the side that is guaranteed to do no harm.
Karen Lynn
I can see your point. Doesn’t help that I’m the one that’s sensitive to sound… Bah! Logic! 😛 *insert stupid argument bait here*
Yeah, I guess I’m just accustomed to reclamationists when it comes to certain words. I’ll try to be mindful of out in the future.
FUUUTUUUUUURE!
Sorry, couldn’t help that bit.
Li
Heh. Well, for what it’s worth, I appreciate it. I think that’s all you can do. <3 And this is the part that counts most anyway, in the long run — not whether you offend/hurt anyone at ALL, but how you handle it when you do. You are handling it well!
FUUUTUUUUUUUUURE
Karen Lynn
Lez in and of itself, like any other word, isn’t disrespectful. Tone means everything.
me
And any non-mechanics should definitely refrain from using the words modulator or torque converter.
Rycan
I don’t follow, me (now that’s a bizarre sentence).
Li
Rycan, “me” probably is taking a rude pot shot at the idea of reserving slurs for the group they’re used against. The idea seems ridiculous to them, so they’ve made a ridiculous comparison and are under the (wrong) impression that it’s witty and clever.
spriteless
Marcie could be a trans dude. Then Marcie being into Malaya would mean het or bi. Marcie could also be gender queer, in which case the labels that assume the subject is on one side or another of the “gender binary” and assign orientation relative to that break down. Since Malaya is a girl, though, “into girls” works regardless of Marcie’s gender.
Because we don’t know, it is a Willis comic, it is trying to balance out a diet of popular culture.
S'toon
You’re forgetting Sal and Marcie first met when they were kids. Marcie was a little girl back then.
Leadsynth
Right, “trans dude” would typically mean someone who identifies as a dude and was assigned female at birth. But I’m pretty sure Marcie’s NOT a trans dude. If Marcie WERE a trans man, then he would probably not want everyone to use female pronouns all the time.
My question is, have we ever seen Marcie being into anyone else before? I feel like this is the first time we’ve seen it!
Gigafreak
Well, a few details of the subscriber-only pages of Joyce&Walky are written up on TVTropes. Apparently, the other universe’s Marcie dated Jason for a bit.
Aside from that, everyone in her old SEMME squad (Mandy, Grace, Sierra, plus one other who is not in the Dumbiverse) had a mutually-merry time with each other and Joe. (So that means Mandy, Grace, and Sierra are bi too.)
But in this universe? This is the first time I remember it happening.
JWLM
Yes, but that doesn’t mean that Marcie wasn’t trans, Male GAAB, and out. Gender identity has nothing to do with sexual orientation; recognition of the one is completely independent of recognition of the latter.
Cass
Even if she did know, she could just find Malaya so unpleasant that she couldn’t imagine her own best friend could possibly be interested in the other definition of hitting that. She could barely even wrap her mind around the idea Marcie could want Malaya just as a friend.
Doctor_Who
I’m pretty sure one interpretation of that sentence or the other is true for 90% of the commenters here.
Yotomoe
Hopefully we can get it down to 60%. Who’s with me!?
DarkoNeko
Maybe.
Rich