she’s trending to get there by the end of the comic though
Bryy
Let’s seriously not hyberbole to this level.
Toe Dad was a cult member who shot up a school and kidnapped five kids with the full intent of killing every single one of them including his own daughter.
Decidedly Orthogonal
Yes. And per the road to hell, Toe-Dad thought he was doing the morally right thing, as grossly misinformed as that was.
Raidah is knowingly fucking with people’s lives purely for her own desire and benefit. Her actions are not yet at his level, but arguably her motivations have already passed his.
Lars
I don’t know her motivations yet. Why is Asher oh so important? It would be interesting to have an evil-doer with a relatable motivation.
And is she fucking with peoples lives? Billie was a mess, Jennifer slightly less so.
Verdande
Connections. His family has ties with the mob. That’s my guess on why Raidah wants him in the group, anyway. She’s all about social climbing and making friends with important family members (see also, her immediately grilling Walky about his connection to the Dean.)
Adept
Raidah is utterly mercenary, and using people as building blocks for future advances. She seems Machiavellian.
thejeff
“Jennifer slightly less so” – and that change is built on a foundation of support from Raidah and her crew which is absolutely fake. I’m sure it’ll be fine when she finds that out though.
Lien
What ?
It’s been a while, but IIRC he never intended to kill anybody, he was just misguided by Amber’s dad.
Yes, he was stupid and had no qualm to use violence to force people to do what he believes is “right”, but that’s not “willing to murder children”.
He wanted to bring his daughter to conversion therapy, not to murder her.
WE know how that is nearly as horrible, but he doesn’t.
brionl
Wasn’t he shooting at Amazi-girl and/or Dina the first time he tried to “rescue” Beckie? That is pretty much willing to murder children.
Azhrei Vep
Hateability is not directly proportional to how terrible a person someone is, odd as it may sound.
If anything, little petty shit like this tends to make someone more hateable faster than big crazy shit like Toedad, because it’s more relatable and has a way better chance of hitting on something a person has actually experienced.
Benjamin Geiger
It’s the Umbridge situation.
Most of us don’t have to deal with wizard Hitler, but we all have to deal with petty bureaucratic tyrants, which makes the latter, while objectively less bad, much more hateable. Most of us haven’t had to deal with a friend’s parent who has tried to kidnap us, but we’ve all had to deal with “friends” who… well, act like Raidah.
jflb96
‘Let’s not hyperbole to this level,’ they said, about to do some hyperbole of their own
Taffy
He fired a gun on a college campus. “Shot up a school” is a stretch, sure, but it’s not on the same level as saying Raidah (some random nobody with no future) is gonna wind up like Ross. That’s really the only hyperbole here.
jflb96
He also didn’t intend murder during the kidnapping
Taffy
He totally would have done it.
Bryy
Ross didn’t seem to have any qualms about being the direct cause of Mike getting mortally injured.
Jamie
The fascinating thing about internet morality is how one-dimensional it is.
And then you change the laws of Florida to ban most mentions of it and outlaw offshore wind turbines, so that you can pretend the problem isn’t happening and hope that without those remainders, the people will somehow be too distracted with all the social issues you’ve generated or blown out of proportion to remember how you screwed them and their children over for that sweet, sweet oil baron campaign money.
Oil’s not even that cool, I don’t know why people piss so hard over it.
superglucose
ok to be fair it’s pretty cool. Liquidated reduced carbon! In long-chain alkanes that are easy to manipulate into a variety of useful objects! You can make pharmaceuticals, plastics, like, anything!
… or you can light it on fire and poison the planet. I recommend *not* doing that one.
Needfuldoer
Yeah, but it tastes lousy.
“Light, sweet crude”? Yeah, right.
clif
Yeah, but if you process it right you get this light compact reasonably safe store of easily available energy on demand. Yeah, there are terrible cumulative effects of burning it, but if you time it right, you get all of the advantages and your grandchildren are the ones who get to deal with the consequences.
thejeff
If you’re really good at it, you can use it to jumpstart a more sustainable economy.
And now you know the real reason for all the trans hate. They can’t acknowledge the real source of their problems, so they have to find something/someone else to attack to feel like they are doing something that will make a difference.
ktbear
Oh it makes a difference alright. Not in a good way, which is their intention all along.
Reltzik
Eh, that’s like 40% of the reason at most. Political and economic conservatism isn’t CREATING the trans hate — that already existed, thanks to religious and social conservatism — so much as taking a pre-existing diversion and supercharging it. It’s that they NEED* to do something like that now, rather than just want to do it. But they’d be doing it either way.
(… okay, they don’t actually NEED to do it, but when the alternative is losing and we’re talking about people that would rather merge the worst aspects of a two-year-old temper tantrum and a coup d’etat than lose, THEY think they need to do something like this and they act accordingly.)
That’s the Fascist Pattern in a nutshell — their goal is to harness class resentment, and redirect it towards a scapegoat.
Fascism begins by stealing targets from the left: elites, corrupt businessmen and weak-willed politicians. They then subtly shift focus from leftist critique of systems to types of people. Sooner or later, they settle on something that can’t change: race, ethnicity, nationality, disability, religious background, gender, sexual orientation.
The bigotry is always localized to existing prejudices in the region. Fascist Italy under Mussolini targeted Slovenes, at least until they invaded Ethiopia and Libya, and so demonized their citizens as well. Nazi Germany targeted disabled people, queer people, Jews, Romas and Slavs. The KKK in the United States targets black people, Jews, Catholics, queer people and immigrants. Fascist Spain under Francisco Franco wanted to determine the exact racial makeup of the country so he could cast people out for having a wrong *combination* of ethnicities.
As Reltzik pointed out, this is exactly why the Alt Right has gone all-in on transphobia. On some ironic level, reactionaries KNOW that trans people aren’t just cis people in disguise, desistance is rare and conversion “””therapy””” (TORTURE) doesn’t work. If reactionaries knew that trans people could just stop being trans, they would have never picked them as an enemy.
Florida’s shoreline is already vulnerable to sea level rise. I don’t know if Miami is like Charleston where some streets are flooded every king tide, but it won’t be much longer if they aren’t. And every big storm surge causes more destruction. America’s limp dick is in the process of becoming much smaller.
Asher’s not their friend either. He’s an important contact. Why Raidah can’t just socialize with him on her own, who knows, though. (Maybe she knows he wouldn’t bother if not for Jennifer?)
Yeah I think Asher’s aware enough that if left alone with Raidah, he’d pick up on the fact that she just wants power/money/influence/something and say ‘fuck that’. He seems like a surprisingly genuine guy.
Archieve
Just goes to show how bad at socializing long term Radiah actually is if the though of having to be nice to Asher and Ethan instead of Jennifer is too much for her. It’s the same issue she had with ignoring Lucy where she apparently thinks in the real world she’ll never have to worry about losing connections by being rude/dismissive to one’s spouse.
Is it not wanting to socialise with Ethan or being aware that if a breakup occurs, she’ll lose either an important mob contact (Asher) or an important political contact (Jenifer(‘s dad)) as those 2 probs won’t be too keen to hang out with their ex.
She also might be taking it a smidge personally considering how things ended with Jacob…
Archieve
Even if one of them leaves the official group they shoukd still ne able to maintain social contact with both if tactfully about it
bemisawa
I kind of wonder how convincing Raidah can be when her being transparently manipulative and shallow *isn’t* serving the punchline. Because I don’t think she’d usually be this explicit, at least when charming new people – I think she’s more self-aware than that, albeit only as a fitness-increasing adaptation for her own private little social Darwinism. As I recall, she wasn’t too subtle when talking to Walky.
One possibility is that by being connected to Asher through Jennifer it gives a level of separation that’s useful. I mean his connection to his dad isn’t exactly a clean thing to be involved with.
It seems like Asher is only really tied to Raidah and co through Jennifer, so it is important for Raidah if she wants to leverage Asher’s contacts (bad idea) to keep that relationship stable.
it does seem that way here, which is a little odd, because earlier on it was suggested that asher was part of their group BEFORE jen was: https://www.dumbingofage.com/pretended/
Nono
I think the implication is that Raidah would want to keep both those connections around, and a breakup is a pretty good reason for one of them to leave the group.
Jennifer was the one who broke up with Asher, so Raidah wants Jennifer to ‘fix’ it.
Mturtle7
My read on this is that Asher and Jennifer both joined the friend group (or rather, “friend” group) independently, but Asher is both more important than Jennifer to Raidah, and less dependent on this particular group for affirmation.
And Raidah thinks (perhaps rightly) that an unhappy breakup between Asher and Jennifer will cause Asher to ditch the whole group so he doesn’t have to be around his ex. Especially if he’s already hooking up with people outside the group!
So I presume her options now are either to force Jennifer and Asher back together, or ditch Jennifer entirely and try to entice Asher back through other means. This is gonna go SO well!
I don’t know, at this point I think Reggie Mantle is *more likeable* than Raidah.
Formedras
Reggie has actual redeeming qualities, such as not bragging about (or even revealing) what little selflessness he has. Reggie’s still overall horrible, but Raidah has rather consistently made him look like a saint in comparison.
Abdomino
Who’s Reggie again?
Creatrix Tiara
Reggie Mantle is from the Archie comics (and related Archieverse), he’s a smug bully type.
Mark
Ah, thank you. I was thinking, “oh, great, another celebrity I never heard of, do I care enough to Google this one?” Now I remember him.
brionl
I was thinking at first, “Why does Jeff hate the baseball player”?
But that’s Mickey Mantle, not Reggie.
Van Jealous
But Mickey was great at putting on all of those shows with Judy and the gang!….No…Wait….that was Mickey Rooney…
Unfortunately, I don’t think Jennifer is learning this important lesson. Who else is she going to hang around, certainly not Joyce or Walky or Lucy. She only likes people who diss her.
It’s weird how Radiah is almost acting like an evil version of Sarah here in that she apparently thinks social niceties like feigning concern and not being blunt line a hammer aren’t important.
Yeah. Except this doesn’t sound like he’s really their *friend*, per se. Raidah was going to say something else, and given Asher’s family, I’m pretty sure it’s *nothing* good. Is Raidah aiming to be a lawyer for the Korean mafia, then? Is that even public knowledge that Asher’s family is at the heart of it?
Although, Jennifer IS still a connection to the Billingsworths. So I think Raidah probably still sees her as a valuable ally to use as well.
Vanessa
I wonder how much Raidah actually knows about Asher, just that he’s cute and his family is rich and powerful. I don’t know if she is already straight up corrupt enough to court mob influences?
343 thoughts on “Slipaway”
System_Anomaly
ಠ_ಠ
Grayfinity
I second that.
➕1️⃣
anon2
what a wonderful person
GreyICE
It’s really amazing how she managed to hit Toe-Dad levels of hatable.
Alongcameaspider
She is not anywhere close to toedad levels yet
superglucose
she’s trending to get there by the end of the comic though
Bryy
Let’s seriously not hyberbole to this level.
Toe Dad was a cult member who shot up a school and kidnapped five kids with the full intent of killing every single one of them including his own daughter.
Decidedly Orthogonal
Yes. And per the road to hell, Toe-Dad thought he was doing the morally right thing, as grossly misinformed as that was.
Raidah is knowingly fucking with people’s lives purely for her own desire and benefit. Her actions are not yet at his level, but arguably her motivations have already passed his.
Lars
I don’t know her motivations yet. Why is Asher oh so important? It would be interesting to have an evil-doer with a relatable motivation.
And is she fucking with peoples lives? Billie was a mess, Jennifer slightly less so.
Verdande
Connections. His family has ties with the mob. That’s my guess on why Raidah wants him in the group, anyway. She’s all about social climbing and making friends with important family members (see also, her immediately grilling Walky about his connection to the Dean.)
Adept
Raidah is utterly mercenary, and using people as building blocks for future advances. She seems Machiavellian.
thejeff
“Jennifer slightly less so” – and that change is built on a foundation of support from Raidah and her crew which is absolutely fake. I’m sure it’ll be fine when she finds that out though.
Lien
What ?
It’s been a while, but IIRC he never intended to kill anybody, he was just misguided by Amber’s dad.
Yes, he was stupid and had no qualm to use violence to force people to do what he believes is “right”, but that’s not “willing to murder children”.
He wanted to bring his daughter to conversion therapy, not to murder her.
WE know how that is nearly as horrible, but he doesn’t.
brionl
Wasn’t he shooting at Amazi-girl and/or Dina the first time he tried to “rescue” Beckie? That is pretty much willing to murder children.
Azhrei Vep
Hateability is not directly proportional to how terrible a person someone is, odd as it may sound.
If anything, little petty shit like this tends to make someone more hateable faster than big crazy shit like Toedad, because it’s more relatable and has a way better chance of hitting on something a person has actually experienced.
Benjamin Geiger
It’s the Umbridge situation.
Most of us don’t have to deal with wizard Hitler, but we all have to deal with petty bureaucratic tyrants, which makes the latter, while objectively less bad, much more hateable. Most of us haven’t had to deal with a friend’s parent who has tried to kidnap us, but we’ve all had to deal with “friends” who… well, act like Raidah.
jflb96
‘Let’s not hyperbole to this level,’ they said, about to do some hyperbole of their own
Taffy
He fired a gun on a college campus. “Shot up a school” is a stretch, sure, but it’s not on the same level as saying Raidah (some random nobody with no future) is gonna wind up like Ross. That’s really the only hyperbole here.
jflb96
He also didn’t intend murder during the kidnapping
Taffy
He totally would have done it.
Bryy
Ross didn’t seem to have any qualms about being the direct cause of Mike getting mortally injured.
Jamie
The fascinating thing about internet morality is how one-dimensional it is.
NotPiffany
Toe-Dad? No, not even close. She’s more like Carol.
GholaHalleck
In an odd way, I think Carol’s worse then Toe dad.
Toe dad was misguided and was basically brainwashed into thinking he had to do the things he did to save his kid.
Carol is just a controlling monster who uses religion as a weapon.
HueSatLight
almost every time that judgment is passed down, that a character is at “toe-dad levels of evil”, they’re just being a dick while also being a woman.
DudeMyDadOwnsADealership
Not like she can stand having real friendships and having real values…
Pylgrim
She barely was able to stop herself saying “important asset”.
ValdVin
Her use of “…friend” and “we like having him around” sounds like something out of Mad Men.
NGPZ
A breakup to Jennifer is like climate change to republicans —
it’s always “not happening” until it’s already happened (-_-)
Reltzik
And when they reach that point, it’s perfectly fine and laissez-faire is the only way to live anyway.
Needfuldoer
But anything bad is always someone else’s fault.
True Survivor
And then you change the laws of Florida to ban most mentions of it and outlaw offshore wind turbines, so that you can pretend the problem isn’t happening and hope that without those remainders, the people will somehow be too distracted with all the social issues you’ve generated or blown out of proportion to remember how you screwed them and their children over for that sweet, sweet oil baron campaign money.
Taffy
Oil’s not even that cool, I don’t know why people piss so hard over it.
superglucose
ok to be fair it’s pretty cool. Liquidated reduced carbon! In long-chain alkanes that are easy to manipulate into a variety of useful objects! You can make pharmaceuticals, plastics, like, anything!
… or you can light it on fire and poison the planet. I recommend *not* doing that one.
Needfuldoer
Yeah, but it tastes lousy.
“Light, sweet crude”? Yeah, right.
clif
Yeah, but if you process it right you get this light compact reasonably safe store of easily available energy on demand. Yeah, there are terrible cumulative effects of burning it, but if you time it right, you get all of the advantages and your grandchildren are the ones who get to deal with the consequences.
thejeff
If you’re really good at it, you can use it to jumpstart a more sustainable economy.
But here we are.
Ophidiophile
And now you know the real reason for all the trans hate. They can’t acknowledge the real source of their problems, so they have to find something/someone else to attack to feel like they are doing something that will make a difference.
ktbear
Oh it makes a difference alright. Not in a good way, which is their intention all along.
Reltzik
Eh, that’s like 40% of the reason at most. Political and economic conservatism isn’t CREATING the trans hate — that already existed, thanks to religious and social conservatism — so much as taking a pre-existing diversion and supercharging it. It’s that they NEED* to do something like that now, rather than just want to do it. But they’d be doing it either way.
(… okay, they don’t actually NEED to do it, but when the alternative is losing and we’re talking about people that would rather merge the worst aspects of a two-year-old temper tantrum and a coup d’etat than lose, THEY think they need to do something like this and they act accordingly.)
NGPZ
That’s the Fascist Pattern in a nutshell — their goal is to harness class resentment, and redirect it towards a scapegoat.
Fascism begins by stealing targets from the left: elites, corrupt businessmen and weak-willed politicians. They then subtly shift focus from leftist critique of systems to types of people. Sooner or later, they settle on something that can’t change: race, ethnicity, nationality, disability, religious background, gender, sexual orientation.
The bigotry is always localized to existing prejudices in the region. Fascist Italy under Mussolini targeted Slovenes, at least until they invaded Ethiopia and Libya, and so demonized their citizens as well. Nazi Germany targeted disabled people, queer people, Jews, Romas and Slavs. The KKK in the United States targets black people, Jews, Catholics, queer people and immigrants. Fascist Spain under Francisco Franco wanted to determine the exact racial makeup of the country so he could cast people out for having a wrong *combination* of ethnicities.
As Reltzik pointed out, this is exactly why the Alt Right has gone all-in on transphobia. On some ironic level, reactionaries KNOW that trans people aren’t just cis people in disguise, desistance is rare and conversion “””therapy””” (TORTURE) doesn’t work. If reactionaries knew that trans people could just stop being trans, they would have never picked them as an enemy.
Opus the Poet
Florida’s shoreline is already vulnerable to sea level rise. I don’t know if Miami is like Charleston where some streets are flooded every king tide, but it won’t be much longer if they aren’t. And every big storm surge causes more destruction. America’s limp dick is in the process of becoming much smaller.
NGPZ
Florida and their leaders realizing the danger to them when it’s too late:
*erection goes flaccid*
Ty34er
This is where Jennifer learns that she isn’t their friend. Asher is.
MM
Asher’s not their friend either. He’s an important contact. Why Raidah can’t just socialize with him on her own, who knows, though. (Maybe she knows he wouldn’t bother if not for Jennifer?)
Doopyboop
Yeah I think Asher’s aware enough that if left alone with Raidah, he’d pick up on the fact that she just wants power/money/influence/something and say ‘fuck that’. He seems like a surprisingly genuine guy.
Archieve
Just goes to show how bad at socializing long term Radiah actually is if the though of having to be nice to Asher and Ethan instead of Jennifer is too much for her. It’s the same issue she had with ignoring Lucy where she apparently thinks in the real world she’ll never have to worry about losing connections by being rude/dismissive to one’s spouse.
Psi baka onna
Is it not wanting to socialise with Ethan or being aware that if a breakup occurs, she’ll lose either an important mob contact (Asher) or an important political contact (Jenifer(‘s dad)) as those 2 probs won’t be too keen to hang out with their ex.
She also might be taking it a smidge personally considering how things ended with Jacob…
Archieve
Even if one of them leaves the official group they shoukd still ne able to maintain social contact with both if tactfully about it
bemisawa
I kind of wonder how convincing Raidah can be when her being transparently manipulative and shallow *isn’t* serving the punchline. Because I don’t think she’d usually be this explicit, at least when charming new people – I think she’s more self-aware than that, albeit only as a fitness-increasing adaptation for her own private little social Darwinism. As I recall, she wasn’t too subtle when talking to Walky.
Illjwamh
Yeah, I get the feeling Jennifer’s the hook they have on him, which amounts to 75% of her value in their eyes.
Wereg
Jennifer has slightly important family, I think. Plus Raidah probably views her as easy to manipulate AND a minor blow against Sarah.
Bryy
Raidah literally only called Asher a friend because she stopped herself in time.
Warcodered
One possibility is that by being connected to Asher through Jennifer it gives a level of separation that’s useful. I mean his connection to his dad isn’t exactly a clean thing to be involved with.
Thag Simmons
It seems like Asher is only really tied to Raidah and co through Jennifer, so it is important for Raidah if she wants to leverage Asher’s contacts (bad idea) to keep that relationship stable.
miz
it does seem that way here, which is a little odd, because earlier on it was suggested that asher was part of their group BEFORE jen was: https://www.dumbingofage.com/pretended/
Nono
I think the implication is that Raidah would want to keep both those connections around, and a breakup is a pretty good reason for one of them to leave the group.
Jennifer was the one who broke up with Asher, so Raidah wants Jennifer to ‘fix’ it.
Mturtle7
My read on this is that Asher and Jennifer both joined the friend group (or rather, “friend” group) independently, but Asher is both more important than Jennifer to Raidah, and less dependent on this particular group for affirmation.
And Raidah thinks (perhaps rightly) that an unhappy breakup between Asher and Jennifer will cause Asher to ditch the whole group so he doesn’t have to be around his ex. Especially if he’s already hooking up with people outside the group!
So I presume her options now are either to force Jennifer and Asher back together, or ditch Jennifer entirely and try to entice Asher back through other means. This is gonna go SO well!
Rose by Any Other Name
Ayup.
I didn’t know it was possible to like Raidah less, but here we are. Just keep digging that hole deeper… eventually you’ll hit Mantle.
Jeff K!
I don’t know, at this point I think Reggie Mantle is *more likeable* than Raidah.
Formedras
Reggie has actual redeeming qualities, such as not bragging about (or even revealing) what little selflessness he has. Reggie’s still overall horrible, but Raidah has rather consistently made him look like a saint in comparison.
Abdomino
Who’s Reggie again?
Creatrix Tiara
Reggie Mantle is from the Archie comics (and related Archieverse), he’s a smug bully type.
Mark
Ah, thank you. I was thinking, “oh, great, another celebrity I never heard of, do I care enough to Google this one?” Now I remember him.
brionl
I was thinking at first, “Why does Jeff hate the baseball player”?
But that’s Mickey Mantle, not Reggie.
Van Jealous
But Mickey was great at putting on all of those shows with Judy and the gang!….No…Wait….that was Mickey Rooney…
Vanessa
Unfortunately, I don’t think Jennifer is learning this important lesson. Who else is she going to hang around, certainly not Joyce or Walky or Lucy. She only likes people who diss her.
spriteless aunty
That’s how you know they’re important
Archieve
It’s weird how Radiah is almost acting like an evil version of Sarah here in that she apparently thinks social niceties like feigning concern and not being blunt line a hammer aren’t important.
Archieve
*Like
bemisawa
Yeah. Except this doesn’t sound like he’s really their *friend*, per se. Raidah was going to say something else, and given Asher’s family, I’m pretty sure it’s *nothing* good. Is Raidah aiming to be a lawyer for the Korean mafia, then? Is that even public knowledge that Asher’s family is at the heart of it?
bemisawa
Although, Jennifer IS still a connection to the Billingsworths. So I think Raidah probably still sees her as a valuable ally to use as well.
Vanessa
I wonder how much Raidah actually knows about Asher, just that he’s cute and his family is rich and powerful. I don’t know if she is already straight up corrupt enough to court mob influences?