Yeah, most people don’t realize that 1 in every 4 or 5 women in the United States have been or will be sexually assaulted during their lifetime. Some refuse to believe it.
Then there are some that think they believe, but then don’t realize that also applies to the women THEY know and are completely unaware of how many have had this happen to them and keep quiet about it out of fear or shame.
I thought it was one in 3. And seeing as how I know about 8 or so of my friends who have been, I believe it. And one of them was raped by her pastor. When she was 15. When she tried to tell her mom she got slapped in the face and called a liar.
Rape culture sucks.
No, it’s the screwed up “justice” system and America’s Rape culture that lets the scum get away with it.
You’re only reasonably likely to win a rape case if you are a prepubescent white girl from a reasonably healthy family. I’ve heard of cases where the defense claimed a ten year old was dressing so she was “asking for it”.
Even when someone does press charges and go to trial, there is a very low conviction rate for rape. And the victim is on trial just as much, if not more, than the rapist.
Really? I’ve actually heard that accused rapists are basically guilty until proven innocent; I’ve heard more than one horror story about a guy who was with a girl, then the girl accused him of rape (as revenge or simply because she regretted it) and pretty much ruined the guy’s life.
Honestly, I think there are examples of both in the current justice system, which is, truthfully, broken.
S.Yeske
I think it mainly depends on where you are. In the more conservatives states (esp Utah) it’s almost always the girl’s fault. (in their minds)
And it largely depends on who the girl is, who her parents are, and who the boy is. Economic level. If the girl’s parents are well respected members of the community and the boy is from the wrong side of the tracks, yeah, he might end up in jail even if he didn’t do it.
But if the situation is reversed, he probably won’t, even if there is loads of evidence or he beat the girl half to death.
There are quite a few people out there with the opinion that men are ravening beasts and if they think the girl is dressed inappropriately or somewhere they think she shouldn’t be, then she was really “asking” for sex and it wasn’t really rape. Those are the same sort of people who believe it’s not rape if it’s your boyfriend/husband, because you gave them permission to sleep with you before, and apparently they believe that negates a girl’s right to say “no”.
Utah is especially bad about this, as the Mormons teach their girls it is better to *die* than to lose their virtue.
Zitseidu
I’m Mormon, in Utah, and wondering what on earth you’re talking about. We don’t teach girls that, we also don’t believe in double standards (such as “it’s always the girl’s fault”). Sex before marriage, whether you’re male or female, is considered a sin, as it is in pretty much any other christian religion you can find. I’m certainly not aware of any that preach otherwise, Joyce’s “Premarital Hanky Panky!” from an earlier comic demonstrate this.
I’m left wondering if you’ve even been to Utah, or met the Mormons you seem to look down upon. I live here, and have never seen the mind set you describe.
Less than two percent of reported rapes are false. I think it might be 2 in every thousand but I don’t want to be quoted as extreme there so I’ll go with my original. The fact that the false accusations get more publicity and the majority of rapes go unreported makes it seem more likely… now I know of a guy who I believe was falsely accused (but not officially) of rape and this actually caused a major schism among my group of friends so don’t get me wrong I know it can happen but its very rare for an official case to be false.
The US justice system is founded on the principle that a person is “innocent until PROVEN guilty”. The trouble often comes when the only proof is one person’s word against another. Who do you believe, without additional evidence?
And which is worse? Letting a guilty person go free or sending an innocent person to prison for a crime they didn’t commit? Regardless of how you personally feel about it, the US justice system is founded on the idea that the latter is worse than the former.
Sal is sadly probably right. Without hard evidence, Joyce would far more likely be the one in trouble if she reported it than Mr. Rapist would.
I read many years ago of an alternate way to bring him to justice while working WITHIN the system: Accuse him of indecent exposure.
Say he just jumped out at you in the parking lot and wiggled it in your face and dashed off.
The reason you’d want to do this instead of accusing him of RAPE? Sadly, it’s pretty simple: It’s far, far easier to get someone convicted of weeny-wiggling than it is to convict them of rape. The victim isn’t on trial. The sentences tend to be longer. >< And finally, while, even if you manage to get a rapist sent to jail, in that culture someone who rapes women often has a certain amount of status, someone who gets convicted of public exposure has NO status. Their time in jail will be much harsher on them.
What's he gonna do, say he raped you? Unlikely. And the victim may be able to describe his unit well enough to convince a judge that she did indeed see it.
Also, it takes the power away from a rapist and turns him into some lame perv.
Now, that advice was written probably about twenty years ago from an American perspective, so YMMV and you may want to do some research before doing it these days. Buuuut… it may be a viable alternative to going through that whole victim-asked-for-it nonsense. Some guy leaps out from behind a bush and shoves his willy in your face before running away, no one's gonna ask what she was wearing. Or if she was coming onto him. Or how many sexual partners she's had. Or any other nonsense.
If Joyce complains to the faculty that THAT's what Ryan did, and her witnesses to the attempted rape back her up, he's gonna be sent home in disgrace. People WILL believe that a nice pastor's boy would do something like that when they might otherwise go "Oh no, not RYAN. He's such a NICE boy!!" And she won't need drugs in her system as proof.
…This seems familiar somehow. Almost as a similar solution was used to a similar situation back in another iteration of the story. Like if Grace mind-wiped herself to forget that she had seen a porn video back in “It’s Walky” or something.
dejablue- feeling as though you’ve drank from this water bottle before
dejamoo- feeling as though you’ve eaten this steak before
dejaflu- feeling as though you’ve felt this sick before
dejatwo- feeling as though you’ve had this feeling twice in the past
dejashoe- feeling as though you’ve worn this footwear before
dejagoo- feeling as though you’ve felt this slime before
dejachoo- feeling as though you’ve performed this sneeze before
narmenduke
Dejawho – Feeling as though you’ve seen this small thing asking why you’re taking its Christmas tree before.
Wandering Meme
Deja-fu – martial art requiring the practitioner to channel and manipulate the powers of time and space, creating a time paradox , thus multiplying and/or maximizing the physical damage, psychological effect, and in some cases combo rating for each assault.
Ex.: Next with nicolas Cage; prince of persia; anyone that hits you so hard you end up in last week (see old testament sarah vs ryan)
begbert2
So *that’s* where hi disappeared off to! He didn’t run away – he just vanished and appeared at the start of the storyline! He actually was never born, but simply appeared one afternoon, with no clear memories in his head except that he needed to get back at this lightbrown-haired girl…
It looks like Sal finally realizes the bad effect her words have had on an emotionally compromised girl recovering from drug-induced memory loss.
I don’t blame any of the characters, but I really wish Sal had stayed out of it. Something like this almost happened to an old roommate of mine (well, everyone decided to leave an unconscious girl in a house with people known to take advantage of said people) and then not talk to the authorities about it because they thought it wouldn’t do the girl and good (and it would get people in trouble). Okay, so maybe the situation’s different, but it brings back all those old feelings. I told an RA and the situation with my roommate ended up fine… but this same attitude of “these things happen, don’t tell the authorities” really bums me out.
That means that Willis is doing a great job making us care for his characters and their wellbeing. I’m proud to read a webcomic that keeps its characters true to themselves even in times of crisis, although I wish the characters themselves would do the right thing. I suppose the title “Dumbing of Age” is true: It’s hard at that age to know what the right thing to do is.
I’m not sure Sal realized anything of the sort. I think she simply acknowledges that she and Sarah have opposing views and she may have made an enemy thanks to not minding her own business.
I think he’s talking about Sal’s look in the last panel.
fellixe
I don’t think Sal blames herself in the least for Joyce’s decision. But it has to be disappointing to lay the facts as you see them out to a person so they can make an informed choice and have them ultimately decide to retreat into their personal fantasy. It’s like Sarah was offering option A, Sal presented option B, and Joyce decided to have the Waldorf salad instead.
152 thoughts on “Decision”
David Herbert
History repeats Joyce. This may come back and bite you in the FAAACE!
NakedDumblydore
Or beat her to death with her own bloody femurs.
Plasma Mongoose
I have FAAAAAITH in Joyce’s decision.
Michael
No Joyce, you must go ask Ruth for help! I’ve been sitting on a joke about Ruth for weeks and i want a chance to finally use it.
Henry
Ruth will find out somehow. And then her hands will thirst for Ryan’s neck.
Then she, Sal, and Amazi-Girl will team up and end him.
Michael
Excellent.
Rikushadow5
This idea is supported.
DarkVeghetta
And then they all have hot lesbian sex.
Plasma Mongoose
So she does remember!
rjaco321
maybe she finally read her tweet about glassing some dude in the faaaace.
AndysDrawings
Maybe everyone has told her all about it and she has a huge wound in her hand.
Wandering Meme
and a douche-bag lives to rape another day…
I was soooooooooooooo hoping to shout “yaaaaaaay MURDER!”
Far
No, why have blood on your hands with this. Play his trick on him, there should be a gay frat house somewhere. Haul his unconcious rear over to it.
Kryss LaBryn
Yeah, but first you’d have to find a gay frathouse filled with jerks unscrupulous enough to rape an unconscious person.
I like the justice, but in practice it (HOPEFULLY) might not be that easy.
Rikushadow5
Speaking of Minds, y’know what’s on mine? MURDERS!!!
YAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAY
Kernanator
Maybe she tattooed instructions to herself on her hand. Now she just needs to find a wisecracking perverted skull.
AndaisQ
Wait, when did Harry write on his hand? All I remember is the Sigil.
Kernanator
The other wisecracking perverted skull, Morte. You know, Planescape Torment?
Doom Shepherd
Pretty normal. Pretty sad.
MichaelHaneline
Yeah, most people don’t realize that 1 in every 4 or 5 women in the United States have been or will be sexually assaulted during their lifetime. Some refuse to believe it.
Then there are some that think they believe, but then don’t realize that also applies to the women THEY know and are completely unaware of how many have had this happen to them and keep quiet about it out of fear or shame.
S.Yeske
I thought it was one in 3. And seeing as how I know about 8 or so of my friends who have been, I believe it. And one of them was raped by her pastor. When she was 15. When she tried to tell her mom she got slapped in the face and called a liar.
Rape culture sucks.
Leorale
Yah, roughly 1 in 3.
Ridureyu
So, is she going to rip off the bandage? Because that’s a pretty big sign that stuff happened.
Wackd
Yeah, but the gash is a bigger sign.
TaZZerath
aaaaand this is why scum get away with what they do in real life…..
a99steaksauce
Its not their fault, nature and nurture made them that way…
Izzy
-.-
MoreWhitecaps
>_<
a99steaksauce
I feel like Izzy and MoreWhitecaps have female gravatars up for a reason…
N0083rP00F
Just be glad that the internet does not provide the “reach out and touch someone” else your femurs would be jeopardy.
a99steaksauce
well i guess its really hard to convey sarcasm they way i put it. though adding potential alien modifications to the factors woulda helped.
Izzy
No reason other than I like my exposed boobs avatar. That probably makes me a lil creepy lol. I can put my walky one back up if you’d prefer?
Plasma Mongoose
Males using female avas and vice versa on the internet is almost as old as I am.
S.Yeske
No, it’s the screwed up “justice” system and America’s Rape culture that lets the scum get away with it.
You’re only reasonably likely to win a rape case if you are a prepubescent white girl from a reasonably healthy family. I’ve heard of cases where the defense claimed a ten year old was dressing so she was “asking for it”.
Even when someone does press charges and go to trial, there is a very low conviction rate for rape. And the victim is on trial just as much, if not more, than the rapist.
Ash
Really? I’ve actually heard that accused rapists are basically guilty until proven innocent; I’ve heard more than one horror story about a guy who was with a girl, then the girl accused him of rape (as revenge or simply because she regretted it) and pretty much ruined the guy’s life.
Honestly, I think there are examples of both in the current justice system, which is, truthfully, broken.
S.Yeske
I think it mainly depends on where you are. In the more conservatives states (esp Utah) it’s almost always the girl’s fault. (in their minds)
And it largely depends on who the girl is, who her parents are, and who the boy is. Economic level. If the girl’s parents are well respected members of the community and the boy is from the wrong side of the tracks, yeah, he might end up in jail even if he didn’t do it.
But if the situation is reversed, he probably won’t, even if there is loads of evidence or he beat the girl half to death.
There are quite a few people out there with the opinion that men are ravening beasts and if they think the girl is dressed inappropriately or somewhere they think she shouldn’t be, then she was really “asking” for sex and it wasn’t really rape. Those are the same sort of people who believe it’s not rape if it’s your boyfriend/husband, because you gave them permission to sleep with you before, and apparently they believe that negates a girl’s right to say “no”.
Utah is especially bad about this, as the Mormons teach their girls it is better to *die* than to lose their virtue.
Zitseidu
I’m Mormon, in Utah, and wondering what on earth you’re talking about. We don’t teach girls that, we also don’t believe in double standards (such as “it’s always the girl’s fault”). Sex before marriage, whether you’re male or female, is considered a sin, as it is in pretty much any other christian religion you can find. I’m certainly not aware of any that preach otherwise, Joyce’s “Premarital Hanky Panky!” from an earlier comic demonstrate this.
I’m left wondering if you’ve even been to Utah, or met the Mormons you seem to look down upon. I live here, and have never seen the mind set you describe.
Lis
Less than two percent of reported rapes are false. I think it might be 2 in every thousand but I don’t want to be quoted as extreme there so I’ll go with my original. The fact that the false accusations get more publicity and the majority of rapes go unreported makes it seem more likely… now I know of a guy who I believe was falsely accused (but not officially) of rape and this actually caused a major schism among my group of friends so don’t get me wrong I know it can happen but its very rare for an official case to be false.
Jason
The US justice system is founded on the principle that a person is “innocent until PROVEN guilty”. The trouble often comes when the only proof is one person’s word against another. Who do you believe, without additional evidence?
And which is worse? Letting a guilty person go free or sending an innocent person to prison for a crime they didn’t commit? Regardless of how you personally feel about it, the US justice system is founded on the idea that the latter is worse than the former.
Sal is sadly probably right. Without hard evidence, Joyce would far more likely be the one in trouble if she reported it than Mr. Rapist would.
Kryss LaBryn
I read many years ago of an alternate way to bring him to justice while working WITHIN the system: Accuse him of indecent exposure.
Say he just jumped out at you in the parking lot and wiggled it in your face and dashed off.
The reason you’d want to do this instead of accusing him of RAPE? Sadly, it’s pretty simple: It’s far, far easier to get someone convicted of weeny-wiggling than it is to convict them of rape. The victim isn’t on trial. The sentences tend to be longer. >< And finally, while, even if you manage to get a rapist sent to jail, in that culture someone who rapes women often has a certain amount of status, someone who gets convicted of public exposure has NO status. Their time in jail will be much harsher on them.
What's he gonna do, say he raped you? Unlikely. And the victim may be able to describe his unit well enough to convince a judge that she did indeed see it.
Also, it takes the power away from a rapist and turns him into some lame perv.
Now, that advice was written probably about twenty years ago from an American perspective, so YMMV and you may want to do some research before doing it these days. Buuuut… it may be a viable alternative to going through that whole victim-asked-for-it nonsense. Some guy leaps out from behind a bush and shoves his willy in your face before running away, no one's gonna ask what she was wearing. Or if she was coming onto him. Or how many sexual partners she's had. Or any other nonsense.
If Joyce complains to the faculty that THAT's what Ryan did, and her witnesses to the attempted rape back her up, he's gonna be sent home in disgrace. People WILL believe that a nice pastor's boy would do something like that when they might otherwise go "Oh no, not RYAN. He's such a NICE boy!!" And she won't need drugs in her system as proof.
Hyp3rB14d3
…This seems familiar somehow. Almost as a similar solution was used to a similar situation back in another iteration of the story. Like if Grace mind-wiped herself to forget that she had seen a porn video back in “It’s Walky” or something.
Michael
I believe you mean Joyce. Man, correcting someone about that kind of makes me feel like a dickhole.
Hyp3rB14d3
Oops. Yep, I meant Joyce.
narmenduke
Did you make that mistake because you read El Goonish Shive and because Grace and Joyce are somewhat similar? Oh, I hope so.
narmenduke
Somewhat similar characters, I mean.
Hyp3rB14d3
Possibly. I do read El Goonish Shive, and the characters do have somewhat similar personalities…
Leorale
Good point, though. Early Joyce is sometimes tempted to run from the scary, impure truth.
Jackson
If Joyce’s parents had a second daughter and named her “Grace,” I would not be surprised in the slightest.
Aydr
If she weren’t the only girl in the family that would definitely seem like a likely name.
Ragnal
Except here, there’s no Head Alien to taunt her, no secret agency to take her to, and no gun for mind-wiping.
Joyce is about to realize, one way or another, reality hurts.
Jacob
and reality hits you hard, bro.
a99steaksauce
Harder than your mom?
L
That depends, got a nickel?
Plasma Mongoose
Only if your mum has a penis.
Michelle J Caboose
Or femurs.
Henry
The thing is that we’ve seen that no matter how hard reality hits, Joyce tends to hit back, sometimes with sharp objects in hand.
Lord Synick XXIII
OR SO THEY SAY
Kernanator
Deja vu: The sensation that an author is referencing a previous work.
Plasma Mongoose
2/ A repeating event that occurs when something in the Matrix has being altered.
fellixe
3/ A 2006 crime drama/time travel movie featuring Denzel Washington and Val Kilmer.
a99steaksauce
4/ Waking up in a strange room feeling like youve felt this pain in your backside before.
Izzy
dejablue- feeling as though you’ve drank from this water bottle before
dejamoo- feeling as though you’ve eaten this steak before
dejaflu- feeling as though you’ve felt this sick before
dejatwo- feeling as though you’ve had this feeling twice in the past
dejashoe- feeling as though you’ve worn this footwear before
dejagoo- feeling as though you’ve felt this slime before
dejachoo- feeling as though you’ve performed this sneeze before
narmenduke
Dejawho – Feeling as though you’ve seen this small thing asking why you’re taking its Christmas tree before.
Wandering Meme
Deja-fu – martial art requiring the practitioner to channel and manipulate the powers of time and space, creating a time paradox , thus multiplying and/or maximizing the physical damage, psychological effect, and in some cases combo rating for each assault.
Ex.: Next with nicolas Cage; prince of persia; anyone that hits you so hard you end up in last week (see old testament sarah vs ryan)
begbert2
So *that’s* where hi disappeared off to! He didn’t run away – he just vanished and appeared at the start of the storyline! He actually was never born, but simply appeared one afternoon, with no clear memories in his head except that he needed to get back at this lightbrown-haired girl…
Locke
Uh oh, Sarah’s gonna mess someone up later.
AaronS
It looks like Sal finally realizes the bad effect her words have had on an emotionally compromised girl recovering from drug-induced memory loss.
I don’t blame any of the characters, but I really wish Sal had stayed out of it. Something like this almost happened to an old roommate of mine (well, everyone decided to leave an unconscious girl in a house with people known to take advantage of said people) and then not talk to the authorities about it because they thought it wouldn’t do the girl and good (and it would get people in trouble). Okay, so maybe the situation’s different, but it brings back all those old feelings. I told an RA and the situation with my roommate ended up fine… but this same attitude of “these things happen, don’t tell the authorities” really bums me out.
That means that Willis is doing a great job making us care for his characters and their wellbeing. I’m proud to read a webcomic that keeps its characters true to themselves even in times of crisis, although I wish the characters themselves would do the right thing. I suppose the title “Dumbing of Age” is true: It’s hard at that age to know what the right thing to do is.
iSaidCandleja-
I’m not sure Sal realized anything of the sort. I think she simply acknowledges that she and Sarah have opposing views and she may have made an enemy thanks to not minding her own business.
Jacob
I think he’s talking about Sal’s look in the last panel.
fellixe
I don’t think Sal blames herself in the least for Joyce’s decision. But it has to be disappointing to lay the facts as you see them out to a person so they can make an informed choice and have them ultimately decide to retreat into their personal fantasy. It’s like Sarah was offering option A, Sal presented option B, and Joyce decided to have the Waldorf salad instead.
a99steaksauce