Having just binged the entire “If the Emperor had a Voice-to-Text Machine” (the source of the Warhammer 40k “HERETIC!” meme), I took the image and post, then a whole stream of profanity with the Emperor spewed out.
Rowen Morland
PRetty sure 40k fans have been doing the HERETIC! thing for longer than Text-to-speech.
The problem is she doesn’t believe trying to get with Jacob while he’s with Raidah is immoral.
She has to acknowledge she’s doing something shady before she can recognize Joe’s moral high ground as a problem.
Okay, can we just remember that Joe is not a horrific abomination of a human being. On a scale of Joyce to Blaine he’s, like, at least three or four steps above Mike. His only moral problem is his objectification of women, which he’s getting better at, and even that’s not as bad as a lot of men have it (respecting consent, acknowledging that women are perfectly entitled to not want to sleep with him, etc.) He’s gross, not a bad person, and considering his background understanding that infidelity and breaking apart relationships is wrong is entirely reasonable for him.
. . . Despite my comment yesterday I really do love how cute Joyce is flirting with Jacob, this kind of one-upmenship is fantastic! Also as usual Walky and Billie are great siblings.
I’m torn because this is so adorable and Jacob and Joyce seem like they would be very happy together, but trying to break someone up to date them is not cool. Damn you ethics.
There are not yet any spreadsheets to determine the most efficient means of acquiring steps, while attending class, making sure that Joyce has someone to walk with, and the highest chances of running into Jacob.
Facepalm all you want simply being flirty isn’t actually crossing any lines. There’s a difference between actively trying to break up a couple and passively placing your option put there.
Chronos
Admittedly, I’m not sure Joyce knows *how* to actively break up a couple.
BBCC
I’d argue that passively trying to break up a relationship so you can have someone is pretty crappy too.
desolation0
Wait, have we established that Joyce is actively or passively trying to break them up for her sake now? Obviously she was trying to hook him up with Sarah. Joe was right that Sarah was doing the same in return, while withholding that from Joyce. From Joyce’s perspective though, just being a good friend to someone of the opposite gender doesn’t necessarily mean you’re trying to get with them romantically. That being a good friend can lead to changing relationships with others for both parties is a side effect.
*WARNING* Friendship with Joyce may cause hugs, smiles, annoyance, and feelings of guilt. Ask your doctor if friendship with Joyce is right for you.
thejeff
It hasn’t been explicitly stated, but given her reaction when Joe implied he thought she’d have a chance of doing it and then her smile when Sarah tried to apologize for tricking her into going after Jacob, I think it’s pretty clearly implied that Operation Breakup is still on.
Her behavior towards him hasn’t changed since she was supposed to be trying to hook him up with Sarah, other than that she doesn’t try to awkwardly bring up Sarah.
BBCC
Pretty much this.
Roborat
-Starts scroll of huge list of potential side effects, of course it includes death.
desolation0
Accidental toe dismemberment (not necessarily your own)
It’s funny how some people are on this side and some think that it’s wrong BECAUSE she’s not making direct moves– and some think it’s wrong regardless. And others probably have other stances; I’m personally not that invested in the ethics of this particular situation.
I’ll be totally honest, considering all the child concentration camps and general ugliness in the news about Trump’s America, I just find it refreshing no one objects to the white girl wanting to date the black guy for the most terrible reasons that implies.
Batman
Don’t forget project iron sky. We will have a moon base soon.
Eldritch Gentleman
Irony Sky? That sounds like something out of the “Nazis on the Moon” kind of scenario.
Still the new Space Race is starting with China as the main competitor so maybe we’ll get some proper space exploration and exploitation programs going… hopefully it won’t end with One Year War though…
Kryss LaBryn
Aren’t there international agreements against the weaponizing of space and what, though? –I mean, not like Trump gives a damned about any agreements at all, even ones he made and signed himself; but still. We’ve agreed as a species that placing weapons platforms into orbit that can prevent other countries from accessing orbit is wrong, for what I would like to think are extremely obvious reasons, and detrimental to our progress as a species.
Not that Trump gives a fuck about that.
Eldritch Gentleman
Ah I think you misunderstood me. I’m not interested in weaponizing space. I was talking about more intense exploration and exploitation of space resources. With the Soviet Union gone the space exploration lost a lot of it’s importance and prestige. Now that China are going full-force into it we might have another Space Race which will again kick our space tech forward. Maybe mining resources from Moon and Asteroids. Space Tech should be high-priority for humanity because without going Out There we won’t survive as a species.
King Daniel
The only internationally-recognized treaty between spacefaring nations which regards the militarization of space forbids placing weapons of mass destruction (nuclear, chemical, biological) in space. Anything else – armed space stations (which the Soviets actually experimented with back in the ‘70s), military spaceplanes like the ongoing US X-37 program, or loopholes around the WMD ban like kinetic impactors aka “Rods From God” – are fair game.
Iron Sky was the Moon Nazis movie that delighted in its own camp.
Irony Sky is when Musk gets to Mars, only to have to face off against the undead ranks of Ayn Randian zombies–only to discover that the Randianism was inside him all along.
I think it would be less wrong if she was more open about it.
It would be worse if those direct moves involved tearing down Raidah, rather than just being up front with Jacob.
Yeah, like- she hasn’t really done anything to try and make him break up with Raidah. No schemes, no dissing Raidah, no “seduction”. She hasn’t even overtly flirted with him or tried to be alone with him! Her plan so far seems to be presenting herself as cute and charming in his vicinity and hoping Jacob “comes to his senses”. Hoping an apparently happy relationship will end is kind of shitty, but it’s not that terrible. And in the mean time, even if it doesn’t work, she’s building a genuine friendship with a nice guy. Seems like fair game to me.
And to be fair there are signs of his relationship with Raidah not being all that happy or healthy. With Joyce switching from “Here have some Sarah shoved down your throat” to “If you ever change your mind I’m here” I’m much more comfortable with his relationship with Raidah falling apart.
Yeah, a theme I’ve noticed in the comments is that having feelings for someone who’s taken is inherently terrible.
And yeah, it’s really hard.
But, if you don’t try to do anything then, no, it isn’t such an evil thing.
It can cause a bit of heartache when you get hope and it gets dashed… again and again… and that’s why it isn’t such a common thing.
A healthy way to approach it is to acknowledge the attraction but don’t stake too much on it while they are with someone else. At least that’s how I’ve dealt with this. If there’s attraction elsewhere and the other person single, go for it. And if you and the original person are both in a single state later down the line, then hey go for it.
Joyce, acknowledging her crush is good. I hope she follows a path that doesn’t break her, because I can definitely see Sarah’s prediction still coming to fourth.
The reasoning behind ‘having feelings for someone who is taken is terrible’ is that they view people as objects instead of people. If people are things they can be owned or taken. Things can be stolen. People who control their own actions can’t be. Hidden behind a pseudo moralistic stance, it attempts to deny Jacob his agency. Or that’s my 2 cents.
BBCC
You can believe Jacob has agency and still think Joyce trying to end a relationship so she can date him is crappy behaviour on her part. The two are hardly mutually exclusive.
What is she doing to try to end their relationship? Is she trying to convince him Raidah is a bad person? Is she lying about Raidah? Is she trying to get him to cheat on Raidah? Or is she simply flirting with him and letting him make up his own mind. Which he gets to do.
BBCC
Flirting with a guy in a relationship in the hopes he’ll get together with you instead is pretty crappy. Yes, Jacob gets to decide whether he’ll take her up on it, but I don’t think its so unreasonable to expect Joyce to respect his relationship. If she’d been flat out and told him ‘I like you’ that’d be one thing, but she’s not.
CJ
Oh the glory of a “relationship” that has been going for… is it four weeks already? Dang, how much trust, understanding and common experience they must already have build up…
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Doctor_Who
Is Joyce’s toe better? I wouldn’t be entering a step-count competition with a possibly broken toe.
Regalli
I mean, no matter what it should probably still be hurting.
I blame Webcomic Accelerated Healing Time.
Pablo360
That’s because you don’t have a winning attitude.
Knuf Wons
Only LOSERS bother with a winning attitude!
Inahc
I guess it wasn’t broken (or even fractured?) then. but, I’m pretty sure that toenail is purple by now 😀
Yumi
http://www.dumbingofage.com/2018/comic/book-8/03-faz-is-great/roadway/
Apparently manageable, now. Or it hurts still but flirtin’ is more important.
Inahc
good point. I’d forgotten how much those feelings override pain at that age 🙂
Reltzik
The toe is crushed, but Joyce is crushing.
Ana Chronistic
Joyce: “And guess how many SQUATS I did!”
Walky: “Hey, *I* did squat!”
Pablo360
+0
Spaz
Having just binged the entire “If the Emperor had a Voice-to-Text Machine” (the source of the Warhammer 40k “HERETIC!” meme), I took the image and post, then a whole stream of profanity with the Emperor spewed out.
Rowen Morland
PRetty sure 40k fans have been doing the HERETIC! thing for longer than Text-to-speech.
Jay
When Joe has a moral high ground in anything. you. need to reevaluate alot
cbwroses
The problem is she doesn’t believe trying to get with Jacob while he’s with Raidah is immoral.
She has to acknowledge she’s doing something shady before she can recognize Joe’s moral high ground as a problem.
Jamie
Is… Joyce even aware of Joe’s opinion on the matter?
abysswatcher1993
The fact that Joe is right and Joyce is wrong terrifies me. Well, both tend to be wrong a lot, but this is scary.
Clif
To answer the question, I’m pretty sure Joyce is aware of Joe’s general stance. http://www.dumbingofage.com/2018/comic/book-8/03-faz-is-great/lying/
Kamino Neko
He was more specific on his stance a couple strips prior.
Ferret
Okay, can we just remember that Joe is not a horrific abomination of a human being. On a scale of Joyce to Blaine he’s, like, at least three or four steps above Mike. His only moral problem is his objectification of women, which he’s getting better at, and even that’s not as bad as a lot of men have it (respecting consent, acknowledging that women are perfectly entitled to not want to sleep with him, etc.) He’s gross, not a bad person, and considering his background understanding that infidelity and breaking apart relationships is wrong is entirely reasonable for him.
Clif
Mike is on a stairway by himself.
Barduwulf
Considering his last attempt at flirting was throwing a Monkey Master toy at someone’s head, I guess he could throw McNuggets next….
cbwroses
If it ain’t broke, don’t fix it.
Chronos
I’d imagine throwing a toy’s a good way to break it.
Doctor_Who
He should order a happy meal. He’ll get some McNuggets AND a toy to throw.
Clif
You’re going to turn him into a regular Cazenovia.
MisterDaviso
… Casanova?
HeySo
Calzones? Is someone throwing pizza products at people?
Are you telling me there’s free pizza?!
Doctor_Who
Throwing calzones would totally work to seduce Ben Wyatt.
Clif
Damn spell correct.
Yumi
Hey, I know a good rooftop for that!
William Leonard Reese Jr.
. . . Despite my comment yesterday I really do love how cute Joyce is flirting with Jacob, this kind of one-upmenship is fantastic! Also as usual Walky and Billie are great siblings.
Kyrik Michalowski
I’m torn because this is so adorable and Jacob and Joyce seem like they would be very happy together, but trying to break someone up to date them is not cool. Damn you ethics.
Doctor_Who
“Damn you ethics.”
That should be the tagline of “The Good Place”.
Spaz
Searching “Damn you eithics” brought a Willis comic up in the first page of images.
https://goo.gl/images/54Qicr
Yet_One_More_Idiot
Also “Damn You, Ethics!” should totally be the title of a future DoA book. 😀 Or perhaps just the perennial “Damn You, Willis!” xD
Johan
They’re so cute but man they both need to jump off each other.
MisterDaviso
Or just “jump” each other. Get it over with.
Stephen Bierce
*Kool & The Gang continues…*
Passchendaele
peak nerd achieved
Spaz
Not quite.
There are not yet any spreadsheets to determine the most efficient means of acquiring steps, while attending class, making sure that Joyce has someone to walk with, and the highest chances of running into Jacob.
timemonkey
You know, as long as Joyce doesn’t make any direct moves on him she’s not actually doing anything wrong.
Inahc
*facepalm*
timemonkey
Facepalm all you want simply being flirty isn’t actually crossing any lines. There’s a difference between actively trying to break up a couple and passively placing your option put there.
Chronos
Admittedly, I’m not sure Joyce knows *how* to actively break up a couple.
BBCC
I’d argue that passively trying to break up a relationship so you can have someone is pretty crappy too.
desolation0
Wait, have we established that Joyce is actively or passively trying to break them up for her sake now? Obviously she was trying to hook him up with Sarah. Joe was right that Sarah was doing the same in return, while withholding that from Joyce. From Joyce’s perspective though, just being a good friend to someone of the opposite gender doesn’t necessarily mean you’re trying to get with them romantically. That being a good friend can lead to changing relationships with others for both parties is a side effect.
*WARNING* Friendship with Joyce may cause hugs, smiles, annoyance, and feelings of guilt. Ask your doctor if friendship with Joyce is right for you.
thejeff
It hasn’t been explicitly stated, but given her reaction when Joe implied he thought she’d have a chance of doing it and then her smile when Sarah tried to apologize for tricking her into going after Jacob, I think it’s pretty clearly implied that Operation Breakup is still on.
Her behavior towards him hasn’t changed since she was supposed to be trying to hook him up with Sarah, other than that she doesn’t try to awkwardly bring up Sarah.
BBCC
Pretty much this.
Roborat
-Starts scroll of huge list of potential side effects, of course it includes death.
desolation0
Accidental toe dismemberment (not necessarily your own)
Pablo360
Right, and as long as you hire an assassin it’s not murder.
Clif
It’s not? Learn something new every day.
Wraithy2773
I’m reminded of this great sequence in EGS: http://www.egscomics.com/index.php?id=2253 😀
Yumi
It’s funny how some people are on this side and some think that it’s wrong BECAUSE she’s not making direct moves– and some think it’s wrong regardless. And others probably have other stances; I’m personally not that invested in the ethics of this particular situation.
nothri
I’ll be totally honest, considering all the child concentration camps and general ugliness in the news about Trump’s America, I just find it refreshing no one objects to the white girl wanting to date the black guy for the most terrible reasons that implies.
Batman
Don’t forget project iron sky. We will have a moon base soon.
Eldritch Gentleman
Irony Sky? That sounds like something out of the “Nazis on the Moon” kind of scenario.
Still the new Space Race is starting with China as the main competitor so maybe we’ll get some proper space exploration and exploitation programs going… hopefully it won’t end with One Year War though…
Kryss LaBryn
Aren’t there international agreements against the weaponizing of space and what, though? –I mean, not like Trump gives a damned about any agreements at all, even ones he made and signed himself; but still. We’ve agreed as a species that placing weapons platforms into orbit that can prevent other countries from accessing orbit is wrong, for what I would like to think are extremely obvious reasons, and detrimental to our progress as a species.
Not that Trump gives a fuck about that.
Eldritch Gentleman
Ah I think you misunderstood me. I’m not interested in weaponizing space. I was talking about more intense exploration and exploitation of space resources. With the Soviet Union gone the space exploration lost a lot of it’s importance and prestige. Now that China are going full-force into it we might have another Space Race which will again kick our space tech forward. Maybe mining resources from Moon and Asteroids. Space Tech should be high-priority for humanity because without going Out There we won’t survive as a species.
King Daniel
The only internationally-recognized treaty between spacefaring nations which regards the militarization of space forbids placing weapons of mass destruction (nuclear, chemical, biological) in space. Anything else – armed space stations (which the Soviets actually experimented with back in the ‘70s), military spaceplanes like the ongoing US X-37 program, or loopholes around the WMD ban like kinetic impactors aka “Rods From God” – are fair game.
Spaz
Iron Sky was the Moon Nazis movie that delighted in its own camp.
Irony Sky is when Musk gets to Mars, only to have to face off against the undead ranks of Ayn Randian zombies–only to discover that the Randianism was inside him all along.
thejeff
Depends on the direct moves.
I think it would be less wrong if she was more open about it.
It would be worse if those direct moves involved tearing down Raidah, rather than just being up front with Jacob.
Rowen Morland
“Never let your sense of morals get in the way of doing what’s right.”
Ooz
Yeah, like- she hasn’t really done anything to try and make him break up with Raidah. No schemes, no dissing Raidah, no “seduction”. She hasn’t even overtly flirted with him or tried to be alone with him! Her plan so far seems to be presenting herself as cute and charming in his vicinity and hoping Jacob “comes to his senses”. Hoping an apparently happy relationship will end is kind of shitty, but it’s not that terrible. And in the mean time, even if it doesn’t work, she’s building a genuine friendship with a nice guy. Seems like fair game to me.
Eldritch Gentleman
And to be fair there are signs of his relationship with Raidah not being all that happy or healthy. With Joyce switching from “Here have some Sarah shoved down your throat” to “If you ever change your mind I’m here” I’m much more comfortable with his relationship with Raidah falling apart.
Jess
Yeah, a theme I’ve noticed in the comments is that having feelings for someone who’s taken is inherently terrible.
And yeah, it’s really hard.
But, if you don’t try to do anything then, no, it isn’t such an evil thing.
It can cause a bit of heartache when you get hope and it gets dashed… again and again… and that’s why it isn’t such a common thing.
A healthy way to approach it is to acknowledge the attraction but don’t stake too much on it while they are with someone else. At least that’s how I’ve dealt with this. If there’s attraction elsewhere and the other person single, go for it. And if you and the original person are both in a single state later down the line, then hey go for it.
Joyce, acknowledging her crush is good. I hope she follows a path that doesn’t break her, because I can definitely see Sarah’s prediction still coming to fourth.
Fingers crossed.
Clif
The reasoning behind ‘having feelings for someone who is taken is terrible’ is that they view people as objects instead of people. If people are things they can be owned or taken. Things can be stolen. People who control their own actions can’t be. Hidden behind a pseudo moralistic stance, it attempts to deny Jacob his agency. Or that’s my 2 cents.
BBCC
You can believe Jacob has agency and still think Joyce trying to end a relationship so she can date him is crappy behaviour on her part. The two are hardly mutually exclusive.
Clif
What is she doing to try to end their relationship? Is she trying to convince him Raidah is a bad person? Is she lying about Raidah? Is she trying to get him to cheat on Raidah? Or is she simply flirting with him and letting him make up his own mind. Which he gets to do.
BBCC
Flirting with a guy in a relationship in the hopes he’ll get together with you instead is pretty crappy. Yes, Jacob gets to decide whether he’ll take her up on it, but I don’t think its so unreasonable to expect Joyce to respect his relationship. If she’d been flat out and told him ‘I like you’ that’d be one thing, but she’s not.
CJ
Oh the glory of a “relationship” that has been going for… is it four weeks already? Dang, how much trust, understanding and common experience they must already have build up…