So, basically, a gender-reversed version of this person I know, Sisko:
Knows way too many good-looking members of the opposite sex (and knows possible ways of courting said people), yet never does a single thing in pursuit.
Sure it does. I mean I’m a nice guy and I’m still a virgin. But I’m sure other nice guys can tell you it worked out :D.
(actually I’m kind of a jerk but I used to be nice. I try to be nice)
insomniac
“Being nice doesn’t help you get laid” is like “not flashing the interviewer doesn’t help you get a job.”
Like cold is the absence of heat, niceness is the absence of assholiness.
insomniac
Right. And if the only thing going for you is “I’m not much of an asshole,” you might want to dial your expectations down a few notches.
ninja_jesus
It has little to do with being nice and more to do with being confident and secure in yourself, neither of which are usually present within the “stereotypical nice guy”.
Mr. Bulbmin
It’s a combination of appearance, common interest, and dumb luck that powers relationships.
Probably why I don’t have many.
JustDucky
I know plenty of nice guys who have no trouble getting laid. So if you’re a nice guy who no one wants to have sex with, you might want to check in with your friends to find out how you’re sabotaging yourself. Remember, the common denominator in your failed pursuits is you.
davidbreslin101
As a fairly amiable guy who, for entirely unrelated reasons, is appalling at teh romance, I can second this. It hurts less once you stop telling yourself some tragic tale of neglected virtue and start being matter-of-fact about the problem. Funny, that.
JustDucky
You’re also a lot more likely to be able to do something about it.
If someone believes that he’s a nice (although not amazingly hot) guy and women only sleep with amazingly hot assholes, there’s not much he can do about that. That assumption set will prompt him to view himself as a victim of circumstances entirely beyond his control.
If, on the other hand, he checks in with other people and learns that he is doing things that many women find off-putting (for example, giving strangers “compliments” on their body parts or approaching women who, through their body language, are telling the people around them that they do not want to be approached) then he can take steps to change some of his behaviors. And that might help.
begbert2
Being a nice guy doesn’t help in the same way that a blank paper isn’t an essay. It’s the *baseline*. You wanna get laid, you gotta have something more about you that draws in the ladies. And that entitled feeling that merely being nice should be getting you some won’t be helpful.
Disclaimer: I am just guessing here, since I am a semi-nice guy who doesn’t get ladies, though I’m also not on the prowl, for reasons.
JustDucky
I’d argue that anyone who feels entitled to another person’s body really isn’t all that nice to begin with.
JustDucky
(Not disagreeing with you, by the way. Just wanted to add that.)
Lauren
Indeed.
It’s annoying to hear guys complaining about not getting laid despite being nice or paying for dinner. That entitlement isn’t nice at all and it’s annoying when those guys claim to be “nice guys” and it’s the woman’s fault. It makes men in general look bad.
“I’m beginnin’ ta think Sarah’s just a mite pent up…”
That noise you hear in the distance is me saying “Well, no duh” so loud it is carrying across the whole of creation. That, or an air raid siren. Duck and cover, people.
Oh come on, you have to admit that Joe screwed up there. If it wasn’t true, Joe wouldn’t have been so hurt by it.
Psycho
But Joe is a terrible wingman. If you ever went on a double date with him, His most likely course of action would be to leave with both girls for a threesome while you’re in the bathroom of whatever place you’re at.
Lauren
He’d be a great wingman if you’re a girl *cough*threesome*cough*
Nope, there was a time after that one where he made Dorothy pick between shoes for Walky or interviewing him about Amazi-Girl.
begbert2
Honestly I think talking to Sal took balls. I don’t care if he believed that she was Amazigirl, she wasn’t exactly being inviting. (And as a side note, there are limits to how far you should believe what people tell you, even ones that are allegedly reporters who were known to be investigating this very subject.)
James
That depends on whether you believe there’s a difference between ballsiness and stupidity.
begbert2
Of course there’s a difference; there’s a wide variety of stupidity that doesn’t require any balls at all.
Go now,
Dont look back we’ve drawn the line,
Move on,
Its no good to go back in time,
Oh I would never find another girl like you,
For happy endings it takes two,
With fire and ice,
Oooooh yea
(Chorus)
Sarah,
Storms are brewing in your eyes,
Sarah,
Now I can realize
Sarah,
You’re like a beauty queen
Sarah,
Discussion (260) - “So”
Gottawonder
’nuff said. 🙂
Paul Indrome
… though I feel like “fuckin’ introducing” them would be skippin’ a few steps. Oo
Tan
In my head, because you are both Sarah-gravatars, this is her internal debate on the matter.
Maxy
And now it’s a threesome.
Henry
And that sounds exactly like something Joe (especially with the expression on your grav) would say.
A comment chain composed of nothing but perfect gravs. (Except mine, now.)
Djer
I dunno…*I* wasn’t expecting it.
Roborat
Nobody expects a chain of perfect gravs!
TheOthin
A person Sarah doesn’t hate!
David Herbert
Her lady boner is over powering her misery.
AngryBamboo
yeah, but just wait, soon he’ll start dating raidah and she’ll get a colossal MISERY GIRL BONER!!!!
Aeron
Doesn’t hate enough.
Doctor_Who
“What other hot guys have you been hiding from me?!”
Yotomoe
Joyce is like a hot dude magnet. She just doesn’t realize it.
GoldStarz
Joyce once met a guy who accidentally set himself on fire.
GoldStarz
I am tired and unfunny tonight.
Barf Ninjason
Gold star for effort though.
GoldStarz
Why am I getting myself for effort?
Thrair
It’s not a reward, ‘s why. 😛
Thrair
To clarify, lest that come across too harsh: You got something from Mike. THIS IS NEVER A GOOD THING.
Barf Ninjason
Holy crape, I didn’t even notice that was your name.
someguywithakatana
We all still love you
Mr. Bulbmin
So, basically, a gender-reversed version of this person I know, Sisko:
Knows way too many good-looking members of the opposite sex (and knows possible ways of courting said people), yet never does a single thing in pursuit.
Cybersnark
Ben or Jake?
Doctor_Who
I can’t possibly imagine what that’s like.
Philippe G.
“There this guy named Manny in my biology class, he seems nice.”
Tunaro
I’m beginnin’ ta think Sarah’s just a mite pent up…
Plasma Mongoose
She needs to release some of that sexual tension… if only Frank-N-Furter was around. 😀
MM
I’m pretty sure any encounter between Sarah and Frank-N-Furter would end with a baseball bat. And not the innuendo variety.
Tunaro
It can end with both. Honestly, I’d be surprised if it didn’t.
rachel
she could power a moon laser with that shit man
Yotomoe
All that being cynical does not help you get laid, I’ll tell you what.
Tunaro
I don’t know about that; Mike manages to use it fairly effectively when he wants to.
hmrc4evr
Being a nice guy doesn’t help either.
Thanks, I'll Have Another!
Uh oh, here we go…
Yotomoe
Sure it does. I mean I’m a nice guy and I’m still a virgin. But I’m sure other nice guys can tell you it worked out :D.
(actually I’m kind of a jerk but I used to be nice. I try to be nice)
insomniac
“Being nice doesn’t help you get laid” is like “not flashing the interviewer doesn’t help you get a job.”
I mean, it definitely doesn’t hurt…
Plasma Mongoose
Like cold is the absence of heat, niceness is the absence of assholiness.
insomniac
Right. And if the only thing going for you is “I’m not much of an asshole,” you might want to dial your expectations down a few notches.
ninja_jesus
It has little to do with being nice and more to do with being confident and secure in yourself, neither of which are usually present within the “stereotypical nice guy”.
Mr. Bulbmin
It’s a combination of appearance, common interest, and dumb luck that powers relationships.
Probably why I don’t have many.
JustDucky
I know plenty of nice guys who have no trouble getting laid. So if you’re a nice guy who no one wants to have sex with, you might want to check in with your friends to find out how you’re sabotaging yourself. Remember, the common denominator in your failed pursuits is you.
davidbreslin101
As a fairly amiable guy who, for entirely unrelated reasons, is appalling at teh romance, I can second this. It hurts less once you stop telling yourself some tragic tale of neglected virtue and start being matter-of-fact about the problem. Funny, that.
JustDucky
You’re also a lot more likely to be able to do something about it.
If someone believes that he’s a nice (although not amazingly hot) guy and women only sleep with amazingly hot assholes, there’s not much he can do about that. That assumption set will prompt him to view himself as a victim of circumstances entirely beyond his control.
If, on the other hand, he checks in with other people and learns that he is doing things that many women find off-putting (for example, giving strangers “compliments” on their body parts or approaching women who, through their body language, are telling the people around them that they do not want to be approached) then he can take steps to change some of his behaviors. And that might help.
begbert2
Being a nice guy doesn’t help in the same way that a blank paper isn’t an essay. It’s the *baseline*. You wanna get laid, you gotta have something more about you that draws in the ladies. And that entitled feeling that merely being nice should be getting you some won’t be helpful.
Disclaimer: I am just guessing here, since I am a semi-nice guy who doesn’t get ladies, though I’m also not on the prowl, for reasons.
JustDucky
I’d argue that anyone who feels entitled to another person’s body really isn’t all that nice to begin with.
JustDucky
(Not disagreeing with you, by the way. Just wanted to add that.)
Lauren
Indeed.
It’s annoying to hear guys complaining about not getting laid despite being nice or paying for dinner. That entitlement isn’t nice at all and it’s annoying when those guys claim to be “nice guys” and it’s the woman’s fault. It makes men in general look bad.
Doctor_Who
Really? Damn, I may have to rethink my personality.
Roborat
Yup, good time to get out of that box.
nothri
“I’m beginnin’ ta think Sarah’s just a mite pent up…”
That noise you hear in the distance is me saying “Well, no duh” so loud it is carrying across the whole of creation. That, or an air raid siren. Duck and cover, people.
Roborat
Yes, she badly needs an electronic boyfriend at a minimum, however, she is so pent up she would probably destroy it.
David Herbert
Joyce, you are a terrible wingman. Maybe Joe can teach a course.
timemonkey
But Joe is also a terrible wingman. Worst wingman ever as I recall.
Yotomoe
No. He’s just trying to wingman for the worst bachelor ever!
timemonkey
Danny is a chick magnet for reasons only Willis understands. He needs no wingman.
taekwondogirl
Oh come on, you have to admit that Joe screwed up there. If it wasn’t true, Joe wouldn’t have been so hurt by it.
Psycho
But Joe is a terrible wingman. If you ever went on a double date with him, His most likely course of action would be to leave with both girls for a threesome while you’re in the bathroom of whatever place you’re at.
Lauren
He’d be a great wingman if you’re a girl *cough*threesome*cough*
Tunaro
Not sure that would be a good idea
http://www.dumbingofage.com/2011/comic/book-1/05-media-rumble/wingman-2/
Badeyes
The last known sighting of Danny with balls.
taekwondogirl
Nope, there was a time after that one where he made Dorothy pick between shoes for Walky or interviewing him about Amazi-Girl.
begbert2
Honestly I think talking to Sal took balls. I don’t care if he believed that she was Amazigirl, she wasn’t exactly being inviting. (And as a side note, there are limits to how far you should believe what people tell you, even ones that are allegedly reporters who were known to be investigating this very subject.)
James
That depends on whether you believe there’s a difference between ballsiness and stupidity.
begbert2
Of course there’s a difference; there’s a wide variety of stupidity that doesn’t require any balls at all.
LiaHansen
Yay! Sarah plotline!
saltchocolate
Ditto!
taekwondogirl
MORE SARAH! SARAH ALL THE TIME!
..please.
N0083rP00F
Go now,
Dont look back we’ve drawn the line,
Move on,
Its no good to go back in time,
Oh I would never find another girl like you,
For happy endings it takes two,
With fire and ice,
Oooooh yea
(Chorus)
Sarah,
Storms are brewing in your eyes,
Sarah,
Now I can realize
Sarah,
You’re like a beauty queen
Sarah,
Seerow
Glad to see Sarah’s priorities are straight.
ASD
͡° ͜ʖ ͡°) I see what you did there.
Yotomoe
DID YOU SEE HIS TANGERINE LIPS!? YOU KNOW I LOVE TANGERINES!!!
KingMabel
Joyce has been upgraded to wingman!