as a front desk receptionist would be surprised if predecessor was like “we tried to but college policy doesn’t allow us too” and she’s not as bold as ruth to suplex anyone lol
She’s at the same stage of coming to terms with her sexuality that Becky was at when she couldn’t go three sentences without loudly announcing “I’m a lesbian!”.
Next stage is fucking on top of a dinosaur, but it may have to wait, I get the feeling Dina isn’t in the mood.
Nono
Maybe they can do it on top of the weighted blanket that Joe just bought for her.
Throwatron
I don’t think that’s how a weighted blanket works. The whole point is being under it!
AbacusWizard
It’s weighted, so it sinks to the bottom. Physics!
SarahTerra
Weighted blankets are just like the lethal nets from the Predator movies if you’re patient enough.
TrueVCU
“I’m not just a lesbian, I’m a super huge MEGA lesbian.
I’m so gay heterosexuality is no longer conceivable to me”
Throwatron
y’all think this is the most annoying she can get? just wait until she’s finished coming out as a lesbian, and remembers that she needs to come out as bisexual, next
my only pet peeve is that calling what Daisy did “”journalism”” seems… a little too generous if you ask me
for Daisy to make birthday balloons the highlight of a story about a funeral was a shitty move, but so was bringing balloons to that funeral in the first place
reddslym
Oh I felt that “Journalism” was just DRIPPING with sarcasm
They need to just leave asma alone forever at this point.
Asma is a better person than me, I woulda lost all patience with them by now
Clif
If they left Asma alone, we wouldn’t get to see her.
Also, do I understand that you haven’t lost all patience with them by now?
Donovan
Other people can talk to Asma.
Jon
I’m so annoyed by them going to Asma.
Joyce literally pointed out exactly why going to bother Asma about their own guilty feelings was the wrong move.
And then they just…did it anyway. Okay. Sure. Whatever, I guess.
shepsquared
It makes me wonder if the strip where pointed out they shouldn’t do this was from before the new strips with Asma were inserted, and originally they listened to her.
Hmmm. Being born ‘white’ is not something you can control. Being brought up ‘white’ isn’t, either. Getting to late teens and starting to think about is seems to me to be about the first time you get to exercise your own control. Joyce seems to be doing that.
Heck, nearly in my 70s and still finding things to re-assess.
I have never been this ignorantly white. I HAVE been this ignorantly cismale, but fortunately I had that beaten out of me (pretty nicely, all things considered) by my own dorm’s lesbians who instructed me pretty clearly on how not to be a dumbass about participating in my first Take Back The Night rally.
I think I was very much Dorothy at 18 in a lot of ways, and she woke up to the problems of liberalism a lot earlier than I did.
I mean, I’be never done this specific thing, but I also didn’t go to protests in college and I grew up in a very white part of the country, so in my case I think it’s less “knew better” than “was never in this position”.
I feel like she’s been this way for an extremely long time, just she’s getting more aggressive about it.
It may go hand-in-hand with Ruth’s prediction that she would one day stumble into an orgasm and end up screwing half the town. Joyce’s barriers smashed alla sudden and she has a LOT of reorienting to do.
Oh wait, just remembered her “I’m a jackass atheist now” phase. yeah this is how Joyce is til she actually matures, rather than mistaking grabbing at new things or whatever it is for maturity.
Nono
Also probably doesn’t help that Dorothy is an enabler and Joyce just ignores anyone who would actually rebuke her, like Sarah.
SarahTerra
One of many reasons I like Sarah best of all these idiot sandwiches except maybe Dina.
The name is a coincidence.
Throwatron
I’ll bang on the drum forever that Joyce’s entire good-girl persona was an obsessive fear of sin. Joyce’s entire moral compass was the Sin Alarm, and she has deprogrammed the Sin Alarm completely. She has absolutely zero idea how to operate in a moral paradigm that isn’t externally prescribed by a deity, under threat of eternal omni-violence.
She had to deliberately learn to not have a complete internal shutdown over the prospect of ever doing anything morally wrong, and as a result, she’s convinced herself that there aren’t actually any meaningful, worldly consequences; very easily, in fact, because she was rarely ever scared of those, she was scared of the Sin Alarm.
So, she fixed one problem with herself…and exposed half a dozen new problems, because her being severely over-developed in one particular coping mechanism, was masking a shitload of her genuine gaps in what we seculars consider to be basic social skills and moral reasoning.
Recovering from toxic shit in one’s head, often does follow that pattern. You make yourself worse, long before you actually make yourself better.
Yotomoe
I just hate cuz one of the best strips of the entire run has Joyce addressing this fact. Doesn’t mean she’s perfect at circumventing it but man it was a level of introspection on her programming that I just…feel like is going to the wayside now. https://www.dumbingofage.com/2019/comic/book-10/01-birthday-pursuit/freeing/
Lee
Oh ouch. You’re right.
Throwatron
The next strip after, Dorothy correctly identifies that Joyce fucked up specifically because she had been completely suppressing her libido for seven or eight solid years, and was led astray by inconceivable levels of horniness.
So I guess Joyce had one orgasm, and as it turns out, that was her Factory Reset button. She used to care about the consequences of her actions, now she only cares about doinking as often as humanly possible. Why ever have introspection, if introspection won’t lead to more yummy good brain chemicals?
also now im just sad because there’s a ton of real cute strips after that point, lol
Throwatron
actually, tacky reply to myself to acknowledge that, perhaps, it’s fair to consider whether her current sex fugue is, in fact, escapist behavior to avoid all of the actual hard work that comes with said introspection.
I wish Joyce had remembered that moment of introspection, but she seems to have completely forgotten about it since she started to realize her feelings for Dorothy.
Big Z
When people complain that all this is super in character for Joyce and not an example of her backsliding, it is this strip I’m wishing she’d followed the trajectory of instead.
Lumino
Right? Going back to that strip reminds me of when I loved Joyce. She was flawed, she made mistakes, sometimes really big mistakes, but she was trying. She was actively trying to be better and was responsive to people calling her out on her behavior.
thejeff
Yes. So very much this.
I get that people can screw up multiple times before a lesson really sinks in, even if they realize after each time that it was a mistake, but in the narrative it really seems to undermine her growth.
Did I read this strip wrong all these years. She seems like she clearly envying the”promiscuous” lives of other people.
The Queer Agenda [frog memes]
I suspect Joyce will have a crashout later, but that remains to be seen. IMO this is one of her biggest personal flaws. She’ll feel ashamed of hurting people after the fact, but she easily gets carried away while in the moment and goes too far, particularly if she has ‘encouragement’ from a friend (Sarah -> Jacob, Liz -> dirtbag atheist, Dorothy -> now).
I think this is likely just her brand of neurospicy, i.e. she doesn’t have good intuition about when she should restrain herself to be polite, so she’d been using religious rules as a crutch. Or, in the absence of that, a friend to moor herself to.
JepMZ
Ooh. That’s a good one! It’s nice to see Joyce is taking steps now to explore herself in a world without her previous foundations holding her. Tho I don’t see much contradiction here on this page since Asma can’t be hurt here if she doesn’t know Joyce’s personal relationships she is testing or even friends in the first place
SillyGoose
Came here to find this and discuss the “without God you can’t be a moral person” fundie concept.
This seems to be Joyce’s paradigm right now. We’re all losing patience with her (or have been without patience for a while), but admittedly she’s spiralling because of the pile up of everything all nearly at once and needs to find her feet.
But her whole world has crashed. There’s of course the big traumas of attempted rape and Toedad, but also on a smaller scale her parents divorcing, realizing her older brother is a terrible person, leaving her church, finding out she’s a sexual being – that was a big one for her, finding out she’s by, having to navigate feelings for two people at once when her whole life she’s been taught “you meet one person and love them forever the end”, being the instrument of her BFF’s hurt, hurting Joe whom she loves, starting probably for the first time in her life to think about politics instead of just repeating Chick-fil-A talking points, and of course all that while trying to get an education instead of a husband, her whole future and worldview completely upended.
And she’s 17 (?) and out of her parents’ house for the first time. It’s just a lot.
So it’s rather realistic she’d react by following her hormones for a while. If she wasn’t we’d be complaining about her Mary Sue-ness.
Her question to Dorothy yesterday re: guilt assuaging is promising.
Now I’m waiting for her to find out about morality-without-a-deity. Turns out we’re not all being horrible all the time!
Mr D
Well she’s at least 18. She stars in slipshines after all.
Throwatron
This is where I always stand with these kids in this strip. Yes, they’re absolute train-wrecks. But most people cannot handle the incredible excess of trauma that all of them have had, both before coming to college and since enrolling, gracefully. Like, I’d wager less than 1% of this comment thread has been through two kidnappings in their life. Let alone two in the span of a year, or less.
These characters are unrealistically hare-brained, even for college kids; but ffs, in real life they’d all be in inpatient care. Just…expect less of them, people. It’s an entire cast of broken-ass individuals, primed for further trauma, being driven at each other like bumper cars. Willis loves putting all his characters through the absolute ringer in the most over-the-top dramatic stakes possible, and I’ve never met anybody going through life events the way this cast does, who stayed at their absolute lifetime best composure and behavior through traumas that destabilizing.
Meh. I see nothing inappropriate about a kiss during a highly emotional situation. There’s a lot these two have done wrong, but this is the exact wrong thing for them to be berated about.
Dot
There is a time and place.
zee
I feel like I shouldn’t have to tell people “don’t swap spit with teargas on your lips, you fucking dentheads”. I feel like thats just a reasonable thing people should feel internally.
Throwatron
Yeah, I take umbrage with the overall idea that “kissing at a protest is selfish, because you should expect to end up being made the Main Character of Life,” because that’s gonna be unrealistic at 99% of protests. I don’t take umbrage with the premise that “making out while armed fascists are attacking, is definitely going to get somebody hurt.” The former can be false while the latter is true.
thejeff
Especially since this protest was supposed to be an encampment, with people living there for days or weeks. There definitely would have been more than kissing going on if all had gone according to plan.
Jammy
You’re right, “Make Love, Not War” totally worked in the ’60s and isn’t kind of embarrassingly reductive in 2025.
It’s quite expected in Asma’s presumed worldview as a observant Muslim to assert that worldly temptations are too be resisted, not acted on.
Pocky
just crossin my fingers we don’t get another fundamentalist hate-sink to finger wag the cast lol
Nymph
I doubt very seriously that’s where Willis is going with Asma for several reasons:
– She also appears to be queer
– This is the ~start~ of her arc, not the end
– Willis put in more Asma to have actual Muslim rep and I doubt they did that just to make her a different kind of 2D cardboard cut-out of a person
Opinion
Maybe but from a narrative perspective there is some ground to be had about deconstructing Christian fundie vs Muslim fundie. Like Joyce going on her whole “I was religious but I got better” arc and getting praise for it and trying to push that secular is better idea onto a Muslim character and not getting why that is different.
It’s a little hard to parse, but remember her demeanor when Raidah and Alice were talking to her? That exchange wasn’t perfect evidence of being fine with girlkissing, but it suggests this is about situational discretion, not a “don’t shove it down my throat”. Asma definitely has a ton of experience with having to police one’s own emotional responses in public for one’s own safetly.
Also homophobes aren’t known for quips like the “receptive third propositionee” line. Also also she emphasized that middle word in a way that makes me think she is not unattracted to womenses.
KM
I think it’s worth noting here that Asma doesn’t actually have to be homophobic as such to still hold herself and people who chose to talk at her to not engage in or make excuses for inappropriate PDA…
SarahTerra
Agreed!
Oh god no wait… please don’t let Joyce mistakenly think Asma is homophobic. I don’t think that will happen, but they’re potentially miscommunicating in a way where it could, and she could easily assume that her own upbringing maps to other (presumably) religious people.
Clif
I categorically deny that the public display of affection is inappropriate. I’ve certainly always enjoyed being around people that felt free to express their affection for each other. It’s a positive thing not a negative one.
I mean you can cross over a line and I’m not saying get hot and heavy in the street, and maybe formal occasions call for decorum generally, but I tend to think that it’s the people that can’t tolerate people kissing, holding hands or hugging that are the problem. Seriously.
shepsquared
How about making out while people are getting teargassed or shot? Would you consider that inappropriate?
Or maybe going and making someone talk to you while they’re on the clock and you’re carrying around the dirty sheets just after you finished having sex, just so you can deliver an insincere apology that would only make you feel better?
SarahTerra
I don’t consider my own discomforts to be anyone else’s problem on principle, and I can’t say with certainty whether KM finds it inappropriate, but the societal perception of it as inappropriate, And Asma’s perception in particular, is the main point here, rather than whether it actually IS a problem.
Also Asma is surely fed up with these two enough that she’s less able to let things go right now, especially with Joyce arguably seeming aggressive about it with zero provocation, in the middle of what was supposed to be an apology of some kind. Joyce doesn’t have Becky’s charisma or tragic backstory, she can’t pull off punctuating other people’s sentences with I’M GAY
Annnnd that’s when I remember how patronizing Joyce was to Raidah about religion. “I would NOT like to apologize for kissing her” might be Joyce expressing her upbringing in the form of unconscious yet intrusive assumptions about Asma.
593 thoughts on “Centered”
mindbleach
Alice / Asma shippers catching strays from this one.
Pocky
lots of ships leavin port, and some sinkin on the horizon this arc.
Smokeysis
How so?
AntithesisConundrum
asma, do you happen to keep a spray bottle under the desk? might be the best way to get through to her
Doctor_Who
Asma: “So no more inappropriate PDA for a while, okay?”
Joyce: “…Alright.”
Dorothy: “Agreed.”
Asma: “Where are you heading, anyway?”
Joyce: “The laundry room!”
Asma: (spritz, spritz!)
anon
as a front desk receptionist would be surprised if predecessor was like “we tried to but college policy doesn’t allow us too” and she’s not as bold as ruth to suplex anyone lol
Needfuldoer
“See? Because of me, they have a new rule!”
thejeff
She does have a poking stick (broom) to deal with couples making out.
Erica
This apology is going great. Very genuine and not self centered
Dot
What is Joyce supposed to do, go two sentences without mentioning that she and Dorothy are totally in love?
Doctor_Who
She’s at the same stage of coming to terms with her sexuality that Becky was at when she couldn’t go three sentences without loudly announcing “I’m a lesbian!”.
Next stage is fucking on top of a dinosaur, but it may have to wait, I get the feeling Dina isn’t in the mood.
Nono
Maybe they can do it on top of the weighted blanket that Joe just bought for her.
Throwatron
I don’t think that’s how a weighted blanket works. The whole point is being under it!
AbacusWizard
It’s weighted, so it sinks to the bottom. Physics!
SarahTerra
Weighted blankets are just like the lethal nets from the Predator movies if you’re patient enough.
TrueVCU
“I’m not just a lesbian, I’m a super huge MEGA lesbian.
I’m so gay heterosexuality is no longer conceivable to me”
Throwatron
y’all think this is the most annoying she can get? just wait until she’s finished coming out as a lesbian, and remembers that she needs to come out as bisexual, next
Rowen Morland
Dina revenge of having a Dorothy/Joyce threesome.
Lumino
Basically Joyce’s M.O. for the last month or two.
Acher4
erm, Joyce literally doesn’t say she wants to apologize.
First panel yo.
Erica
In which case why is she even there
Kyulen
It would be nice if Joyce could stop being self-centered for more than a few minutes.
Dot
Hater containment thread ⬇️
Dot
I did a great many things in college of which I am not proud, but I can say with some satisfaction that I was at least never this ignorantly white.
NGPZ
right??? Asma is so justified here
my only pet peeve is that calling what Daisy did “”journalism”” seems… a little too generous if you ask me
for Daisy to make birthday balloons the highlight of a story about a funeral was a shitty move, but so was bringing balloons to that funeral in the first place
reddslym
Oh I felt that “Journalism” was just DRIPPING with sarcasm
Donovan
They need to just leave asma alone forever at this point.
Asma is a better person than me, I woulda lost all patience with them by now
Clif
If they left Asma alone, we wouldn’t get to see her.
Also, do I understand that you haven’t lost all patience with them by now?
Donovan
Other people can talk to Asma.
Jon
I’m so annoyed by them going to Asma.
Joyce literally pointed out exactly why going to bother Asma about their own guilty feelings was the wrong move.
And then they just…did it anyway. Okay. Sure. Whatever, I guess.
shepsquared
It makes me wonder if the strip where pointed out they shouldn’t do this was from before the new strips with Asma were inserted, and originally they listened to her.
Thing 2
Hmmm. Being born ‘white’ is not something you can control. Being brought up ‘white’ isn’t, either. Getting to late teens and starting to think about is seems to me to be about the first time you get to exercise your own control. Joyce seems to be doing that.
Heck, nearly in my 70s and still finding things to re-assess.
Kyulen
I can confidently say that when I was in college I didn’t kiss someone at an anti-genocide protest.
Big Z
I have never been this ignorantly white. I HAVE been this ignorantly cismale, but fortunately I had that beaten out of me (pretty nicely, all things considered) by my own dorm’s lesbians who instructed me pretty clearly on how not to be a dumbass about participating in my first Take Back The Night rally.
Li
I wish that were me!
I think I was very much Dorothy at 18 in a lot of ways, and she woke up to the problems of liberalism a lot earlier than I did.
I mean, I’be never done this specific thing, but I also didn’t go to protests in college and I grew up in a very white part of the country, so in my case I think it’s less “knew better” than “was never in this position”.
Jay
God I fucking hate Joyce now jesus christ there’s nothing redeemable about her at the moment and her character has been literally shredded
Jay
I wasnt even planning on commenting today thinking we’d gotten to a part where i can just vibe and read but this page just makes me LOATHE oyce
SarahTerra
I feel like she’s been this way for an extremely long time, just she’s getting more aggressive about it.
It may go hand-in-hand with Ruth’s prediction that she would one day stumble into an orgasm and end up screwing half the town. Joyce’s barriers smashed alla sudden and she has a LOT of reorienting to do.
Oh wait, just remembered her “I’m a jackass atheist now” phase. yeah this is how Joyce is til she actually matures, rather than mistaking grabbing at new things or whatever it is for maturity.
Nono
Also probably doesn’t help that Dorothy is an enabler and Joyce just ignores anyone who would actually rebuke her, like Sarah.
SarahTerra
One of many reasons I like Sarah best of all these idiot sandwiches except maybe Dina.
The name is a coincidence.
Throwatron
I’ll bang on the drum forever that Joyce’s entire good-girl persona was an obsessive fear of sin. Joyce’s entire moral compass was the Sin Alarm, and she has deprogrammed the Sin Alarm completely. She has absolutely zero idea how to operate in a moral paradigm that isn’t externally prescribed by a deity, under threat of eternal omni-violence.
She had to deliberately learn to not have a complete internal shutdown over the prospect of ever doing anything morally wrong, and as a result, she’s convinced herself that there aren’t actually any meaningful, worldly consequences; very easily, in fact, because she was rarely ever scared of those, she was scared of the Sin Alarm.
So, she fixed one problem with herself…and exposed half a dozen new problems, because her being severely over-developed in one particular coping mechanism, was masking a shitload of her genuine gaps in what we seculars consider to be basic social skills and moral reasoning.
Recovering from toxic shit in one’s head, often does follow that pattern. You make yourself worse, long before you actually make yourself better.
Yotomoe
I just hate cuz one of the best strips of the entire run has Joyce addressing this fact. Doesn’t mean she’s perfect at circumventing it but man it was a level of introspection on her programming that I just…feel like is going to the wayside now.
https://www.dumbingofage.com/2019/comic/book-10/01-birthday-pursuit/freeing/
Lee
Oh ouch. You’re right.
Throwatron
The next strip after, Dorothy correctly identifies that Joyce fucked up specifically because she had been completely suppressing her libido for seven or eight solid years, and was led astray by inconceivable levels of horniness.
So I guess Joyce had one orgasm, and as it turns out, that was her Factory Reset button. She used to care about the consequences of her actions, now she only cares about doinking as often as humanly possible. Why ever have introspection, if introspection won’t lead to more yummy good brain chemicals?
also now im just sad because there’s a ton of real cute strips after that point, lol
Throwatron
actually, tacky reply to myself to acknowledge that, perhaps, it’s fair to consider whether her current sex fugue is, in fact, escapist behavior to avoid all of the actual hard work that comes with said introspection.
Andrusi
Oh, so we’re in Chobits now.
Kyulen
I wish Joyce had remembered that moment of introspection, but she seems to have completely forgotten about it since she started to realize her feelings for Dorothy.
Big Z
When people complain that all this is super in character for Joyce and not an example of her backsliding, it is this strip I’m wishing she’d followed the trajectory of instead.
Lumino
Right? Going back to that strip reminds me of when I loved Joyce. She was flawed, she made mistakes, sometimes really big mistakes, but she was trying. She was actively trying to be better and was responsive to people calling her out on her behavior.
thejeff
Yes. So very much this.
I get that people can screw up multiple times before a lesson really sinks in, even if they realize after each time that it was a mistake, but in the narrative it really seems to undermine her growth.
Amós Batista
Did I read this strip wrong all these years. She seems like she clearly envying the”promiscuous” lives of other people.
The Queer Agenda [frog memes]
I suspect Joyce will have a crashout later, but that remains to be seen. IMO this is one of her biggest personal flaws. She’ll feel ashamed of hurting people after the fact, but she easily gets carried away while in the moment and goes too far, particularly if she has ‘encouragement’ from a friend (Sarah -> Jacob, Liz -> dirtbag atheist, Dorothy -> now).
I think this is likely just her brand of neurospicy, i.e. she doesn’t have good intuition about when she should restrain herself to be polite, so she’d been using religious rules as a crutch. Or, in the absence of that, a friend to moor herself to.
JepMZ
Ooh. That’s a good one! It’s nice to see Joyce is taking steps now to explore herself in a world without her previous foundations holding her. Tho I don’t see much contradiction here on this page since Asma can’t be hurt here if she doesn’t know Joyce’s personal relationships she is testing or even friends in the first place
SillyGoose
Came here to find this and discuss the “without God you can’t be a moral person” fundie concept.
This seems to be Joyce’s paradigm right now. We’re all losing patience with her (or have been without patience for a while), but admittedly she’s spiralling because of the pile up of everything all nearly at once and needs to find her feet.
But her whole world has crashed. There’s of course the big traumas of attempted rape and Toedad, but also on a smaller scale her parents divorcing, realizing her older brother is a terrible person, leaving her church, finding out she’s a sexual being – that was a big one for her, finding out she’s by, having to navigate feelings for two people at once when her whole life she’s been taught “you meet one person and love them forever the end”, being the instrument of her BFF’s hurt, hurting Joe whom she loves, starting probably for the first time in her life to think about politics instead of just repeating Chick-fil-A talking points, and of course all that while trying to get an education instead of a husband, her whole future and worldview completely upended.
And she’s 17 (?) and out of her parents’ house for the first time. It’s just a lot.
So it’s rather realistic she’d react by following her hormones for a while. If she wasn’t we’d be complaining about her Mary Sue-ness.
Her question to Dorothy yesterday re: guilt assuaging is promising.
Now I’m waiting for her to find out about morality-without-a-deity. Turns out we’re not all being horrible all the time!
Mr D
Well she’s at least 18. She stars in slipshines after all.
Throwatron
This is where I always stand with these kids in this strip. Yes, they’re absolute train-wrecks. But most people cannot handle the incredible excess of trauma that all of them have had, both before coming to college and since enrolling, gracefully. Like, I’d wager less than 1% of this comment thread has been through two kidnappings in their life. Let alone two in the span of a year, or less.
These characters are unrealistically hare-brained, even for college kids; but ffs, in real life they’d all be in inpatient care. Just…expect less of them, people. It’s an entire cast of broken-ass individuals, primed for further trauma, being driven at each other like bumper cars. Willis loves putting all his characters through the absolute ringer in the most over-the-top dramatic stakes possible, and I’ve never met anybody going through life events the way this cast does, who stayed at their absolute lifetime best composure and behavior through traumas that destabilizing.
ESM
Joyce has been this way since page one of the comic, especially when romance is involved.
Pocky
Hoping Asma is not talkin about temptation, due to potential bigoted reasons.
Dot
More likely appropriate conduct at a protest against genocide
Freemage
Meh. I see nothing inappropriate about a kiss during a highly emotional situation. There’s a lot these two have done wrong, but this is the exact wrong thing for them to be berated about.
Dot
There is a time and place.
zee
I feel like I shouldn’t have to tell people “don’t swap spit with teargas on your lips, you fucking dentheads”. I feel like thats just a reasonable thing people should feel internally.
Throwatron
Yeah, I take umbrage with the overall idea that “kissing at a protest is selfish, because you should expect to end up being made the Main Character of Life,” because that’s gonna be unrealistic at 99% of protests. I don’t take umbrage with the premise that “making out while armed fascists are attacking, is definitely going to get somebody hurt.” The former can be false while the latter is true.
thejeff
Especially since this protest was supposed to be an encampment, with people living there for days or weeks. There definitely would have been more than kissing going on if all had gone according to plan.
Jammy
You’re right, “Make Love, Not War” totally worked in the ’60s and isn’t kind of embarrassingly reductive in 2025.
KM
It’s quite expected in Asma’s presumed worldview as a observant Muslim to assert that worldly temptations are too be resisted, not acted on.
Pocky
just crossin my fingers we don’t get another fundamentalist hate-sink to finger wag the cast lol
Nymph
I doubt very seriously that’s where Willis is going with Asma for several reasons:
– She also appears to be queer
– This is the ~start~ of her arc, not the end
– Willis put in more Asma to have actual Muslim rep and I doubt they did that just to make her a different kind of 2D cardboard cut-out of a person
Opinion
Maybe but from a narrative perspective there is some ground to be had about deconstructing Christian fundie vs Muslim fundie. Like Joyce going on her whole “I was religious but I got better” arc and getting praise for it and trying to push that secular is better idea onto a Muslim character and not getting why that is different.
SarahTerra
It’s a little hard to parse, but remember her demeanor when Raidah and Alice were talking to her? That exchange wasn’t perfect evidence of being fine with girlkissing, but it suggests this is about situational discretion, not a “don’t shove it down my throat”. Asma definitely has a ton of experience with having to police one’s own emotional responses in public for one’s own safetly.
Also homophobes aren’t known for quips like the “receptive third propositionee” line. Also also she emphasized that middle word in a way that makes me think she is not unattracted to womenses.
KM
I think it’s worth noting here that Asma doesn’t actually have to be homophobic as such to still hold herself and people who chose to talk at her to not engage in or make excuses for inappropriate PDA…
SarahTerra
Agreed!
Oh god no wait… please don’t let Joyce mistakenly think Asma is homophobic. I don’t think that will happen, but they’re potentially miscommunicating in a way where it could, and she could easily assume that her own upbringing maps to other (presumably) religious people.
Clif
I categorically deny that the public display of affection is inappropriate. I’ve certainly always enjoyed being around people that felt free to express their affection for each other. It’s a positive thing not a negative one.
I mean you can cross over a line and I’m not saying get hot and heavy in the street, and maybe formal occasions call for decorum generally, but I tend to think that it’s the people that can’t tolerate people kissing, holding hands or hugging that are the problem. Seriously.
shepsquared
How about making out while people are getting teargassed or shot? Would you consider that inappropriate?
Or maybe going and making someone talk to you while they’re on the clock and you’re carrying around the dirty sheets just after you finished having sex, just so you can deliver an insincere apology that would only make you feel better?
SarahTerra
I don’t consider my own discomforts to be anyone else’s problem on principle, and I can’t say with certainty whether KM finds it inappropriate, but the societal perception of it as inappropriate, And Asma’s perception in particular, is the main point here, rather than whether it actually IS a problem.
Also Asma is surely fed up with these two enough that she’s less able to let things go right now, especially with Joyce arguably seeming aggressive about it with zero provocation, in the middle of what was supposed to be an apology of some kind. Joyce doesn’t have Becky’s charisma or tragic backstory, she can’t pull off punctuating other people’s sentences with I’M GAY
Annnnd that’s when I remember how patronizing Joyce was to Raidah about religion. “I would NOT like to apologize for kissing her” might be Joyce expressing her upbringing in the form of unconscious yet intrusive assumptions about Asma.