I think this is very sweet. Joyce may love Dorothy but she also loves Joe and has incredible passion for him besides. She would be quite upset at herself and Dorothy too if they broke Joe’s heart.
Bwsab
Agreed.
Lysbeth
Ultimately, I’d bet that if Joyce learnt the words “ethical non-monogamy,” Joe would agree. But her being with Dorothy now would destroy him.
Strawb
Yes if Joyce is poly (I would really like Joyce to talk about and confirm this if that is the case, but that’s just me) and they have an open discussion about it I think this could work. I just hope if Joe says he’s okay with it he’s actually okay with it and not fibbing to make Joyce happy. For example, if he wants a bit of time to process before opening the relationship I think that would be fine.
And, yeah, Joyce and Dorothy have been romantically involved since way before their physical intimacy started moving from subtext to text.
First Person Plural
Tbh I think Joe is a better partner for Joyce than Dorothy would be (I think Joyce is a better partner for Dorothy than Walky currently is, which from a meta perspective is great story conflict but in-universe would suck for Dorothy).
I also think nobody would be ok with a poly relationship (including Joe) which seems to contradict how most of the comments see it but I just don’t get that read from any of the characters (maybe Joyce? it’s a stretch but she’s just made a big discovery so she’s the most in flux I think). Joe in particular is trying very hard to do a “real” relationship, something he’s been terrified of for his entire sexual life, and I don’t think he could handle the idea of putting all the effort in to not cheating to have his girlfriend want a wider thing. Idk we’ll see where it goes, but this seems like the conflict Willis has put in to joe and Joyce’s relationship (as well as Joyce and Becky, which is a bombshell that is going to explode particularly loudly) and I think a polycule is too neat a solution.
hey uh do you think i meant it was bittersweet because no one cheated and not because of compulsory heterosexuality? like a whole week’s worth of strips detailing a scene where Joyce realizes she’s not straight and her having 0 time to even think about that before a date where she explicitly stated she intends to lose her virginity during does not spark even an ounce of dread in you?
Nymph
I understood what you meant, for whatever that’s worth. And I agree it’s a shame for Joyce and Dorothy as individual characters, but definitely better for adding suspense and emotion to the story.
Bittersweet, because she’s clearly happy, but certainly more bitter than sweet because we know there’s a lot of pain in unpacking this and figuring out where you are on that spectrum. Especially with Joyce’s upbringing.
Thank you for managing to unpack my meaning beyond “I think its bad when men exist” like everyone else responding seems to believe I said
Clif
Well, I certainly didn’t think you meant anything like that and don’t see any way to get there. On the other hand, this strip is plenty sweet. All the bitter is waiting off screen.
Differentiator
I think the main issue with your first comment was implying everyone should focus on the bitterness in the background instead of the sweetness we can see. Maybe I don’t get it because I’m a cishet male, but Joyce is in love with Joe and vice versa, there is no denying that, and I think everything else can’t be so much heavier that the bitter outshines that love.
I think people were mostly hung up on you saying this was bitter, because it is pretty hard to see it that way. not ALL of the people in this comments section are frothing at the mouth for some lesbian times, and I believe several of us stated this was the best result for future outcomes. I certainly don’t see anyone saying you said men were bad though. ~<3
Cheshrin
It’s not compulsory heterosexuality for a bisexual girl to love her boyfriend and want to get totally railed by him, whatever feelings she might have for Dorothy on top of that.
Educate us, what’s wrong with a bisexual girl experiencing her first time with her boyfriend?
Also wanna say, if her emotions are complicated regarding that, she still has time to say she wants to wait so that she can unpack it properly. Joe isn’t exactly ready to rush things either nor is he going to push his very Christian upbringing girlfriend on the matter.
I know when someone says “Educate us” you are just supposed to ignore them and not comment since it’s clearly a troll move even if not meant that way, but seriously she literally just said “okay”. You don’t get to stuff that full of your interpretation as if something is owed to you.
Did she mean fair enough? Did she mean acknowledged? She definitely didn’t mean “okay” as “a bisexual girl experiencing her first time with her boyfriend” is wrong, whether she does or doesn’t think so.
ian livs
All right, but OP suggested they spoke for the whole fandom, and then got upset when people chimed in with their own opinions. Even “as a bisexual girl, okay” has a vibe of “I’m bi, so my opinion is valid and I don’t care about any others’.” I’m not sure how Josh is trolling for asking what’s wrong with a bisexual person having a boyfriend when OP is offended by that.
Josh
That’s fair, it definitely came off as more aggressive than it should have. I will adjust my language in the future.
Josh
I WOULD love to get an explanation for my question on the off chance there is actually some nuance I am ignorant of, but using challenging language isn’t the best way to get that answer. Whoops.
your bitterness about this is really confusing to me
Doopyboop
To chime in further on what Cheshrin said, comphet would be if Joyce had no feelings for Joe whatsoever and was dating him to seem straight or because she thinks she has to. I’d argue Jennifer dating Asher was her experiencing comphet. In contrast, Joyce had very real, very intimate feelings for all three of the men she’s dated or considered dating.
Meanwhile, I can say that both of the guys I dated due to comphet, I had no feelings for or if I ever did, those feelings actually stopped once we were dating. Not to say I’ve never found men attractive, I have, but I’ve never really dated a man I truly felt attracted to. Both times I ever had a boyfriend were because it was ‘expected’ and I felt like I was ‘supposed to’.
Queen Anthai
Yeah crazy thing about us is sometimes we’re in relationships with different genders than ours.
Doesn’t mean we’re not still bi.
Wereg
We love bi-erasure. Her probably coming to the realisation that she’s not straight does not mean any affection she had for Joe vanished. She’s capable of realising she’s attracted to girls while still liking and being attracted to a guy.
ian livs
^This. (inb4, bi people can totally perpetuate bi erasure too. and dismissing Joyce’s obvious enjoyment of her time with Joe here just bc she may also have feelings toward Dorothy is kinda adjacent to bi erasure)
Cheshrin
The funny part is that there absolutely is a case of a bi girl in the cast who’s been engaging in compulsory heterosexuality, and there is a league of difference between Joyce “I have desires of intimacy with both my hot boyfriend and my hot best friend” Brown and Jennifer “IT WAS JUST A PHASE YOU CAN’T PROVE I LIKE GIRLS IT’S TOTALLY STRAIGHT FOR ME TO MAKE OUT WITH OTHER WOMEN” Billingsworth, spotted in Miami actively shoving herself into closets.
Doopyboop
Just gotta stamp this comment with a heart agreed!
ian livs
this ^^^^
Adept
Cheshrin, that was perfect. Well said.
Sirksome
Jennifer mentioned! How dare you be totally correct in your assessment of her relationship to her sexuality! I’ll have you know Jennifer is doing quite well as a disaster bisexual. Using the closet like a revolving door/ blast shelter from her own self realization is a perk! What’s Dorothy or Joyce doing for the culture?! Nothing. That’s why it’s Jen-1, other bisexuals -0….Unless you count Danny, and Asher, and Malaya, Booster maybe, and Ruth probably, and several minor characters, and maybe Dina? And Jocelyne, and Becky could be questioning. But if you dismiss all of them then Jennifer is ahead of every bisexual. Watch Clone Wars.
I think you mean heteronormative. It’s not compulsory, but it is heteronormative. Not like the character in Jimbo’s book over in QC, that’s Dr. Heteronormative. That’s completely different.
Lysbeth
“Compulsory heterosexuality” is a term that predates “heteronormativity” – a lot of people have moved away from it because the analysis that spawned it presented it as a woman-only phenomenon for some reason, and also the writer was a TERF, but it’s still prevalent in lesbian spaces (because let’s face it, neither reason is enough for some lesbian spaces to change anything)
Yeah I probably chose the wrong specific word since it was, like, midnight and I was on my way to bed, but I was mostly just trying to say that moving along like nothing happened after All That is kinda. You know. Bittersweet or something. But apparently, I’m a self-hating bisexual now, so ¯\_(ツ)_/¯
Doopyboop
I completely understand that you were commenting late, I get that sometimes things can be mistyped and misconstrued. Completely get that. However, you could also take more responsibility for that and admit ‘hey, sorry this came off wrong, I didn’t mean it that way’ instead of just doubling down like ‘lol I guess I’m a self-hating bisexual now whatever’. And honestly this is why one should be careful with slinging around words such as comphet so loosely in comment sections anyway. These words have a meaning. You should be aware of what you are saying.
justin8448
Oof, I’ve been there before.
Midnight is a less-than-optimal comment writing time.
zee
It’s not our fault you used a word that means something specific in an entirely wrong way that implies bi erasure ¯\_(ツ)_/¯
Lysbeth
I don’t think it’s heteronormativity, just being in a committed relationship.
zee
It’s not comphet if you actually like and want the guy. It’s crazy seeing a bisexual engage in bi erasure
I don’t think either one of them would have been happy with themselves if they had gone further, like even a kiss would have had consequences, so yeah, I am glad they did not do it.
ian livs
right? Dorothy already made it really clear recently that she felt like an awful cheater/person for even sending that picture to Joyce. If she’d actually kissed her, she would have spiraled far worse. I think that, sometime, they both need to unpack what’s going on with their relationship and what that means, but that was possibly THE worst time it could’ve happened.
Well that’s just completely wrong. I can easily think of a million worse times, and then think of an even worse one. Her wedding night maybe? The night of their double wedding even? To men?
Thag Simmons
Dorothy is already going to spiral out over how far they went, could have been a lot worse if they went farther
Oh, we all noted it. Some of aren’t sure why you would make a point of sharing your lack of empathy, but it’s a free country. Or at least so far, mostly.
Crow
I mean, it was a response to a comment about feeling bitter about this situation. I was trying to describe why I don’t feel bitter about it. And got a condescending trio of one-worded responses. So fuck me for sharing my opinion about this fictional situation, I guess.
410 thoughts on “Midnight”
ZombieKyrik
This is adorable, and I’m glad we didn’t change topics; thank you Willis.
Clif
I choose to believe that this is the end of the chapter and next strip is the beginning of the new chapter.
But way to harvest those Damn You Willis’s, Willis.
Longshot97
There is so much personality and history in each of these panels. This is nice.
Adept
It looks like a lovely date night to me, especially for two teens in their first year at the Uni.
Megan
We can all admit this is way more bitter than sweet right now.
pickonecard
speak for yourself tbh
Dorothy did the right thing not cheating on walky
Vanessa Pinter
I think this is very sweet. Joyce may love Dorothy but she also loves Joe and has incredible passion for him besides. She would be quite upset at herself and Dorothy too if they broke Joe’s heart.
Bwsab
Agreed.
Lysbeth
Ultimately, I’d bet that if Joyce learnt the words “ethical non-monogamy,” Joe would agree. But her being with Dorothy now would destroy him.
Strawb
Yes if Joyce is poly (I would really like Joyce to talk about and confirm this if that is the case, but that’s just me) and they have an open discussion about it I think this could work. I just hope if Joe says he’s okay with it he’s actually okay with it and not fibbing to make Joyce happy. For example, if he wants a bit of time to process before opening the relationship I think that would be fine.
DePesciMode
Isn’t there a polycule in her dorm?
https://www.dumbingofage.com/2017/comic/book-7/03-the-thing-i-was-before/unraveling/
I feel like these terms would have come up by now.
Also, more fuel for the Joyce x Dorothy truthers fire:
https://www.dumbingofage.com/2022/comic/book-13/01-bring-me-to-life-drawing/disparate/
John Campbell
Joyce knows about polycules, but has no prepared emotional response.
And, yeah, Joyce and Dorothy have been romantically involved since way before their physical intimacy started moving from subtext to text.
First Person Plural
Tbh I think Joe is a better partner for Joyce than Dorothy would be (I think Joyce is a better partner for Dorothy than Walky currently is, which from a meta perspective is great story conflict but in-universe would suck for Dorothy).
I also think nobody would be ok with a poly relationship (including Joe) which seems to contradict how most of the comments see it but I just don’t get that read from any of the characters (maybe Joyce? it’s a stretch but she’s just made a big discovery so she’s the most in flux I think). Joe in particular is trying very hard to do a “real” relationship, something he’s been terrified of for his entire sexual life, and I don’t think he could handle the idea of putting all the effort in to not cheating to have his girlfriend want a wider thing. Idk we’ll see where it goes, but this seems like the conflict Willis has put in to joe and Joyce’s relationship (as well as Joyce and Becky, which is a bombshell that is going to explode particularly loudly) and I think a polycule is too neat a solution.
Megan
hey uh do you think i meant it was bittersweet because no one cheated and not because of compulsory heterosexuality? like a whole week’s worth of strips detailing a scene where Joyce realizes she’s not straight and her having 0 time to even think about that before a date where she explicitly stated she intends to lose her virginity during does not spark even an ounce of dread in you?
Nymph
I understood what you meant, for whatever that’s worth. And I agree it’s a shame for Joyce and Dorothy as individual characters, but definitely better for adding suspense and emotion to the story.
Bittersweet, because she’s clearly happy, but certainly more bitter than sweet because we know there’s a lot of pain in unpacking this and figuring out where you are on that spectrum. Especially with Joyce’s upbringing.
Megan
Thank you for managing to unpack my meaning beyond “I think its bad when men exist” like everyone else responding seems to believe I said
Clif
Well, I certainly didn’t think you meant anything like that and don’t see any way to get there. On the other hand, this strip is plenty sweet. All the bitter is waiting off screen.
Differentiator
I think the main issue with your first comment was implying everyone should focus on the bitterness in the background instead of the sweetness we can see. Maybe I don’t get it because I’m a cishet male, but Joyce is in love with Joe and vice versa, there is no denying that, and I think everything else can’t be so much heavier that the bitter outshines that love.
DJTsurugi
I think people were mostly hung up on you saying this was bitter, because it is pretty hard to see it that way. not ALL of the people in this comments section are frothing at the mouth for some lesbian times, and I believe several of us stated this was the best result for future outcomes. I certainly don’t see anyone saying you said men were bad though. ~<3
Cheshrin
It’s not compulsory heterosexuality for a bisexual girl to love her boyfriend and want to get totally railed by him, whatever feelings she might have for Dorothy on top of that.
It’s just bisexuality.
Megan
As a bisexual girl,
Okay.
Josh
Educate us, what’s wrong with a bisexual girl experiencing her first time with her boyfriend?
Also wanna say, if her emotions are complicated regarding that, she still has time to say she wants to wait so that she can unpack it properly. Joe isn’t exactly ready to rush things either nor is he going to push his very Christian upbringing girlfriend on the matter.
Freezer
Also; It’s pretty presumptuous at this point that Joyce’s feelings for Dorothy are even similar (let alone equivalent) to Dorothy’s for Joyce.
Risky
You are putting a lot of work into the word similar there. Their feelings are at least 90% similar, there’s just a lot in that final 10%.
Risky
I know when someone says “Educate us” you are just supposed to ignore them and not comment since it’s clearly a troll move even if not meant that way, but seriously she literally just said “okay”. You don’t get to stuff that full of your interpretation as if something is owed to you.
Risky
Did she mean fair enough? Did she mean acknowledged? She definitely didn’t mean “okay” as “a bisexual girl experiencing her first time with her boyfriend” is wrong, whether she does or doesn’t think so.
ian livs
All right, but OP suggested they spoke for the whole fandom, and then got upset when people chimed in with their own opinions. Even “as a bisexual girl, okay” has a vibe of “I’m bi, so my opinion is valid and I don’t care about any others’.” I’m not sure how Josh is trolling for asking what’s wrong with a bisexual person having a boyfriend when OP is offended by that.
Josh
That’s fair, it definitely came off as more aggressive than it should have. I will adjust my language in the future.
Josh
I WOULD love to get an explanation for my question on the off chance there is actually some nuance I am ignorant of, but using challenging language isn’t the best way to get that answer. Whoops.
DJTsurugi
Joe is very clearly happy with the slow pace he thinks this is going at. Dude is currently being very sweet on Joyce. ~<3
june gloom
Hi, I’m pan. What the fuck are you talking about?
KJ
as another bisexual girl:
your bitterness about this is really confusing to me
Doopyboop
To chime in further on what Cheshrin said, comphet would be if Joyce had no feelings for Joe whatsoever and was dating him to seem straight or because she thinks she has to. I’d argue Jennifer dating Asher was her experiencing comphet. In contrast, Joyce had very real, very intimate feelings for all three of the men she’s dated or considered dating.
Meanwhile, I can say that both of the guys I dated due to comphet, I had no feelings for or if I ever did, those feelings actually stopped once we were dating. Not to say I’ve never found men attractive, I have, but I’ve never really dated a man I truly felt attracted to. Both times I ever had a boyfriend were because it was ‘expected’ and I felt like I was ‘supposed to’.
Queen Anthai
Yeah crazy thing about us is sometimes we’re in relationships with different genders than ours.
Doesn’t mean we’re not still bi.
Wereg
We love bi-erasure. Her probably coming to the realisation that she’s not straight does not mean any affection she had for Joe vanished. She’s capable of realising she’s attracted to girls while still liking and being attracted to a guy.
ian livs
^This. (inb4, bi people can totally perpetuate bi erasure too. and dismissing Joyce’s obvious enjoyment of her time with Joe here just bc she may also have feelings toward Dorothy is kinda adjacent to bi erasure)
Cheshrin
The funny part is that there absolutely is a case of a bi girl in the cast who’s been engaging in compulsory heterosexuality, and there is a league of difference between Joyce “I have desires of intimacy with both my hot boyfriend and my hot best friend” Brown and Jennifer “IT WAS JUST A PHASE YOU CAN’T PROVE I LIKE GIRLS IT’S TOTALLY STRAIGHT FOR ME TO MAKE OUT WITH OTHER WOMEN” Billingsworth, spotted in Miami actively shoving herself into closets.
Doopyboop
Just gotta stamp this comment with a heart agreed!
ian livs
this ^^^^
Adept
Cheshrin, that was perfect. Well said.
Sirksome
Jennifer mentioned! How dare you be totally correct in your assessment of her relationship to her sexuality! I’ll have you know Jennifer is doing quite well as a disaster bisexual. Using the closet like a revolving door/ blast shelter from her own self realization is a perk! What’s Dorothy or Joyce doing for the culture?! Nothing. That’s why it’s Jen-1, other bisexuals -0….Unless you count Danny, and Asher, and Malaya, Booster maybe, and Ruth probably, and several minor characters, and maybe Dina? And Jocelyne, and Becky could be questioning. But if you dismiss all of them then Jennifer is ahead of every bisexual. Watch Clone Wars.
Megan
Okay.
HueSatLight
no. because it’s not compulsory. Whatever she feels for Dorothy, she is very much into Joe and is very much attracted to him.
HueSatLight
sorry for the pile on, forgot to refresh before posting.
Bobby
none whatsoever and this is a wild take dude, please touch grass. Signed, a bisexual who is exhausted by people claiming joyce is comphet
Bagfaceman
This webcomic of all webcomics is definitely not guilty of “compulsory heterosexuality”
Opus the Poet
I think you mean heteronormative. It’s not compulsory, but it is heteronormative. Not like the character in Jimbo’s book over in QC, that’s Dr. Heteronormative. That’s completely different.
Lysbeth
“Compulsory heterosexuality” is a term that predates “heteronormativity” – a lot of people have moved away from it because the analysis that spawned it presented it as a woman-only phenomenon for some reason, and also the writer was a TERF, but it’s still prevalent in lesbian spaces (because let’s face it, neither reason is enough for some lesbian spaces to change anything)
Megan
Yeah I probably chose the wrong specific word since it was, like, midnight and I was on my way to bed, but I was mostly just trying to say that moving along like nothing happened after All That is kinda. You know. Bittersweet or something. But apparently, I’m a self-hating bisexual now, so ¯\_(ツ)_/¯
Doopyboop
I completely understand that you were commenting late, I get that sometimes things can be mistyped and misconstrued. Completely get that. However, you could also take more responsibility for that and admit ‘hey, sorry this came off wrong, I didn’t mean it that way’ instead of just doubling down like ‘lol I guess I’m a self-hating bisexual now whatever’. And honestly this is why one should be careful with slinging around words such as comphet so loosely in comment sections anyway. These words have a meaning. You should be aware of what you are saying.
justin8448
Oof, I’ve been there before.
Midnight is a less-than-optimal comment writing time.
zee
It’s not our fault you used a word that means something specific in an entirely wrong way that implies bi erasure ¯\_(ツ)_/¯
Lysbeth
I don’t think it’s heteronormativity, just being in a committed relationship.
zee
It’s not comphet if you actually like and want the guy. It’s crazy seeing a bisexual engage in bi erasure
DailyBrad
I don’t think either one of them would have been happy with themselves if they had gone further, like even a kiss would have had consequences, so yeah, I am glad they did not do it.
ian livs
right? Dorothy already made it really clear recently that she felt like an awful cheater/person for even sending that picture to Joyce. If she’d actually kissed her, she would have spiraled far worse. I think that, sometime, they both need to unpack what’s going on with their relationship and what that means, but that was possibly THE worst time it could’ve happened.
Risky
Well that’s just completely wrong. I can easily think of a million worse times, and then think of an even worse one. Her wedding night maybe? The night of their double wedding even? To men?
Thag Simmons
Dorothy is already going to spiral out over how far they went, could have been a lot worse if they went farther
ZombieKyrik
I still find it sweet; Joyce and Joe are both happy, and are enjoying spending time together.
Is it still a little bitter because I’m worried about Dorothy? Yes, but to me it’s more sweet.
Clif
So a nice flavor of bittersweet?
Hacksaw
72% Chocolate chips, just bitter enough to add some character, and often comes with hints of fruitiness.
Clif
Here. Have a spare Internet.
Steamweed
There are also some nuts in my bittersweet.
TerribleTransit
Nah, this is sweet. There’s still some bitterness to be dealt with later, but right now there’s barely an aftertaste of it.
Crow
I mean, I find it hard to feel that sorry for two girls already in happy relationships
Megan
Okay.
Crow
Yes, okay, have a nice night 🙂
Zamperla
Okaaaaaaay~! Yay!
Taffy
Irrelevant.
Crow
How?
Taffy
Their boyfriends aren’t useful data points, unless we’re describing an obstruction.
Crow
I have no idea what that means. I’m just saying Joyce and Dorothy will probably be fine.
Queezle
Dotty is very much not fine at the moment.
Nymph
Noted.
Crow
Thank you so much for noting my comment, Nymph
Clif
Oh, we all noted it. Some of aren’t sure why you would make a point of sharing your lack of empathy, but it’s a free country. Or at least so far, mostly.
Crow
I mean, it was a response to a comment about feeling bitter about this situation. I was trying to describe why I don’t feel bitter about it. And got a condescending trio of one-worded responses. So fuck me for sharing my opinion about this fictional situation, I guess.