That is a sub-optimal solution. Happiness is not a zero-sum game. It comes from within, mostly in response to external clues and situations but still something you make on your own.
thejeff
Not in DoA. There happiness is doled out by an omnipotent author, generally for the purpose of being crushed so he can feed on our tears.
I don’t think things going wrong with Ruth is the problem, or a possibility, if you’re implying Dr. Beverly is suddenly going to turn into Nurse Ratched. Things going right is the issue. You know, because Billie is still spiraling into depression and now if Ruth actually learns to be happy without being co-dependent, it’ll make Billie worse.
Billie really needs to be in therapy too, but she’s not required to go, and she’s really stubborn, which isn’t a good combination
“Go ahead and rest, I’ll take care of h-”
“GIT YER STINKIN’ PAWS OFFA MAH WOMIN!!”
“But I’m only here to h-HKKGKKGGRHGKGLGLLL…”
*disrobes corpse, puts on nurse’s uniform*
“I’ll take care of you now, Ruth. I’ll ALWAYS take care of you…”
As someone who grew up in a fundie church in the midwest, I can tell you for a fact that Joyce and Becky are the only girls from their church not named Sarah.
BBCC
Also Melissa and possibly Kelly and the six Jennifers!
…Their church may have swapped Sarah for Jennifer.
Scar Man!!!
ah shoot. i thought being called Sarah was a good indicator of being Jewish and used it to guess whether I had met a fellow Jew if they weren’t wearing a star of david necklace or a shirt with hebrew letters without having to awkwardly ask their religion.
Thanks for telling me. Otherwise, it would be hard to explain why i had to break off a potential relationship when I heard her talking about how Christmas is too Catholic for her on the first date.
Remember, Billie went to Ruth because she felt she destroyed everything she touched. Ruth was already damaged and so was safe. Now, if Ruth’s getting better, what does Billie think will be the best course of action?
That would require her to take control of her situation rather than continue her self-destructive spiral, which would require her to have character development, which would require her to first do something to combat her depression, i.e. therapy.
What came first — the phoenix or the flame?
Splork
Not super down with the implication that her depression indicates a character deficiency.
Her mental state isn’t, “I feel like I destroy everything I touch and that makes me scared I can’t be with Ruth, so I should go to therapy so I can learn that I don’t actually destroy everything I touch. But I”m not going to because I don’t want to take control!”
It’s “I destroy everything I touch and that makes me scared I can’t be with Ruth. What’s the point of going to therapy? I’m too worthless to deserve treatment, and in any case, they can’t treat the real problem, which is that I’m a piece of crap.”
I realize taht, but there would still need to be a tautological change, which means that without a powerful outside force acting on her nothing will change — and frankly, I have no idea what that force would even be.
There doesn’t need to be a dramatic, externally motivated change.
For one thing, she’s already scheduled for weekly therapy sessions, which did not sound optional. If she gives it a chance, it will still take time and a lot of work, but she has friends who will help and support her.
Gentle forces exerting steady pressure over time have just as much power to change someone as big dramatic events, and the result is much more stable.
253 thoughts on “Jennifer”
Ana Chronistic
“don’t you worry about all that ’emotional support’ stuff, we got this! go away now”
“um”
“shoo”
Doctor_Who
Doctor Beverly gently pushes Billie out the door with a broom.
Arawn
Yeah… Billie probably needs to attend some of these meetings as well. Co-dependency is harsh stuff.
Arawn
Why… Why is my gravatar the evil one… I… should start posting mean nasty things.
TrueVCU
Wouldn’t it just be perfect if THAT was Mary’s bongo origin story
Clif
Mary is mean because she got a bad gravatar? It’s amazing what you learn on the Interwebs.
Zaphod_Beeblebrox
I agree, I feel terrible that she’s not getting treatment when her friend is :/
TheAnonymousGuy
B “wait, I want stay!”
N “only family can be here right now.”
B “I AM HER FAMILY, I’m her alciholi- I mean fuckbudd- I mean fiancé.”
N: Skeptical look – “oh, so when’s the wedding?”
B: looks away off-guard comptinplaining “four months.”
N “awesome, can I come?”
B: looks away again “Suuuuuure.”
LATER
R “WHAT THE FUCK!!!!!!!!!!!!!!”
B “Do you want to wear the dress or should I?”
Fart Captor
They can both wear pretty dresses if they wanna. That Leafs dress Joyce ordered a while back must have arrived by now
Disloyal Subject
Pretty dresses for everyone! So long as they’re still alive…
Screwball
Yes, pretty dresses, & dancing with all the boys for everyone. but mostly you, of course… 😛
Needfuldoer
Even Mary! She can dance with Tom Petty.
V.
More, more sitcoms shenanigans
Ana Chronistic
“dawg, inviting yourself to a wedding is RUUUUUUUDE”
TheAnonymousGuy
not as rude as inviting yourself to the honeymoon.
miados
i hope that she is a good doctor. i want a happy ruth
Opus the Poet
Assuming that the balance of the universe is not dependent on Ruth’s depression same here. Happy Ruth!
Pablo360
I’m sure we can get a happy Ruth, at the expense of an even-more-depressed Billie.
Shaman
This, right here, is the whole damn problem. Billie keeps reading as upset that her misery buddy isn’t miserable.
Opus the Poet
That is a sub-optimal solution. Happiness is not a zero-sum game. It comes from within, mostly in response to external clues and situations but still something you make on your own.
thejeff
Not in DoA. There happiness is doled out by an omnipotent author, generally for the purpose of being crushed so he can feed on our tears.
AnvilPro
Everything’s going to be alright.
Too Old To Be Cool
I have a bad feeling about this…
Lordmazapan
She looks nice, nothing wrong can happen right……right?
Proto
I don’t think things going wrong with Ruth is the problem, or a possibility, if you’re implying Dr. Beverly is suddenly going to turn into Nurse Ratched. Things going right is the issue. You know, because Billie is still spiraling into depression and now if Ruth actually learns to be happy without being co-dependent, it’ll make Billie worse.
Billie really needs to be in therapy too, but she’s not required to go, and she’s really stubborn, which isn’t a good combination
Fart Captor
It sounded very much like she is required to go, actually:
http://www.dumbingofage.com/2016/comic/book-6/04-it-all-returns/stock/
Not that it guarantees she’ll go, but one can hope
BBCC
The way she worded it doesn’t make it seem optional. Can health services make treatment a condition for staying in school?
Silly Name
I think that maybe the *school* can make a student receive treatment.
I don’t think they’d kick Billie out (or, anyway, can’t kick Billie out because she’s depressed*), but they can certainly… strongly suggest it.
*Of course, there are loopholes, I guess. There are always loopholes.
thejeff
Even without actually being able to compel it, doctors can be very good at using their authority and status to convince you to do things.
AngelBadman
Pretty much what I was thinking, wasn’t this a mutual death spiral?
Deanatay
“Go ahead and rest, I’ll take care of h-”
“GIT YER STINKIN’ PAWS OFFA MAH WOMIN!!”
“But I’m only here to h-HKKGKKGGRHGKGLGLLL…”
*disrobes corpse, puts on nurse’s uniform*
“I’ll take care of you now, Ruth. I’ll ALWAYS take care of you…”
Mr. Mendo
Oh my, but Billie is ambivalent. Am-Billie-lent, even!
Dana
Go sit in the corner and think about what you’ve done.
Disloyal Subject
Needs a V in there. Ambillievent?
Sounds like a starship.
Mr. Mendo
See, that was my first thought, too. But then, it just sounds like a mondegreen instead of a pun!
DonDueed
It’s a mondegreen AND a pun! …and a floor wax, and a dessert topping.
Opus the Poet
New Shimmer!
a snow ʍousɐ
Or perhaps it’s a double pun about Billie venting her frustration by punching Mary? (and I mean THANK GOD because Mary deserved that)
Rocketboy1313
Who’s Jennifer?
Well, if you are a jealous person you must be picturing Ruth’s face buried in some mystery woman’s crotch.
Is Billie the jealous type?
Woobie
I’m picturing Jennifer’s face buried in Ruth’s crotch.
Then vice versa.
BBCC
So, the slip shine then?
Woobie
🙂
Woobie
Wait; you do know Billie is Jennifer, right?
Dana
Any excuse to visualize lesbian sex should be taken.
a snow ʍousɐ
I believe it’s in reference to the alt-text?
Rocketboy1313
It is.
John
Jennifer Yunru Billingsworth, aka “Billie”?
Or maybe one of six girls from Joyce and Becky’s church.
Killian
As someone who grew up in a fundie church in the midwest, I can tell you for a fact that Joyce and Becky are the only girls from their church not named Sarah.
BBCC
Also Melissa and possibly Kelly and the six Jennifers!
http://www.dumbingofage.com/2016/comic/book-6/04-it-all-returns/countryside/
…Their church may have swapped Sarah for Jennifer.
Scar Man!!!
ah shoot. i thought being called Sarah was a good indicator of being Jewish and used it to guess whether I had met a fellow Jew if they weren’t wearing a star of david necklace or a shirt with hebrew letters without having to awkwardly ask their religion.
Thanks for telling me. Otherwise, it would be hard to explain why i had to break off a potential relationship when I heard her talking about how Christmas is too Catholic for her on the first date.
Fart Captor
Aww, Billie. You need more hugs. 🙁
John
I’m trying, but I can’t get it to go through the fourth wall.
Fauna Sarcastic
i will smash that god damn fourth wall just so i can hug everyone in this comic
aside from mary and carol, they deserve no hugs
BBCC
Also Ryan, his cronies, Toedad, John, Blaine, and Faz I assume.
John
Aw, but I want hugs. 🙁
BBCC
John Brown. YOU may have all the hugs you want. 😀
*hugs*
ety
That almost sort of makes it sound like you are addressing John Brown.
StClair
He’s mouldering in his grave, but his truth is marching on.
thejeff
I think for this John Brown, the truth is mouldering in the grave, but he keeps marching on.
Disloyal Subject
Nah, their hugs are just the prelude to suplexes.
Scar Man!!!
Where’s Sgt. Wadey Wilson when you need him?
Stephen R. Bierce
Four for a Dollar/Some black-and-white pictures…
Stephen R. Bierce
I think I misremembered that.
Kelli
So, er, ah, why doesn’t the server seem to use ntp? Its apparent time seems to be about five minutes off at this point.
Taigan
Remember, Billie went to Ruth because she felt she destroyed everything she touched. Ruth was already damaged and so was safe. Now, if Ruth’s getting better, what does Billie think will be the best course of action?
BBCC
Attending the therapy she was prescribed? Please?
Pablo360
That would require her to take control of her situation rather than continue her self-destructive spiral, which would require her to have character development, which would require her to first do something to combat her depression, i.e. therapy.
What came first — the phoenix or the flame?
Splork
Not super down with the implication that her depression indicates a character deficiency.
Her mental state isn’t, “I feel like I destroy everything I touch and that makes me scared I can’t be with Ruth, so I should go to therapy so I can learn that I don’t actually destroy everything I touch. But I”m not going to because I don’t want to take control!”
It’s “I destroy everything I touch and that makes me scared I can’t be with Ruth. What’s the point of going to therapy? I’m too worthless to deserve treatment, and in any case, they can’t treat the real problem, which is that I’m a piece of crap.”
Pablo360
I realize taht, but there would still need to be a tautological change, which means that without a powerful outside force acting on her nothing will change — and frankly, I have no idea what that force would even be.
Fart Captor
There doesn’t need to be a dramatic, externally motivated change.
For one thing, she’s already scheduled for weekly therapy sessions, which did not sound optional. If she gives it a chance, it will still take time and a lot of work, but she has friends who will help and support her.
Gentle forces exerting steady pressure over time have just as much power to change someone as big dramatic events, and the result is much more stable.
BBCC