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anyway the results to this are official, whatever that means Betrayed
Yesterday I had no idea what day it was, but I'VE FIGURED IT OUT BECAUSE I'M SMART, and TODAY is June 1, not... yesterday. ANYWAY, Wack'd is running a bracketed Best Dumbing Of Age Character poll on their Twitter TODAY JUNE 1, and ... it's fun and I'm excited they're doing this!!!! Dumbing of Age is turning TEN soon, y'all.
Wack'd has taken the polling results from previous BEST CHARACTER polls on this site to determine, SCIENTIFICALLY, how to match folks up and uh I'm sorry Raidah
anyway the results to this are official, whatever that means
204 thoughts on “Betrayed”
Ana Chronistic
that went some unexpected places
=C
OtterBoy1
Kind of sad, too
clif
Touche, Faz. But I did horrible thing X because I knew you would always have the capacity for forgiveness doesn’t cut it as a valid pattern.
I cheated on you because I knew you would always have capacity for forgiveness .
I poisoned your dog because I knew you would always have capacity for forgiveness.
I voted for Nash over you in the poll because I knew you would always have capacity for forgiveness.
Sorry, it just doesn’t work.
Paradox
The slightly better excuse is “I’m afraid of my and my mother’s lives being ruined if he’s imprisoned so I’m trying to walk the line between doing bad things and doing them so ineptly that it hurts as few people as possible.”
I don’t approve of the actions but I can have some sympathy for him.
anonymousethatscurriesinthedarkness
“I am selfish” and to a lesser extent “my mother is unable to survive that” can also be an interpretation of that fear.
Wack'd
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I have serious doubts Faz is telling the truth here. For starters, in the 2019-Sep-23 and 24 strips, Blaine has photos of Joyce and Sarah with Faz in frame, on the border and facing away from the camera. While it’s not impossible Faz didn’t take those photos, it strikes me as extremely unlikely.
Additionally, in the 2018-May-20 strip, we see Faz hand the flash drive to Blaine. Faz has to explain what it is, and the way Blaine talks about it makes it sound like this wasn’t his original agenda. “That’s it?” could just be him putting down Faz, but “maybe there’ll be something incriminating” makes it sound like this hadn’t crossed his mind before then.
So yeah, incredibly likely that Faz is covering his ass to stay on Joyce’s good side. Which is understandable! Even if Faz did do more than he’s letting on, he’s still a child of abuse, facing the possibility that a friend might turn on him. Even if he is lying, I’m not gonna call a 16-year-old evil for trying to stay on the good side of an abusive parent.
David M Willis
first panel: https://www.dumbingofage.com/2018/comic/book-8/03-faz-is-great/yuri/
;D
AntJ
Huh. Wow. Shoulda thought of that.
AntJ
disregard my comment below, then
Wack'd
Huh! So basically Blaine just got incredibly lucky that Joyce managed to coax Sarah out of the dorm.
Rikunda
You know… I forgot about the mother. I don’t understand it though… It is an obligation her husband had before they got married (when she was… um… 18?). Why is it Amber that she focuses her hate on? Is the mom gone now? Did she dump them both?
Needfuldoer
When Blaine divorced Stacy (Amber’s mother), he agreed to pay for Amber to go to college in lieu of alimony because he didn’t think she would actually go. Amber did, so Blaine has to pay. He doesn’t want to, his objective with that agreement was to get out of paying anything. He made a bet and lost, now he’s pissed and taking it out on his daughter.
And from the dialogue in this comic, Blaine has Yuri convinced that Amber and Stacy are the enemy, too. Notice she says “as long as the courts force us to pay tuition”.
https://www.dumbingofage.com/2018/comic/book-8/03-faz-is-great/tuition/
Another thing: if she really thinks Amber’s tuition is “sucking this family dry”, is Blaine lying to her about their finances? He managed to come up with the bail money for Ross when the entire congregation together couldn’t.
dralou
About that last point: Yuri could still believe that they’re being sucked dry even if she knew/thought that they’re actually well-off: Yes, they have money, but they have significantly less money than expected because Amber DARED to attend a college, while they were fully convinced she’d figuratively wither and die in the shadows, somewhere out of sight.
Not that I don’t think Blaine is above lying to her, but it’s not necessarily what happened. She could just demonstrate she’s in the same mindset as him.
Needfuldoer
In-state tuition, room, and board all together would be a little over $2,000 per month, assuming they’re paying up front and Amber didn’t qualify for any grants or scholarships. What Blaine’s actually paying out of pocket depends on what he declared as his income, and if loans were taken out to spread the cost out over time.
He probably has more money than he legally declares, either as under-the-table payment for his money laundering or from skimming a little extra off the top of what passes through his hands. She may not have the full picture of this illegitimate income.
AntJ
I believe he took the photos because he didn’t think they were incriminating on their own, and Blaine would abuse him if he spent an entire day on campus and only got some slashfic.
Doctor_Who
Called it two years ago.
Cass
Was it really that long ago? Damn.
Bicycle Bill
In light of whagt has happened, the way Blaine is saying “What do you have for US?” in that strip makes it sound like Yuri might be involved in some way in this too. Maybe not as an active participant/planner/strategist, but the fact that Blaine and Faz are not averse to talking about this in front her speaks volumes — at least to me.
JetstreamGW
Why would I feel bad for Faz? Faz is a shithead 😛 I don’t care that he’s got legitimate problems, he’s still a shithead.
MarkeyMark
I mean….he could have turned his sister into the cops essentially by giving Blaine her AmziGirl evidence. And he could have not come and just let him kill everyone.
Yes, he’s a shithead. But at least he’s still got some form of concious.
Bicycle Bill
What evidence other than the Amazi-suit and (maybe) the grappling hook? And Amber could have easily gotten out of that with one word — “cosplay”.
thejeff
Did he know any of that? The visit was after the stabbing, when she’d hidden the suit behind a false facade in the closet.
Did I miss a bit where Faz found out about Amazi-Girl during his visit?
Stephen Bierce
Just like was said about Malaya, “characters are human not for the virtues they have, but for those they lack”.
This is the first time in his long history as a character that he’s expressed any sort of honesty about himself to anybody else. For once his inflated sense of self is nowhere to be found.
Axel
also he is a child
Doctor_Who
An abused child, no less. Blaine has all the power in this situation, Faz is a victim just like Amber.
EvilMidnightLurker
See, that’s why I saw horror in the Fazsmile yesterday. I think that smile may have been beaten into him. 🙁
Zaxares
Yeah. With abused kids, there’s generally two paths that they go down. One is that they emulate their abuser and become bullies themselves, taking out their anger and frustration on targets weaker than themselves. The other is that they become pathetically eager to please, internalizing that “it’s their fault” when their abuser mistreats them because they “must have done something wrong”. The latter usually will do everything in their power to present a non-threatening, helpful front towards their abuser (and usually towards other people as well) in an effort to try and preempt any sort of anger or displeasure on others’ part.
BarerMender
I was just about to feel bad for Faz, but then he pulled that “capacity for forgiveness” line. Seems manipulative to me.
not someone else
That’s… pretty normal for a kid trying to survive, honestly. You pick up a lot of shitty habits from being raised like that, and manipulation is one of the less damaging ones.
Abuse can’t excuse everything. That’s flat out. But abuse plus being a child means that the correct means of dealing with Faz is placement with extended relatives if they can find any who aren’t fucking evil, a lot of therapy, and an understanding he has the opportunity to change completely.
(I mean- as he’s noted- Joyce has.)
Concolor44
Yes. Thank you.
I hate, hate, HATE Faz’s reasoning here. Just dump the whole thing on the victim, you jerk.
He Who Abides
Yes, better that he go around beating people’s asses and goading people into fights so he can take it out on them ?
Anon A Mouse
There is a middle ground. Anyone who calls out Faz for being absolute shit here and having a shit excuse for doing it is valid. Everyone saying he is abused and this is him coping is also making valid points. But please don’t use the “At least he isn’t WORSE!”. EVERYONE can be worse, that isn’t actually any kind of feat to not be.
He Who Abides
I’m just saying that a metric fuckton of commenters defended Amber for being an aggressive and violent person because she was abused, and yet Faz (who’s gone the other route in dealing with it) is getting pilloried for it. ‘S bogus.
Daniel M Ball
It’s wrong, but it’s understandable if you understand how an audience functions. Amber’s reaction fits the way MOST people who haven’t been abused hope they’d come out, while Faz fits the way all too many people in abusive relationships wind up. almost EVERYONE wishes their response to abuse would be striking back, but the sad truth is, Faz represents an example of how often that wish goes unfilled.
In short, Amber’s ‘amazigirl’ self is the fantasy, Faz is the cold bucket of reality. People pillory Faz because most people in his situation would wind up more like him, than like Amber.
thejeff
So what you’re saying is that people like Amber more than Faz because Amber’s reaction to the abuse is better than Faz’s?
Faz may be more realistic, Amazi-Girl may be a fantasy, but implicit in that is that Amazi-Girl is actually not as bad as Faz.
He Who Abides
Okay, that makes it easier to understand. It still sucks, especially since DIDuo have generally taken their issues out on a lot of non-Blaine people (including Sal, who really didn’t deserve it), but I get it a little more now.
Twitcher
Yes, Faz’s reasoning is understandable for an abused 16-year-old, but I do expect that Joyce is going to get angry. Faz kind of implied that since Joyce is a Christian, it’s okay to use her and her friends humanity like doormats.
thejeff
Very kind of, since the word Christian doesn’t appear and it’s easy to read this as his perception of her character from when she was nice to him before than anything about religion.
Leorale
Apologies for the can o’ worms: I wonder if Christians might have a seriously different spin on forgiveness than other religions have.
I once knew a Catholic who seemed to think that it was OK to do something shitty because I would someday forgive him. Like, getting forgiven would somehow make his action more morally OK?
It made so little sense to me that I wonder if it was a religious difference. (By contrast, my home-religion specified that this loophole doesn’t work: if you sin, figuring “oh it’s cool, God will forgive me for this later,” then God won’t forgive that action. And logically: just because you think you’re going to get forgiven, it doesn’t mean that what you did was more forgivable.)
Or maybe that particular Christian person was just wack, and I don’t mean to paint y’all with the same brush.
thejeff
I’m not Christian and I suspect there’s a lot of variation, but I don’t think there’s anything particularly unique in the religion in that regard. I think there’s something of the attitude in the common saying “Easier to get forgiveness than permission.”
As far as that particular loophole, my understanding of the general Christian take is that forgiveness of sin requires repentance. Doing something with the plan to get forgiven later wouldn’t be a bar to being forgiven, but it’s not really a loophole, since the repentance has to be genuine. In theory anyway.
Especially in the past, some religious practices might have tended in that direction: Catholic confession, for example. Go out to the wild party Saturday night, go to confession Sunday morning, do the assigned penance and you’re good.
SillyGoose
It could also simply imply “your capacity for forgiveness means that you won’t beat me senseless, while Father’s lack thereof means that he will. Therefore, since I cannot win, I must chose to lose in the least destructive way possible”.
And not really “now you have to cause I made you cry!”, though that’s also a possibility.
Twitcher
I don’t think Faz is trying to be manipulative. He comes from a family where what passes for love is transactional. He’s still being insensitive, but he doesn’t exactly realize it. Joyce probably will tell him why and how so, though.
Sirksome
Who here thinks “disappointed” is code for “he beat me”? Hands?
Cass
110%
Jezi
Hand up here. At least, I read it as some kind of abuse happened, physical or otherwise.
Regalli
Yeah, I can just as easily see the emotional abuse shitstorm we’ve seen him unleash on Amber for situations he DIDN’T have a stake in, but. Blaine does not react to disappointment well. So.
SOMETHING happened, and given Blaine does have a stake in it here I can see him getting physical, unfortunately.
Sirksome
I mean, Blaine’s already tried to physically abuse Amber…IN FRONT OF WITNESSES! That plus Amber revealing he’s beaten her mom and her before and Blaine admitting to that himself. “Touch her once and she quits!” I believe. Yeah this guy probably beat Faz and Yuri too possibly.
Phil
Hands? Yeah, Faz definitely caught some hands.
StClair
Yup. 🙁
Hoboturtle
Yes, I think people should make sure Blaine catches some hands
Freezer
*raises hand*
Romanticide
that or emotional abuse, but it wasn’t pretty.
PB
It can be two things.
Jay
Look, if Code Geass can’t make me feel bad for Rolo you can’t make me feel bad for this turd
NinjaNick
You’d be homeless either way, Faz. Bastard Blaine will have to deal with solitary confinement at best.
segnosaur
Yes… enough people know about Blaine’s activities. Either he is captured quickly by police (and goes to jail for a long time), or he goes on the run (attempting to avoid capture), without his home (and probably targeted by the mob as well as police). Either way, Faz will be homeless.
Of course, it also doesn’t look good for Amber either… with Blaine in jail (or on the run) it will be impossible for him to keep up the legally mandated tuition payments.
Emily
If I ran a college tuition department I’d figure it would be good PR for IU to give a student who was just kidnapped by her abusive father off my own campus some financial assistance or something.
Then again, I have morals, which is why I don’t run a college tuition department.
not someone else
I read this as his mother’s thoughts in his mouth, personally. “It doesn’t matter what your father does, we’d
lose some of our cushy lifestylebe homeless and starve to death and I would make sure you know it would be All Your Fault” sounds very much like a Yuri excuse.BBCC
I’m not sure why we’d assume Yuri and Faz have a cushy lifestyle. We don’t know much about Yuri’s knowledge of their finances. If Blaine’s in charge of them, it’d be easy enough to keep her in the dark and say they don’t have anywhere near as much as Blaine’s making. Blaine’s definitely the kind of asshole who wouldn’t let Yuri work if he could help it.
Rikunda
We know the mafia is involved, so for all we know Yuri is not even married to him willingly. Can you imagine why she would be interested? I am not doubting that he controls the means… I am sure he is controlling things down to rather they can breathe.
Needfuldoer
We can only presume it was some combination of grooming, gaslighting, and Stockholm Syndrome…
Yech.
thejeff
Maybe not too cushy, but if Blaine’s living with them, you’d think he’d want comfortable at least.
Of course, for all we know, Blaine’s also cheating on Yuri and supporting a third family. Following his established pattern.
BBCC
Not if it’s easier to control Yuri by keeping things less stable. A lot of abusers are willing to keep people in a less than ideal situation to maintain their control. I knew one that literally drove himself and his girlfriend into homelessness because it was easier to control her that way.
Mehe
Oh no, Faz.
Oh, you poor child.
He Who Abides
^This.
StClair
“So I knew I could do the awful thing, and you would still forgive me.”
Totally fucked up, but flawlessly logical.
bryy
And 1000% in-arc.
DailyBrad
Faz is a survivor, but I mean…. he kinda has to be.
DEAD MEME
Lemme think…
Nope, still not sad for this bongo.
Joe Moose
Sorry, still don’t feel bad for him.
Also, I got just a smidge of dust in my eye.
Sirksome