When not on my medication my ADHD brain has this little annoying quirk where i walk in room forget why i was in the room and takes me 30 seconds to remember why I was in the room. Apparently it’s a common thing with people with ADHD.
JA
It’s called Doorway Effect and is pretty common, actually. Happens more often the older you get. The mere action of walking through a door (or even something like changing windows on your computer) sometimes wipes your short term memory because it’s not associated with the new space you just entered due to how our brains compartmentalize stuff.
HueSatLight
I either go back to the last room or imagine I’m there.
UrsulaDavina
Thank you now I have a name for it. I guess it’s worse if you have adhd but I noticed that effect seems to diminish when I am on concerta(no dah its a stimulant) then when I am not concerta. Any way this really helps so thanks again.
Chrissy
One good way to address it is to remind yourself what you’re doing when you walk through a doorway or go up/down stairs. Works for me! …when I remember to remind myself lol
King_Salty
I am not currently on any medication, but I am looking for a new psychiatrist so I can try again, and sometimes I walk into a room and never remember why I walking into the room, so trust me I understand your struggle.
“Being able to teleport would be a sick power, but I’d end up having the “why am I in the kitchen again” on a much larger scale
I’d be in the middle of fucking Africa wondering why I went there to begin with”
You could always just explain what it means when you say it, instead of making up angry people.
Felian
This is why the best function my smartphone has is a button that lets me return to the previously used app!!
Sometimes i have to switch task for some urgent reason, and then i completely forgot what i was previously doing and want to get back to.
CA seems to be hit by the DEA’s callousness the hardest, ADHD meds of any kind aren’t available here at ALL. If only it were legal to have them delivered from other states.
Thankfully I got caffeine and select cannabis strains like Blue Hawaii to self-medicate, not quite as effective as Ritalin but they work for the time being. Thanks for sympathies bruh. ?
UrsulaDavina
Where you diagnosed during the pandemic by a telecom beacuse from what I have been reading the FDA relaxed prescription requirement ls during the pandemic which led to an uptake in perceptions, leading to the shortage and now the DEA has begun investigating one of the telehealth companies.
Not sure if this is the case in Cali but in NY my pyschraist switched back to in person visits . Is it possible for you to get an in person visit with a pyschtrist if you were diagnosed you can take that daignosis to another pyschrist. I don’t know if that helps.
Well that’s news to me, might be ableism in action tho. What was the telehealth company?
Unfortunately I cant do in-person, and regardless it wont change the fact that pharmacies are all out of ADHD meds. ?
Proxiehunter
You could also try a stimulant dose of kratom. The effect of one of those is why I’m going to talk to my psych about upping my Adderal dosage. Although I’m going to be telling her it was a few cups of what I thought was decaff but turned out not to be to avoid awkward conversations and the possibility of my adderal being taken away entirely since kratom is unfairly demonized.
UrsulaDavina
From what I can tell it all involves a Telecom mental Healthcare company based in California called Cereberal who was accused by a whistle blower that they where encourage to over prescribed ADHD medication during the pandemic when regulations on prescribing medication over telecom was loosened. Any way the DOJ has launched an investigation this kind might have had cascading effect it lookks like other telecom mental healthcare companies have stoped prescribing.
well socks i can understand but other than like crocs? maybe or open toed shoes/etc, i feel like you’d def notice/it would def feel diff /noticeable when you put them on but i guess someone like walky would be unbothered til it startedh urting his feet lol
wait wait wait. I’m not sure what you mean by “socks I can understand”, have I been doing socks wrong my whole life?” is this going to be the can-opener all over again?
Angel
well, i guess there’s not much diff from left and right socks (unless you have like ‘toe’ socks i guess) but my parents always were uptight about me wearing mismatched socks and now ppl make mismatched patterns on purpose lol
Daibhid C
I have two pairs of “Feegle Feet” Discworld socks. A few weeks ago, I noticed I was wearing both the left ones, and it bugged me slightly. Although not enough to remember this before I noticed a few days later that I was wearing both the right ones.
I also used to have a pair of orange and green Odd Socks from Ireland. I always thought it would be fun to have two pairs of those and wear same-colour ones. It looks like your socks match but they actually don’t!
Slartibeast Button, BIA
I am told that there is a vitally important difference in if you put on both socks before you put on a shoe, or put one one sock and one shoe with the other foot bare.
One of these methods is used by all decent right-thinking people, and the other is used by unspeakably evil monsters determined on the corruption of all that is good and pure.
Sorry, I can never recall which is which.
a/snow/mous/e
What if you wear shoes without socks?
Slartibeast Button, BIA
People like that do not really exist, just like whats-her-name in the comic.
Inahc
you must have feet of steel.
Carla's #2 Fan
I know I normally just put on whichever sock unless the pattern is obvious (like something facing out)
It’s just the Dad so far, he is the good cop. But he seemed to like Amber quite a bit! Even not-terrible parents might have a hard time with the girlfriend carousel whiplash.
It’s worth noting that the “good cop” in the good cop/bad cop routine is still not on your side, they’re just not as awful as the other one. That said, is it just me, or is Charles negging Walky’s commitment to Lucy in panel 4 (just like he was talking up Amber in private at their last meeting)?
Derek
I don’t think that’s the right use of “negging”, unless you mean to say Charles is intentionally putting down his own son with insults to it’s easier to break down his self esteem and make him more vulnerable to a bad relationship
Derek
*so
(instead of to)
DaveM
Yeah, I may be using the wrong term (dang you youngsters and your modern terms! 🙂 ). It’s just that Charles was being pro Amber at their last meeting, and now seems to be leading with that Walky isn’t “pro Lucy” at this meeting?
Like I said the thing to remember about the “good cop/bad cop” thing is that neither of them are on your side, and Charles has only been a “good cop” (or so far as we’ve seen) by being silent rather than actively supporting Linda.
Proxiehunter
Always remember the “good” cop in a good cop/bad cop routine is still a cop and it’s all a bit to make you confess to something. Whether you did it or not is irrelevant as long as you say what they want to hear. This is why you don’t speak to cops without a lawyer present to advocate on your behalf.
HueSatLight
and don’t get off guard if there’s only one cop, the Reid Technique does not require two.
I’m sure he’s mentally comparing her to amber, even without the racial element to it. But other than putting walky on the spot, i feel like it should be a sign to lucy if his dad has to point out “no other way to describe someone ur dating” lol
I guess we can all read as much or as little as we want into that, but I think comparisons are inevitable.
AlexanderHammil
he was intentionally trying to tank their opinion of amber, and she wasn’t at all invested in making a good impression, so there was some latitude there. here walky has been bracing himself and lucy for a bunch of microaggressive racism, and he has an actual emotional investment in this not hurting lucy, so he’s a lot more muted.
I’ve got a lot of sympathy for Walky there. I’ve never been at all good with articulating what I like about someone, especially when put on the spot. Even more especially when if was to parents and I had a complicated relationship with them.
It’s not necessarily a sign that you don’t really like them.
I’m genuinely interested in how Charles is going to navigate this.
He seems to like Amber more, specifically because of what she was willing to do, and I’m wondering how much that’ll affect him and Lucy.
He’s right to like Amber more, in the context of potential girlfriends for Walky… Look at Walky’s interactions with her, especially his heated defense of her at the prior dinner, vs Walky’s interactions with Lucy.
Lucy&Walky is a ship that’s in dangerous shoals, and apparently without a captain nor crew aboard. It’s really only a miracle that it hasn’t sunk already, but it’s days seem fated.
well he has joked about a polycule before so that owuld be interesting, it’s already awkward enough with his exes but imagine telling your parents you’re dating 3 other ppl, unless they’re very open minded i guess most ppl would be taken aback or stereotypically in the other way like “hell yeah my son’s got 3 women chasing after him” lol
Really really hoping we get a conversation between these three without Linda present. The only way either of his kids are ever gonna break through to him is if they can talk to him without Linda getting a word in edgewise.
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Ana Chronistic
sometimes she catches Walky putting his shoes on someone else’s feet
Paradoxius
“..dad this is the wrongest I ever got it”
Kyrik Michalowski
Guess Walky was trying the whole “walk a mile in someone else’s shoes” thing, but just a bit too literally.
Angel
he also took danny’s shoes that one time lol
NGPZ
Last panel is an ADHD mood for reals yo
UrsulaDavina
She also reminds Walky why he entered a room so doesnt have to 30 seconds to remeber to walked into the room
Kyrik Michalowski
Uhhh what?
UrsulaDavina
When not on my medication my ADHD brain has this little annoying quirk where i walk in room forget why i was in the room and takes me 30 seconds to remember why I was in the room. Apparently it’s a common thing with people with ADHD.
JA
It’s called Doorway Effect and is pretty common, actually. Happens more often the older you get. The mere action of walking through a door (or even something like changing windows on your computer) sometimes wipes your short term memory because it’s not associated with the new space you just entered due to how our brains compartmentalize stuff.
HueSatLight
I either go back to the last room or imagine I’m there.
UrsulaDavina
Thank you now I have a name for it. I guess it’s worse if you have adhd but I noticed that effect seems to diminish when I am on concerta(no dah its a stimulant) then when I am not concerta. Any way this really helps so thanks again.
Chrissy
One good way to address it is to remind yourself what you’re doing when you walk through a doorway or go up/down stairs. Works for me! …when I remember to remind myself lol
King_Salty
I am not currently on any medication, but I am looking for a new psychiatrist so I can try again, and sometimes I walk into a room and never remember why I walking into the room, so trust me I understand your struggle.
Taffy
My usual DM said the other day, said:
“Being able to teleport would be a sick power, but I’d end up having the “why am I in the kitchen again” on a much larger scale
I’d be in the middle of fucking Africa wondering why I went there to begin with”
And that’s a wild-ass thing to consider.
NGPZ
That’d actually make for a hella neat comic, hmmm…
SpaceDorf
This would also make for some very funny Star Trek Episodes
Or Stargate for that matter ..
Daibhid C
I thought it was called woking. But I guess if you used that word now, a whole bunch of people would be mad at you without looking at the context.
Taffy
You could always just explain what it means when you say it, instead of making up angry people.
Felian
This is why the best function my smartphone has is a button that lets me return to the previously used app!!
Sometimes i have to switch task for some urgent reason, and then i completely forgot what i was previously doing and want to get back to.
NGPZ
Same here bruh. Happens a LOT.
To make matters worse, I can’t even get Ritalin in California anymore. ?
UrsulaDavina
That really sucks that you can’t get the meds you need hopefully you and your doctor can find an alternative.
NGPZ
CA seems to be hit by the DEA’s callousness the hardest, ADHD meds of any kind aren’t available here at ALL. If only it were legal to have them delivered from other states.
Thankfully I got caffeine and select cannabis strains like Blue Hawaii to self-medicate, not quite as effective as Ritalin but they work for the time being. Thanks for sympathies bruh. ?
UrsulaDavina
Where you diagnosed during the pandemic by a telecom beacuse from what I have been reading the FDA relaxed prescription requirement ls during the pandemic which led to an uptake in perceptions, leading to the shortage and now the DEA has begun investigating one of the telehealth companies.
Not sure if this is the case in Cali but in NY my pyschraist switched back to in person visits . Is it possible for you to get an in person visit with a pyschtrist if you were diagnosed you can take that daignosis to another pyschrist. I don’t know if that helps.
NGPZ
Well that’s news to me, might be ableism in action tho. What was the telehealth company?
Unfortunately I cant do in-person, and regardless it wont change the fact that pharmacies are all out of ADHD meds. ?
Proxiehunter
You could also try a stimulant dose of kratom. The effect of one of those is why I’m going to talk to my psych about upping my Adderal dosage. Although I’m going to be telling her it was a few cups of what I thought was decaff but turned out not to be to avoid awkward conversations and the possibility of my adderal being taken away entirely since kratom is unfairly demonized.
UrsulaDavina
From what I can tell it all involves a Telecom mental Healthcare company based in California called Cereberal who was accused by a whistle blower that they where encourage to over prescribed ADHD medication during the pandemic when regulations on prescribing medication over telecom was loosened. Any way the DOJ has launched an investigation this kind might have had cascading effect it lookks like other telecom mental healthcare companies have stoped prescribing.
Kyrik Michalowski
Ah, I see. Thank you for explaining.
Vanessa
All this could have been said about Dorothy too. Maybe that’s all he knows about Lucy?
Angel
well socks i can understand but other than like crocs? maybe or open toed shoes/etc, i feel like you’d def notice/it would def feel diff /noticeable when you put them on but i guess someone like walky would be unbothered til it startedh urting his feet lol
HueSatLight
wait wait wait. I’m not sure what you mean by “socks I can understand”, have I been doing socks wrong my whole life?” is this going to be the can-opener all over again?
Angel
well, i guess there’s not much diff from left and right socks (unless you have like ‘toe’ socks i guess) but my parents always were uptight about me wearing mismatched socks and now ppl make mismatched patterns on purpose lol
Daibhid C
I have two pairs of “Feegle Feet” Discworld socks. A few weeks ago, I noticed I was wearing both the left ones, and it bugged me slightly. Although not enough to remember this before I noticed a few days later that I was wearing both the right ones.
I also used to have a pair of orange and green Odd Socks from Ireland. I always thought it would be fun to have two pairs of those and wear same-colour ones. It looks like your socks match but they actually don’t!
Slartibeast Button, BIA
I am told that there is a vitally important difference in if you put on both socks before you put on a shoe, or put one one sock and one shoe with the other foot bare.
One of these methods is used by all decent right-thinking people, and the other is used by unspeakably evil monsters determined on the corruption of all that is good and pure.
Sorry, I can never recall which is which.
a/snow/mous/e
What if you wear shoes without socks?
Slartibeast Button, BIA
People like that do not really exist, just like whats-her-name in the comic.
Inahc
you must have feet of steel.
Carla's #2 Fan
I know I normally just put on whichever sock unless the pattern is obvious (like something facing out)
Sirksome
This is already kind of painful to watch and nothing’s even happened yet.
Vanessa
It’s just the Dad so far, he is the good cop. But he seemed to like Amber quite a bit! Even not-terrible parents might have a hard time with the girlfriend carousel whiplash.
DaveM
It’s worth noting that the “good cop” in the good cop/bad cop routine is still not on your side, they’re just not as awful as the other one. That said, is it just me, or is Charles negging Walky’s commitment to Lucy in panel 4 (just like he was talking up Amber in private at their last meeting)?
Derek
I don’t think that’s the right use of “negging”, unless you mean to say Charles is intentionally putting down his own son with insults to it’s easier to break down his self esteem and make him more vulnerable to a bad relationship
Derek
*so
(instead of to)
DaveM
Yeah, I may be using the wrong term (dang you youngsters and your modern terms! 🙂 ). It’s just that Charles was being pro Amber at their last meeting, and now seems to be leading with that Walky isn’t “pro Lucy” at this meeting?
Like I said the thing to remember about the “good cop/bad cop” thing is that neither of them are on your side, and Charles has only been a “good cop” (or so far as we’ve seen) by being silent rather than actively supporting Linda.
Proxiehunter
Always remember the “good” cop in a good cop/bad cop routine is still a cop and it’s all a bit to make you confess to something. Whether you did it or not is irrelevant as long as you say what they want to hear. This is why you don’t speak to cops without a lawyer present to advocate on your behalf.
HueSatLight
and don’t get off guard if there’s only one cop, the Reid Technique does not require two.
Kyoulkoa
50 percent of the everytime.
Kyrik Michalowski
Huh, I don’t know what I expected, but friendly conversation is always a good sign. So maybe this won’t crash and burn.
Angel
I’m sure he’s mentally comparing her to amber, even without the racial element to it. But other than putting walky on the spot, i feel like it should be a sign to lucy if his dad has to point out “no other way to describe someone ur dating” lol
Sirksome
I don’t know if this means anything but the Walkman def had more energy introducing Amber.
‘ https://www.dumbingofage.com/2023/comic/book-13/04-but-dont-give-yourself-away/addicted/
I guess we can all read as much or as little as we want into that, but I think comparisons are inevitable.
AlexanderHammil
he was intentionally trying to tank their opinion of amber, and she wasn’t at all invested in making a good impression, so there was some latitude there. here walky has been bracing himself and lucy for a bunch of microaggressive racism, and he has an actual emotional investment in this not hurting lucy, so he’s a lot more muted.
thejeff
I’ve got a lot of sympathy for Walky there. I’ve never been at all good with articulating what I like about someone, especially when put on the spot. Even more especially when if was to parents and I had a complicated relationship with them.
It’s not necessarily a sign that you don’t really like them.
DailyBrad
Walky around his parents makes my anxiety flare up like a couch fire.
UrsulaDavina
He isn’t going to WVU though
Jo_cubstar
What is WVU?
UrsulaDavina
West Virgina University where excellence is learned and couches are burned.
Angel
It can’t be as bad as last time even tho walky planned it that way, despite ambers outburst being unintentional lol
thejeff
Counts more though, since Lucy actually is his girlfriend and Amber wasn’t.
Angel
dependso n how much walky chases after his parents approval now that sal ‘gave up’/doesn’t care anymore
Mr. Random
I’m genuinely interested in how Charles is going to navigate this.
He seems to like Amber more, specifically because of what she was willing to do, and I’m wondering how much that’ll affect him and Lucy.
Mano308gts
He’s right to like Amber more, in the context of potential girlfriends for Walky… Look at Walky’s interactions with her, especially his heated defense of her at the prior dinner, vs Walky’s interactions with Lucy.
Lucy&Walky is a ship that’s in dangerous shoals, and apparently without a captain nor crew aboard. It’s really only a miracle that it hasn’t sunk already, but it’s days seem fated.
Mr. Random
I disagree, Amber/Walky feeds into their worse qualities.
Lucy/Walky is both of them ignoring real issues too, but in a different way.
Angel
well he has joked about a polycule before so that owuld be interesting, it’s already awkward enough with his exes but imagine telling your parents you’re dating 3 other ppl, unless they’re very open minded i guess most ppl would be taken aback or stereotypically in the other way like “hell yeah my son’s got 3 women chasing after him” lol
Mark
I think he likes his son, wants to be supportive, and is trying to find the good in whoever David’s chosen to include in his life.
Sere
I think after his interaction with Sal he is going to desperately try and back up Walky so he doesn’t lose them both.
RassilonTDavros
Really really hoping we get a conversation between these three without Linda present. The only way either of his kids are ever gonna break through to him is if they can talk to him without Linda getting a word in edgewise.
Mark
+100
Yotomoe
For Quirdry Tawks
https://imgur.com/a/lms8fCN
Kyrik Michalowski
Well done, really like Sal’s hair and Japanese school uniform.
Cholma
Bravo!
Hoboturtle
Oh God damn!
10/10
Angel
nice, love the hair lol
Taffy
Most excellent.
Quirdry Tawks