It’s been 12:13 for me for a few months now? Is that just a me problem
Decidedly Orthogonal
Very not just you. There’s a de-synch and the backend DB/content server isn’t using NTP to keep the time correct. As a result, the web-page and comments etc.. all track at ~+12mins. And it’s getting worse.
it’d be safer to just fake a cramp but it’d be concerning if everyone started injuring themselves just to get jacobs attention (tho it would be a hilarious anectdote leading him to becoming a doctor instead of a lawyer or whatever)
No, but if someone already gave me the go ahead like Jacob already has to Sarah I might have more confidence to engage. Like he’a already into her, the hard part’s done.
I don’t think Jacob is into Sarah the way Sarah is into Jacob. To be honest I’m not sure he’s actually “into her” at all, he’s just comfortable talking to her and would like her to reciprocate. Maybe I’m wrong on that one, but he’s also said he’s not looking for casual sex (in front of Sarah in fact) and she’s said that’s specifically what she’s looking for- unless something has changed for one or both of them, there’s an incompatibility there. And Sarah knows it.
Sirksome
A lot has changed since he said that including just the passage of time. I don’t think Jacob has changed his stance on sex, but Sarah has changed something, since she didn’t think she deserved him after discovering his relationship expectations. Yet here she is going for it again. Even if Jacob isn’t specifically looking to date right now, he told her he wants to spend time with her as long as she’s open and respects him. That sounds like an in to me.
Proxiehunter
Just because he’s not looking for it doesn’t mean a thirsty young woman can’t hope he’ll find it. With her. A few times.
If it’s any consolation, people are incredibly bad at figuring out who is flirting. I vaguely remember a study where the subjects had to answer if somebody was flirting, Y/N, and people had worse than a 50% accuracy. Like, they’d have guessed more accurately by literally flipping a coin.
So you might as well just go for it, your crush won’t know for sure anyway.
(Unless, of course, you use my flirting method, which includes texting the person “I am totally flirting with you.” …We’re married now.)
This is the way to communicate people. Not games. Not, “what does it mean when boys or girls do ‘x’?” No. Being direct is both attractive, and easy to understand. This reduces misunderstandings and that reduces hurt feelings.
This is the way:
use my flirting method, which includes texting the person “I am totally flirting with you.”
Needfuldoer
Yes. Direct communication is key.
Otherwise I have no idea unless things drastically escalate.
I met my husband on a dating site. Our meeting up for the first time was me asking to take them out to dinner on Valentine’s Day. I was flirting as hard as my autistic face knew how and getting incredibly mixed signals back because their autistic face missed everything from “take you out to dinner on Valentine’s Day” on down.
I got to the point where I was just like “I WANT TO KISS YOU” and we worked it out. But yeah. People are bad at it. I don’t even want to guess how many signals I’ve missed over the years.
I am on the spectrum, and found this about myself after decades of what were missed signals. (Happy ending, though: My obtuseness to others’ signals didn’t include my now-wife’s.)
Yeah this! Romcoms and other fiction give is this sense that you can’t/shouldn’t just be straightforward with a partner/potential partner, but they have to do that because fiction needs conflict and if everyone just communicated clearly, the story would be over in 5 min.
But in real life, being straightforward is essential to any healthy relationship in the long run. Basically do the OPPOSITE of what they do in those “will they, won’t they” stories (unless it’s a story featuring Vulcans). My husband and I have always tried to be straightforward, open, and honest with each other. For example, the marriage proposal wasn’t a surprise cliffhanger, it was a calm mutual discussion that developed over time, and that’s pretty much how we do everything. It may not have the surprise drama of fiction, but IRL I much prefer calm and stability and clarity.
Autogatos
Also my relationship with my husband totally started with him telling me he was interested, and me bluntly and honestly responding that I was kind of interested in someone else but wanted to get to know him better as a friend for now and see how it went.
At this point he assumed I was letting him down easy with the “let’s just be friends” speech and I had to clarify that no, I too was being straightforward, and literally meant exactly what I said: that I just didn’t know him well enough to know if I could have feelings and was willing to spend time as friends for *now* and see where it went/if more developed (which it obviously did).
I think he found it refreshing because he wasn’t used to that level of upfront-ness from others. I know that’s certainly how I felt as well!
imo flirting is not limited to sexyromantic hopefuls (responding less to OP than to people making a distinction between flirting and “talking”)
maybe i want to be someone’s friend, if i’m feeling confident and approach them deliberately, that’s absolutely flirting, in the sense that i’m hoping to get them to like me (also, get to know them better and decide if i actually like them. sometimes after a bit of footsie they say something that makes me go nope nope nope)
Yes but no, in that I’ve gotten up the nerve to go talk to the person, but the planned statements do not come out in the right order and the interaction will turn out as more “baffling” than “flirting.”
Not if I’m attracted and seriously would want to ask them out. But I’ve been told I do it all the time, but then I’m just thinking that I’m just being a decent human being in wishing people a nice day. It feels good to see people to feel good, y’know?
I can understand wanting to be injured (within reason) but usually ppl use injuries as an excuse to get /out/ of a situation, not to have someone come to your rescue
My primary method of flirting is banter, which is *also* my primary method of engaging with friends, so I guess it depends on who you ask. XD
Tbh I don’t think there’s really one “right” way to flirt, because it’s always going to depend on the person you’re flirting *with* whether they take it as flirting, what they’re into, etc. I feel like a large part of dating is just finding a person who communicates relatively the same way you do.
People stress so much over trying to find the “right” way to do stuff like this but if you have to change your entire natural communication style (other than like…improving toxic/problematic communication habits) to get another person to understand you, they might not be the right partner for you anyway?
I mean sure, most of us have had a crush here and there where deep down we’re probably incompatible but we’re desperate to try to make it work anyway, but in my experience, one of the reasons my husband ended up becoming my husband was because communication was so easy for us from the start, even though it’s something I often struggle with as a neurotypical person.
125 thoughts on “Princess carry”
DarkoNeko
Less chatting more sporting !
DarkoNeko
We’re at 12 minutes now, ladies & gents & nonbins !
Kyrik Michalowski
I wonder how long the time buffer will get; I’m expecting it to be at 15 by April.
Thag Simmons
Willis does love a good buffer
Jo_Cubstar
It’s been 12:13 for me for a few months now? Is that just a me problem
Decidedly Orthogonal
Very not just you. There’s a de-synch and the backend DB/content server isn’t using NTP to keep the time correct. As a result, the web-page and comments etc.. all track at ~+12mins. And it’s getting worse.
Ana Chronistic
“Just drop the dumbbell on your foot”
“I can’t lift Joe!”
Dean
I’m pretty sure Joe is not the dumbbell in this situation.
Bryy
“MTG does it just fine!”
Pergola
Googles ‘MTG workout videos’.
Jamie
…why.
ktbear
Now youve got me curious.
Lysbeth
No no Joe is the dumb beau. Joyce is the dumb belle.
Ana Chronistic
Sarah disagrees!
Doctor_Who
What kind of friend won’t break your toe for you when you ask?
clif
The kind that is into pain and knows it will hurt more if they don’t.
shadowcell
Dumbing of Age Book 14: We Kiss! On the Mouth!
clif
That’s actually not bad.
Nono
Truly a dys-toe-pian society.
RassilonTDavros
It’s funny because the Evil Toe Man gets dead
drs
Toe-gies may rule!
NGPZ
LOVE Joyce’s tongue in last panel, is a treat ?
True Survivor
I noticed that. It’s fantastic!
John Campbell
That’s what he said!
clif
Oh, hush.
Proxiehunter
He being Joe.
V
It’s S Tier. Joyce is perfect to me.
StClair
it says that Joe’s argument is invalid.
drs
…that’s not the last panel
NGPZ
hahaha you right XD
Decidedly Orthogonal
It is if it’s the last panel you look at, because tongue…
Sirksome
I mean if he’s just offering free princess carries for toe injury victims you’d be a fool not to take the offer. That’s amazing value!
Angel
it’d be safer to just fake a cramp but it’d be concerning if everyone started injuring themselves just to get jacobs attention (tho it would be a hilarious anectdote leading him to becoming a doctor instead of a lawyer or whatever)
BBCC
Well yeah but she probably wore shoes. 😛
Kyrik Michalowski
Sarah, you can just go up to Jacob and talk to him.
I say this, but I can’t even follow my own advice. Anyone here have the courage to just go up to someone and start flirting?
True Survivor
Never
StClair
oh god no
EAG46
Talking like a normal person, maybe. Flirting? Never.
RassilonTDavros
Hahahaha NOPE!
Sirksome
No, but if someone already gave me the go ahead like Jacob already has to Sarah I might have more confidence to engage. Like he’a already into her, the hard part’s done.
Jason
I don’t think Jacob is into Sarah the way Sarah is into Jacob. To be honest I’m not sure he’s actually “into her” at all, he’s just comfortable talking to her and would like her to reciprocate. Maybe I’m wrong on that one, but he’s also said he’s not looking for casual sex (in front of Sarah in fact) and she’s said that’s specifically what she’s looking for- unless something has changed for one or both of them, there’s an incompatibility there. And Sarah knows it.
Sirksome
A lot has changed since he said that including just the passage of time. I don’t think Jacob has changed his stance on sex, but Sarah has changed something, since she didn’t think she deserved him after discovering his relationship expectations. Yet here she is going for it again. Even if Jacob isn’t specifically looking to date right now, he told her he wants to spend time with her as long as she’s open and respects him. That sounds like an in to me.
Proxiehunter
Just because he’s not looking for it doesn’t mean a thirsty young woman can’t hope he’ll find it. With her. A few times.
Qube
that would require Not Being Terrified, friend, and some things are simply too much to ask
Leorale
If it’s any consolation, people are incredibly bad at figuring out who is flirting. I vaguely remember a study where the subjects had to answer if somebody was flirting, Y/N, and people had worse than a 50% accuracy. Like, they’d have guessed more accurately by literally flipping a coin.
So you might as well just go for it, your crush won’t know for sure anyway.
(Unless, of course, you use my flirting method, which includes texting the person “I am totally flirting with you.” …We’re married now.)
Decidedly Orthogonal
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This is the way to communicate people. Not games. Not, “what does it mean when boys or girls do ‘x’?” No. Being direct is both attractive, and easy to understand. This reduces misunderstandings and that reduces hurt feelings.
This is the way:
Needfuldoer
Yes. Direct communication is key.
Otherwise I have no idea unless things drastically escalate.
ValdVin
(Writes I…am…totally…flirting…with…you in notebook.)
Jason
I met my husband on a dating site. Our meeting up for the first time was me asking to take them out to dinner on Valentine’s Day. I was flirting as hard as my autistic face knew how and getting incredibly mixed signals back because their autistic face missed everything from “take you out to dinner on Valentine’s Day” on down.
I got to the point where I was just like “I WANT TO KISS YOU” and we worked it out. But yeah. People are bad at it. I don’t even want to guess how many signals I’ve missed over the years.
ValdVin
I am on the spectrum, and found this about myself after decades of what were missed signals. (Happy ending, though: My obtuseness to others’ signals didn’t include my now-wife’s.)
That said, I really felt the first panel of this comic.
Autogatos
Yeah this! Romcoms and other fiction give is this sense that you can’t/shouldn’t just be straightforward with a partner/potential partner, but they have to do that because fiction needs conflict and if everyone just communicated clearly, the story would be over in 5 min.
But in real life, being straightforward is essential to any healthy relationship in the long run. Basically do the OPPOSITE of what they do in those “will they, won’t they” stories (unless it’s a story featuring Vulcans). My husband and I have always tried to be straightforward, open, and honest with each other. For example, the marriage proposal wasn’t a surprise cliffhanger, it was a calm mutual discussion that developed over time, and that’s pretty much how we do everything. It may not have the surprise drama of fiction, but IRL I much prefer calm and stability and clarity.
Autogatos
Also my relationship with my husband totally started with him telling me he was interested, and me bluntly and honestly responding that I was kind of interested in someone else but wanted to get to know him better as a friend for now and see how it went.
At this point he assumed I was letting him down easy with the “let’s just be friends” speech and I had to clarify that no, I too was being straightforward, and literally meant exactly what I said: that I just didn’t know him well enough to know if I could have feelings and was willing to spend time as friends for *now* and see where it went/if more developed (which it obviously did).
I think he found it refreshing because he wasn’t used to that level of upfront-ness from others. I know that’s certainly how I felt as well!
PirateTawnee
Flirting? No. Talking? Also no. Acknowledging their existence? Strike three, I’m out.
Bash
No, but I’ve flirted with someone attractive when I didn’t mean to.
Formerly Glenn
I did that once. Ended up getting a wife and two kids out of it.
milu
imo flirting is not limited to sexyromantic hopefuls (responding less to OP than to people making a distinction between flirting and “talking”)
maybe i want to be someone’s friend, if i’m feeling confident and approach them deliberately, that’s absolutely flirting, in the sense that i’m hoping to get them to like me (also, get to know them better and decide if i actually like them. sometimes after a bit of footsie they say something that makes me go nope nope nope)
lyzyrdwyzyrd
On purpose? No.
On accident? A few times.
Yumi
Yes but no, in that I’ve gotten up the nerve to go talk to the person, but the planned statements do not come out in the right order and the interaction will turn out as more “baffling” than “flirting.”
khn0
I used to, but it was before smartphones killed the possibility of topical attention, discussion and humor.
Taffy
Yes. I am incredibly smooth and it works every single time.
Needfuldoer
Of course you’re smooth, you’re Taffy.
EA West
Over confidence could lead to a sticky situation, though.
Decidedly Orthogonal
Not if I’m attracted and seriously would want to ask them out. But I’ve been told I do it all the time, but then I’m just thinking that I’m just being a decent human being in wishing people a nice day. It feels good to see people to feel good, y’know?
Angel
I can understand wanting to be injured (within reason) but usually ppl use injuries as an excuse to get /out/ of a situation, not to have someone come to your rescue
Autogatos
My primary method of flirting is banter, which is *also* my primary method of engaging with friends, so I guess it depends on who you ask. XD
Tbh I don’t think there’s really one “right” way to flirt, because it’s always going to depend on the person you’re flirting *with* whether they take it as flirting, what they’re into, etc. I feel like a large part of dating is just finding a person who communicates relatively the same way you do.
People stress so much over trying to find the “right” way to do stuff like this but if you have to change your entire natural communication style (other than like…improving toxic/problematic communication habits) to get another person to understand you, they might not be the right partner for you anyway?
I mean sure, most of us have had a crush here and there where deep down we’re probably incompatible but we’re desperate to try to make it work anyway, but in my experience, one of the reasons my husband ended up becoming my husband was because communication was so easy for us from the start, even though it’s something I often struggle with as a neurotypical person.
Hazel
You could probably get a princess carry for free, if you play your cards right.
Slartibeast Button, BIA
Now I am picturing some kind of dating sim card game…
khn0
made by Stephen KIng?
Angel
just offer to sit on top of him while he does pushups ;P
Thag Simmons
Jacob managing to be at all appealing to women with haircut that makes him look like he’s wearing a mop on his head is no mean feat
Leorale